I do not want my sister to attend our step whores funeral. She ran off with our father, and the 2 of them raised her children and had one together. They lived in a big house,went to college,never sent child support, holiday gifts,zero acknowledgement to the 3 of us.I have zero respect for them, and anyone who does this. I feel my sister should not show honor by attending the funeral of a selfish,thoughtless,whore!! Your opinion?
2007-05-26 02:08:41 · 14 answers · asked by sandra b 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I tend to agree with you Sandra. If a person doesn't earn your respect during life then why should they have it shown in death?
2007-05-26 02:14:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
If anyone did not see her while she was alive why would they want to see her dead? Unless someone really wants to make sure that she is really gone?? If the woman was not part of your lives and showed no respect to be there all those years or to acknowledge you and your sister......I would not go. What purpose would there be in it? Her children will be there and may have great things to say about her and your dad and it will only further hurt your sister. I would move on without this.... just the way your step whore did on the lives of you and your sister and not let this bother me just as it did not bother her to be there for you! She is gone and won't even know that your sister is there anyway! best wishes sweetie.
2007-05-26 10:08:12 · answer #2 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a most unfortunate truth for many kids in today's society. It must be very difficult for you to deal with the cold hard facts but it sounds as if you are definately not in denial about the situation. However, your sister might view this funeral as the close to a most unfortunate situation. Perhaps going to the funeral will give her a chance to make internal peace about the situation. Also, it is the first step in healing. I say that she should go and so should you...not necessarily to pay your respects, but to find closure and to leave the past in the past. There is no way to undo the damage caused here by your father and his wife, but, there is a way to move on and maybe this is it.
2007-05-26 14:28:26 · answer #3 · answered by mzadamz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that is how you feel, don't go. However, you shouldn't judge your sister if she wants to go. If you put her in a position of being loyal to you and sorting out her feelings for other family members, then you are being selfish. Love your sister regardless of her choice. Just as you wouldn't want to be forced to attend the funeral, she may not want to be forced to stay away.
2007-05-26 09:14:06 · answer #4 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Now while you have a reason to be ticked off, and a good reason at that, it's your sister's choice to go to the funeral. Maybe she feels it allows closure. Maybe she wants time with her dad or to connect withthat part of your family. Whatever her reason, don't start a rift with your sister over seeing this woman laid to rest. It's not worth it.
2007-05-26 16:41:04 · answer #5 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is your sister decision to go. You need not make her feel guilty because she is going to pay her respects. We should forgive those to do us wrong, because it will eat you up on the inside and make your like miserable. As long as you allow someone to make you feel this way, then they have total control over your life.
2007-05-26 14:36:41 · answer #6 · answered by Krinta 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
people attend funerals for other reasons than to 'honor the dead'...sometimes they attend just to appease themselves that that person is really dead.
you should not try to influence your sister's decisions...if she wants to go, you should keep your mouth shut about it...just because you feel this way does not mean that you should shove your feelings off on your sister...let her be, she owes you NO explanation
2007-05-26 09:27:48 · answer #7 · answered by uranus2mars 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to not go. But, this is something your sister needs to decide on her own, without you manipulating her. So, do keep your thoughts to yourself and understand that she may have liked her stepmother on her own terms. Respect your sisters wishes.
2007-05-26 09:22:34 · answer #8 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if she wants to go then that's fine, but you dont have to go. I hate my stepmom to and when she dies, sh*t I wont go and all of my other sisters will b/c there relationship was lets say different. But just be happy to know that the WITCH IS DEAD!!
2007-05-26 20:21:16 · answer #9 · answered by Telly-Of-War 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's really up to her. if she wants to forgive and forget, let her. don't turn your back on her. you don't have to go to the funeral. but if she decides to go respect her decision and don't make her feel bad about it.
2007-05-26 09:15:46 · answer #10 · answered by fungirl 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you know i think you should go, for nothing than to ask your father why to all the things he did.even if he does not answer you you will know you at least opened the door so to speak.then go on with your life knowing at least you tried.
2007-05-26 09:17:26 · answer #11 · answered by lostchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋