I mean I still love her, though it was a horrible break up with me being in Iraq and her sleeping with another man. But lately she has been spending a lot of time with this new man and has told me that she missed me. My passion, my love. I really don't know what to do. I don't know if things would even change.
2007-05-25 20:57:48 · 12 answers · asked by Bartleby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you love her & can forgive her for what she did, then stay with her, but tell her that if she misses you & if she really loves you then she should be at home with you, in your arms, NOT with this other guy. She's evil for cheating on you, especially while your in Iraq. She's not a good wife at all. You should make sure she will change before taking her back & make her take an STD, HIV/AIDS Test too. What a whore she is, I would NEVER, EVER do that to my hubby.
2007-05-25 21:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love her, really love her? Do you want your marriage, a better marriage? Then tell her so. Are you still in Iraq? Discuss it when you get home. If not, tell her you need her to seek counseling with you to find out if she really has 'your best interest at heart'....which is a major part of being in love. Love is not selfish, thinking of her loneliness and need for affection and sex only. You had to wait just as she should have waited. Real love does that for you automatically. There is still hope, only slim that she just made a big mistake; but, will you ever be able to trust her again to be faithful in your future absences? Do you have kids involved? If not, just go with gut feeling and be prepared to be disappointed again if she fails.
IT WILL BE HARD GOING IN THE NEXT FEW YEARS---EVEN IF ALL GOES WELL. You will have mental doubts every time you are away from her. LOVE DOES CONQUER ALL...BUT IT TAKES TWO GIVING 100%.
Ask her if things have changed with the new guy, or has she just felt you are a better catch? Her answer will tell you if she has a selfish love, only thinking of what she needs and wants. She needs to 'prove' that she has your best interest at heart. Good Luck.
2007-05-25 21:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 19:56:52 · answer #3 · answered by luci 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have kids with this woman, I suggest you leave her anyway. If you have kids then go to therapy and take it step by step with no promises. Once a cheater always a cheater. How are you suppose to trust this woman?! Even if you love her you will always wonder where she is?, what she's doing?, or if she's cheating on you with another man?. I say its best to leave things the way they are. I was engaged with this guy and he wanted me back but I never go over the fact that he cheated on me one to many times, even though we both care for each other. Sometimes its best to let things go in order to move forward and be happy with somebody else.
2007-05-25 21:20:52 · answer #4 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her and think that you both can really work this out then go back. It will take alot of hard work for you to trust her again. She might even have trust issues with you because she has cheated.
I would advise that if you really love her, that you tell her to leave that guy, and start to go to counseling with you. Do not get back with her, or have sex with her. Start off real slow. Then, if you think that things can work, after all of this, then go back to her. You should try if you are really still in love with her even though she has done some things that are almost beyond repair.
2007-05-25 21:03:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, so you're away getting shot at and she opens her legs up for another guy? Great wife material! (note the heavy sarcasm)
Hang in there, you don't need a false, heartless person like that.
Find a good woman who will stand by you and support you even when you're 1000s of miles away.
2007-05-25 21:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She misses your passion and your love? So what! Apparently, she did not and does not love you enough to be faithful to you in a very hard absence that thank God you survived.
2007-05-25 21:29:52 · answer #7 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you ever really trust her again? Marriage has to be based on trust. You will be always wondering if she is being true to you. Not a very good way to be married.
2007-05-25 21:02:48 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she cheated on you, she isnt worth it!
but if you really want her, then perhaps you shld give her another chance...
2007-05-25 21:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by Ruby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave it in Gods hands
2007-05-25 21:02:21 · answer #10 · answered by STALKER BLOCK 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋