I have a girlfriend, I am miserable because she is frigid sexually. What should I do?

Answer 1

She promised, I waited... she dumped me and went out with a 6'4 black guy with a girlfriend and macked out on affection from him. Not to say its the same situation in the least, but staying with her begs the question "does she love me?". I'm a lot happier now, I found someone who could understand/love me for who I am and not hold back her feelings/change her life for me. But at the same time I stayed in the relationship with the other a year just because I loved her.....

But it might be your insecuritys that go off on her or her insecuritys that go off on you. Either way eventually you guys will come to a impass of either love or hate. I did, it was hard... we chose hate, I don't speak to her at all anymore. But i still love her everyday and want to just hold her hand and say sorry.

Perhaps your real question isnt wether shes "sexual" or not, but wether or not you really do love her enough to give her time and patience. Wether shes able to trust you enough, and wether your able to trust her.

Either way I stayed in it for 2 years. And the last 9 months where just complete and total insecurity on her part. She said she wanted to date around, I told her goodbye. She got upset because she idolized me as a "good guy" who was "really nice" and "sweet". But she needed more in someone she wanted to be with, she needed complete and totally un-commited and mutual affection....

She could never get that from someone so important in her life, she had to think too much. But each situation speaks for itself - your own morals and values will teach you whats right.

I'll tell you one thing, I don't regret those two years. I loved her, she made me insecure in every-way and I had to get over that, but I loved her more than anything. Just try harder to make her happy tho, and don't ask for things... Goodluck.

Answer 2

What are you not doing here? She's not frigid one bit. She's a freak and you just aren't able to bring that out of her. You need to because she's got something you've never had before. Don't leave her or have sex with anyone else. Just work on bringing that side of her out. Once it's out, it's stays out. And you will have wonderul, fulfilling, daily sex for years to come. With head at the drop of a dime. Maybe she's acting frigid because she doesn't know what you'll think if she all of a sudden just has all these freaky tendencies and is giving you miles of pleasure and doing all the right things.

Answer 3

Don't be so judgemental. People are different. There is obviously something that you like about her other than her sexuality otherwise you wouldn't have her as your girlfriend in the first place. Also, girls are not like guys. Girls generally take their time, and guys want it all the time. It's a delicate balance, so get used to it as that balance is one you will deal with no matter who you are with.
Maybe you haven't found what she likes. Maybe you are not being affectionate enough. Who can say? But either way, respect her and talk it through.

Answer 4

"There are no frigid women, just poor lovers." This has been the wisdom for ages. Spend time on foreplay. Court her during the day and let her know you care when you are not trying to have sex. If you are not good to her and are inconsiderate during the day, she has no inspiration to want to get physical at bedtime. Or anytime. Look to yourself for the answer to her problem.

Answer 5

Very vague question. Need a little more background in order to try to give any decent advice.

Answer 6

There are no frigid women, just men who are pathetic lovers.

Answer 7

Why is this question under Marriage and Divorce?

Answer 8

Get rid of her bro...itsj ust gonna ruin the relationship trust me!!! Youre not married either ....run like hell

Answer 9

Get a new one.