have tons of guys asking u out? he knows people in wheelchairs who have gotten married so why would he say that? should i ditch him as a friend
2007-05-25 18:37:29 · 15 answers · asked by boo 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ People with Disabilities
he also said hed go out with any girl that asked him
2007-05-25 19:06:27 · update #1
I would still be friends with him if he could mind his own buisness.I had a friend set me up with a girl once and we both had a terrible time and I told my friend that we could be friends but dont set up my dates.
2007-05-25 18:45:14 · answer #1 · answered by Jim C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your friend is not being too sensitive towards you. That was a not so nice comment. Of course people in wheelchairs have relationships and married. People in wheelchairs are not diff than those who can walk. Has he said such things in the past? if so i would let him go. have you tried talking to him and tell him that that does not help you in anyway? does not matter if you have no guys or tons of guys asking you out, if you say u do not like the guy, well he should have just respected that. like somebody Else said, just do not let him set you up. As long as he does not keep making comments like that, i say try to work things out with him. wish you the best of luck.
2007-05-25 18:47:57 · answer #2 · answered by carriec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh! :( Don't ditch him as a friend unless he's been a jackass for a long time. You said he's a good friend; he should listen to you. Not try to put you down. Tell him how hurtful that is to say; I don't care if you're in a wheelchair, or not. That was a callous remark and he needs to know that you don't appreciate it. Be honest and if he doesn't straighten up, put him on a ship and send him out to "sea ya later."
2007-05-25 18:46:30 · answer #3 · answered by I vote Capt. America 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
without reading some of the others answers to see what attitude they have toward your question, this is how i understood your question.........
your question to me sounds like your friend has a friend in a wheelchair and you don't want to date him because you don't like the guy, but it sounds to me because the guy is in a WHEELCHAIR. why not try to get to know the guy better as an individual PERSON not a DISABLED PERSON.
first of all it is hard being disabled and people cannot get past our WHEELCHAIRS. people need to realize our wheelchairs are like their feet, it is used to get around.
so look past the guy's wheelchair and look at the guy, oh yea, DON'T give up a friend because he tried to set you up with that guy in a wheelchair.
do you complain about not having dates, maybe he sees two people who don't date often and figured why not give it a try.
heck you don't have to call it a date, you can call it having a meal, or cup of coffee with a friend and do it dutch (pay for your own meal or drink). let the dating part fall in place on it's own.
best of luck
2007-05-26 07:42:55 · answer #4 · answered by sister cool breeze 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an insensitive brat. If he is a good friend towards you, then fine. Maybe he's concerned and wants you to be in a relationship. Talk to him about him needing to understand you have diff. tastes in guys. Better yet, why don't the two of you pick out guys that you like and he gives an opinion?
If he is really an brat, ditch him.
2007-05-25 19:52:30 · answer #5 · answered by Quonx. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO...don't ditch him. Good friends are hard to gain. My guess is that he was trying to be a help to you. Let him know how you feel about this whole situation. Just let it go. Like others have said, be lenient on him. But if he is persistent with trying to hitch you up to get married then just back off a little.
2007-05-28 08:32:27 · answer #6 · answered by JuliaMarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg/.. i think he is trying to help but don't fully understand.. people that are not in wheel chairs well never understand.. before i became a driver for the handicapped i always thought that if you were disable your life was over or limited.. but when i started driving them around.. i found out that some of the handicapped people had better jobs than i did.. they made more money.. and they never felt sorry for them selves..i gained so much respect for them those 9 months i was driving them around.. they showed so much courage and they never let anything get them down.. there was a man with cp who had to use a pencil in his mouth because he had no motor skills. in his hands or arms.. he worked for prudential life .. he put a pencil in his mouth and type that way..a girl with cp who was a cousler at school and one who owned his own business....and there were people i knew who had no disability and were on ssi and welfare..don't dump him but instead make a rule not setting each other up with dates..
2007-05-27 15:08:02 · answer #7 · answered by vis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My guess is he was saying this as a joke. Not a nice joke, but a joke. If you haven't dated a lot maybe this is his way of just getting you out there so other people have the chance to see you out with others guys and be seen as dateable. (Not a bad idea to be honest if you don't get out much.)
2007-05-26 16:02:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. be .lenient with him. It is better to have him understand.
I suppose what he meant was you should not be picky, But who has tons of guys asking them out unless they are very free with their bodies. And who would marry them?
2007-05-26 09:48:33 · answer #9 · answered by coconutisle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, friends are precious. If he is a real friend, he will understand, but you apparently will have to give it to him straight.
Able-bodied people do not understand and think you should be grateful for that date. But if you don't want that date, you don't want it, and that's that. Just explain to him.
2007-05-26 06:26:55 · answer #10 · answered by CarlisleGirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋