What should I do in an abusive relationship?

Question

Yesterday, my boyfriend had this huge fight with me over me not answering his phone which I didn't hear the phone ringing. He kept shouting expetives to me on the phone. He told me to pack up and go home. I was cohabiting with him. After which, we reached home. He was throwing my stuff and he kicked my laptop really hard twice. I wanted to take his things but he pushed me and I almost fell. I then slapped him and he punched me on my nose. I started crying and his parents saw it. He's totally changed. He could still laughed at me when I was holding on to my nose and even slapped me on my arm saying sorry like he just stepped on my feet. I feel so hurt and I have no one to turn too. I'm currently staying at his house under the care of his parents but he's not here because I don't want my mum to see this. I kept having flashbacks of this incident and I feel really awful. I have no one to turn too also. He wasn't like this previously. I feel so hurt just thinking back of the good old times

The reason why I never want to see the police is because his parents really helped me. They sent me off to the hospital in the middle of the night and really took care of me. They were the ones who stood up for me despite the fact that it was their son. Only son. They shouted at him and I really think that for them, they are hurt too. He just messaged me to tell me sorry like how he used too. But it's all Bullshit.

I am just appalled by how he changed after the influence of one friend of his. He wasn't like that before.

Answer 1

You need to leave him ASAP. Once a man lays a hand on you..he loses respect. Please hun, you got to leave now before it gets worse...and it will...believe me.

I was in a abusive relationship. I kept on forgiving him. Its funny because they cry and ask for forgiveness...we eventually think that that's it..he's changed back to being "good..but the truth is that he WONT change. I know this is not what you want to hear. You probably want to hear that it was his friend who influenced him, but its not. A man should NEVER EVER lay a hand on a woman.

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Answer 2

First things first get out of there! Go find a women's shelter, the police when you report this incident which you ARE GOING TO DO, will help you find a safe place to live. Tell your mum, she's not going to be pleased with you , but she's going to be even angrier with the boy and his parents.

The fact that his parents witnessed this attack and DID absolutely nothing to stop it or intervene on your behalf should give you a pretty good indicator how he's been raised and what kind of idiots raised him.

Leave the sob , you'll be far better off . Don't buy his sweettalk that it will never happen again, it will.

Get help for your low self -esteem issues, including discovering why you chose someone like him .

But get out before he does more than bloody your nose!

Answer 3

You need to get away from him for a long while. you need to move home, or move in with a friend. He won't see things clearly until he has to. Losing you would help. You might want to relook at your relationship too, people change and they don't change back. So holding on to the past isn't a good way to go. If a man can hit you in the nose and then laugh like it's no big deal, he is having dangerous issues you shouldn't be around.

Answer 4

Maybe he's in denial to admit how abusive he was to you, and so he just thinks that you guys would forget everything if you can just laugh it off. That won't happen.

I think that it's hard for someone to change their abusive ways. If your boyfriend did all that to you because you didn't pick the phone, then something's quite wrong. Your boyfriend can be awesome and all, but if he's abusing you, then you should leave. Things are bound to get worse if you stick around with him and he doesn't do anything to fix his problems, since he pretends that it wasn't such a big thing.

Answer 5

Get away from him now! If he'll do it once, he'll do it again if he loses his temper. You deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. He needs some help and you need to move in with a friend or go home or anywhere other than with him. Save yourself a lot of pain and possibly injury and get him out of your life. This isn't the past, this is how he is in the present and don't forget that. You teach people how to treat you by what you accept from them. Don't let him hurt you again!

Answer 6

There is no way that you should put up with anything from him boyfriend or not best thing you can do is dump this prick and if he harasses you any further get an injunction against him. You like any normal human being deserve so much more.

Answer 7

I'm happy to see that his parents are not excusing his behavior but you need to leave him now. It will only get worse, it never gets better. It starts with a push,or slap and ends up escalating. He says he is sorry but that's only until he does it again. Please get out now while you still can!

Answer 8

Once an abuser, always an abuser - zero tolerance for this crap, Sweetie. No matter how much he begs, cries, and pleads that he'll never do it again, he will. Save yourself a lifetime of abuse. Get out, get out now, and don't look back.

Answer 9

LEAVE HIM FOR GOOD!Dont wait till its too late and never suffers and tolerates in silence.Tell someone u trust or go for immediate help or counselling before he hurt u again..Good Luck

Answer 10

get the hell out of there.go to ur mom and explain it.he is a aggressive man.