anger spurts?

Question

How do i realease my anger in healthy doses and not allow it to boil up to a point where i just scream and shout and get all emotional?
I think i get very upset by waht people do/say to me at school and i cant really do anything about it but sit and listen (no i cant piss them off back more than i already am, and it dosnt seem to make any differnce anyway)
And when i get home on some occasions i just burst and...this isnt a little tantrum, its huge. I insult, i scream, i shout, i critizise.

People are so cruel at times, and i know even i am, but the problem is i cant take peoples critizism no matter how much i fight back, or say im hurt to their face!

please help im tired of having so many negative thoughts that turn into one big negative thought at the only way of getting rid of it is verbally!

Answer 1

I find that if you you do not internalize the anger it helps. Try not to take things personally. A controlled soft answer is more powerful than a violent outburst.
Do not expect people to act the way you think they ought to act.
Try to separate their actions from who they are.
If you feel like you are going to "go off" remove yourself from the situation for awhile.
Always be prepared for people to "set you off".

Answer 2

Dear Friend,

First of all realise that you are not the only one with this problem.Many people suffer this treatment, seething inside.I too used to.
Reasons:We grew up in an environment, where expressing emotions freely was not allowed. If we had been allowed to express ourselves freely as a child, we would do so in a healthy way when we grow older. Plus the repressions and putdowns from callous adults.

But remember, they are also victims.A person who has received kindness can give kindness.We are all victims of victims.(Louise L Haye)

Now, how to resolve this situation so that you can smile with a light heart again.
You need to get your emotions out, without hurting yourself or others.How to do this ?

1.Punching bag option : Join a martial arts class or get a punching bag and punch all your anger on it.But I donot think this will cure the problem.A temporary venting.
2.Free Writing: Take paper and pen or type on a computer.Seclude yourself for 15 minutes everyday and let loose all your thoughts.Do not think of right or wrong, grammar, punctuation, meaning, spelling, logic, sentence construction, taboos, nothing.
Just write.non stop for 15 minutes.
Write whatever comes to your hand.
You will feel considerable lightness in your heart afterwards.
Oftn taboo thoughts, anger and all kinds of **** may come out.You can write them down for SOME TIME.
If, after many sessions, there is a tendency to write negative thoughts, you will do this:
When negative thoughts start coming, write: "Why am I feeling this way? " Over and over.
Do not judge yourself for anything. Do not criticise yourself. Accept yourself.Accept your feelings.They are quite normal.
It will take some time.Take care to remove the private thoughts that you had written. Others need not be tolerant.
You are a unique human being with your own beauties, that you will know only when you accept and love yourself. I t does not matter if others understand you.Your innate goodness never changes.
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Answer 3

Heres a suggestion...there is obvious pain your feeling emotionally...it comes from a feeling of "something is not right with this situation" what you believe that should be happening and what your experiencing is not in line with that belief, is a upsetting thing... and you may have even felt worse off after having you full fledged anger burst...because you've done the very thing you don't want happening...My suggestion is this...look at the situation in your mind and put a little distance from it and you... as if your looking down on it from a distance...then examine the different feelings you have...contemplate the feelings the others are having...then allow yourself to be forgiving of yourself and others if there a lack of complete understanding...and allow yourself to be completely angry at whats a obvious blantant wrong...but at the same time do it from the distance you create in your mind...if something is wrong say it is wrong (make sure you truly believe it though)...if you can change it...do change it...if not ...then be content you either made the effort to correct a wrong...or thought it through enough to realize you couldn't and decided to not make it worse (and frustrating yourself)!!! Hope this has been helpful...Spiritwalk777

Answer 4

Maybe you can learn other Anger Management techniques. A good video series is Be Cool! by Stanfield Films.