I used to have some really super close friends that I could depend on for anything and felt totally comfortable with--we kind of split before h.s grad. and since, I haven't felt that same kind of closeness and security--it has been 4 years now--and I feel so isolated and I'm finally pursuing my dream career--going to college for what I really want to do and I'm finding out that nothing is worth it all unless I have close friends to enjoy it with. I've moved a long ways from home--thought I could start over in a new place--I used to be so obsessed with money and material things, and I finally get it--that none of it matters if you can't enjoy it with people that give your life meaning. I want to have a relationship--I haven't ever really dated before--just flings--I had a really close guy friend in h.s.--It was comforting to be around someone that knew you so well--and totally lifted you up with support and motivation. I've felt lost since and can't experience that kind of high.
2007-05-25 23:15:42 · 7 answers · asked by surfer chica 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I say you should approach life evey day to see how things will turn out. Make ome new super duper friends. It is great to feel close to your old firends. Material possesions like you said should not be used just for feeling sorry for yourself. I say you should get outside and make some new friends. The more friends you have the less depressed you will feel. You have moved out and now you have a "clean slate." Do your favorite activities alone or with your friends. If you are intrested in college you can learn a great deal about subjects and even meet that speacial someone. Sieze the day or on might be gone by the day's end. Enjoy your life! Don't take drug or smoke if some people say there your firends and ask you to smoke or drink they are not your firends. I hope you will take thhis advice really seriously.
2007-05-25 23:32:18 · answer #1 · answered by Home Dogg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will go through stages like this in your life. After high school people tend to drift apart and go their separate ways with college or work to focus on. It sounds like you've already learned an important lesson about the really important things in life and that's great. Look at each stage in your life as a new adventure and an opportunity to meet new people and experience different things.It's great that you are following your dream. That in itself should be your focus right now. You will meet some new people and make new friends.....it may take a little time. Maybe you should join some study groups or organizations that you could get involved in and meet new people. Your life is just beginning so try to take things one day at a time, follow your dream, reach for your goals and be your true self. You will begin to enjoy life again! Good luck to you.
2007-05-26 00:04:14 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont have the answer, but I can tell you what Saddartha Guatama did. He was a rich man who was born into a family of wealth. His father locked him away in his giant mansion so that he would not be influenced by outside pressures. When Saddartha became a man he decided to leave the mansion against his fathers wishes. On his first day he went out a door facing east and ran into an old man who was about to die. This was the first time he had ever seen death and he was horrified. The next day he went out the door to the south and saw a pregnant woman in labor. The pain she was going through shocked him. The third day he went to the west and ran across a starving child. On the fourth day he went North and while he was out he saw an old man with a bowl for begging. The old man radiated happiness and content. He had nothing, yet he was happier than anyone Suddartha had ever seen. So, Suddartha then found out four noble truths. Life is pain, Life is suffering, suffering and pain are caused by want, give up wanting and stop suffering.
2016-03-12 23:59:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to be in a position to truly enjoy life, one must first make sure why they have life in the first place.
Ask yourself - Do I believe I am a product of evolution or do I believe I am the product of design by a Creator - God? I say this because your answer will determine how you will choose to live your life.
If you are not accountable to anyone, i.e., any higher being, then you selfishly get to choose what brings you joy. You are then only accountable to the law of the land in which you reside.
On the other hand, if you believe in an Almighty God, then it is obvious that a major key to your happiness depends on you doing the will of God. Therefore, discover what the will of God is and do it.
If you believe in creation, please note the words of God's son recorded at Matthew 7:21-27.
2007-06-02 13:44:26 · answer #4 · answered by kingdomsower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother drummed this into us. If you want good friends you got to be a good friend first.Friendship to me is very special from this teaching.My friends go back in time with me.I have made new friends but there is deep bond between my childhood friends and the friends I made on my way into adulthood.
There is another road from here. We got to get away from the I and Me syndrome . Do some volunteering and you will meet a different group people and this will spice your life .The high will come when you start sharing your time for others. Back to my grandmother to get love you got to give love.The high point of this will you appreciate it when love falls in your lap or would you wait for better things to come.
2007-06-02 15:07:15 · answer #5 · answered by thumba 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may try to ask a serious question in your life. For example, if I don't have to worry about money, what kind of things should bring me joy if I do it? Start career with bring you joy the most. Be value-driven. Then, you will draw friends and acquaintances with similar interests. If you are value-driven, you will not be attached to particular someone. You will draw a lot of friends who have the same values and interests and you will not be lonely because even if someone walk away from your life, there will always be someone who have the same values walk in. Cheers!!
2007-05-26 00:05:10 · answer #6 · answered by Weerapat P. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow- what do you have to offer in a relationship? Do things you enjoy- become a person who follows her dreams and goals and you will become more interesting, rather than going on and on about your own internal mental trips, learn to listen to what others have to say and appreciate people for all of the different ways they are individual.
2007-06-02 05:14:13 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋