Is monogamy a myth?

Question

It just seems a little bizarre to me that with so many people on the planet, we are expected to follow through with what seems to be a cultural trend. I mean, I've fallen in love before and have seen myself spending a very long time committed to this person, but for the rest of my life? Honestly, shouldn't we try to fall in love with as many people as possible(even if it's in a non-sexual way)? It's funny because my parents have been married for 25 years and they are happy, but monogamy seems so unreal to me at the moment. What if it's not made for everyone? In my opinion, the only valid reason to explain why people should be monogamous is because I know 99.999% of people believe that being "unfaithful" is wrong, making it a form of disrespect. Like many people, i'd be upset if my partner were to cheat only because I know that most likely he wouldn't do it to try to "love everyone." But what if this idea became the cultural trend? Then what? What do you guys think about monogamy?

Answer 1

It would seem that human beings are not a monogamous species by nature. In point of fact, I have asked many people would they sign a contract to have the same job, live in the same house, drive the same make of car or eat the same food forever. They all were horrified at the thought, but yet would blithely sign their lives away to love, honor and cherish the same person forever, death do us part, etc. The real question is does love have anything to do with sex? I am here to tell you it does not. People serve different purposes in each other's lives. The right tool for the right job. You cannot use a screwdriver to hammer a nail, etc. There are people that make you laugh when you are down, but cannot be depended upon to do anything but that. The thing is can someone be expected to tell their potential husband or wife that they may occasionally have sex with other people to relieve the sameness? I do not think it would be cheating if they admitted this. There are far too many rules in this life that no one could even hope to follow.

Answer 2

Monogamy is good for families. More stability is good for children. If you don't plan on having children and can stick to single men, you can probably do what every your personal morality dictates, as long as you consider sexually transmitted diseases. Sex isn't recreation.

If you want to talk to men about monogamy, some aren't for it. They want to be married and have a family but also want to go after any woman that's willing. Again, personal morality dictates the action.

Due to cultural and religions "taboos", I don't think monogamy is going to go out of style. Here's a suggestion: Make your own style based on your own personal values and don't let "society" dictate to you what you should do. I think that's called being a "sheep". Just be sure you can live with your decision and you aren't messing up someone else's life in the process. That's called maturity.

Answer 3

Perhaps a quaint idealization of relationship?? Some folks can't stand the idea that their mates might find an hour of fun with someone else, others couldn't care less. I don't think that either condition says anything about the relationship..just parameters OF the relationship. IN fact, it might say more about security if a couple has an open relationship....I have no opinion on the subject. I do have concerns about disease being brought into the bed. Other than that, I think what other people do in their bedrooms is their business, and truthfully, I don't ask and they don't tell. Works for me.

Answer 4

Monogamy is definitely not a myth. It should be practiced more often. You know how people say to wait for that special someone? well, FORGET THAT!!!!!!!! Go find your special someone. Being married to one person is the best. You can fall in love with as many people as you want but in the end you'll end up wanting and needing one person, that special person especially destined to be with you. If your parents managed to stay together for 25 years then that just proves my point. Maybe nowadays people are practicing polygamy but that definitely does not mean Monogamy is a myth. I hope this helps. Thanks!!

Answer 5

We are culturally conditioned to find one partner and mate. There are people who don't think we should do that. It's against our "natural impulses" but really if we can't control our impulses then we might as well be animals. Finding one partner gives us a better shot at raising healthy children, not because we can't spread the genes around but for protection and stability. If you don't want to do the long-term monogamy thing that is okay just say that upfront and everyone will be okay.

Answer 6

great subject with great answers
and the recent news of decline in divorce rates ( only because there is a decline in marriage rates, so in effect it's a wash, the divorce rate is still effectively 50% )
with more and more singles ( marriage on the decline and single now out numbers married couple in US ) fidelity to one another indeed may one day become a myth
and who can blame them
men are realizing there is no benefit to married
( you can have children outside of marriage and not suffer a legal binding contract )
especially when the feminist laws enacted to extract money in the event of a divorce with no repercussions or admission of fault, such no fault divorce laws have given pause to those thinking of getting married and the thought of lifelong commitments with the associated costs ( children, housing, finances ) makes the argument against for long term monogamy. the deterioration of traditional family roles further erodes the argument of monogamy. we as a society have abd will continue to pay a price for such societal experimentation

Answer 7

It's not a myth, but here's the secret to it your parents should have told you!
SEX is not everything, and when you realize that you can build your life with someone you love!

My sister tried swapping in here marriage Bragged about how it made the marriage better then ever!

Well her husband left her after 26 years of marriage and exposed their secret to courts!
He got custody she lost everything and now he's married a 29 year old woman and he's 50!

Monogamy is not a myth, it's a form of love, promising to keep yourself for one person!
HOW CAN THAT BE A LIE?

Answer 8

Monogamy is overrated. blame religion for brain washing us to think that is morally wrong to love more than one person. men and women have practice polinomy and incest since the beginning of time (otherwise how did the sons and daughters on adam and eve had sex with?) ghosts? aliens? umm....

this all comes down to the church and religion creating laws to civilized the barbaric cultures of our ancestors. I'm not saying that there shouldn't be moral standards but they must be realistic. all this non sense about jesus , god etc. is B.S.

religion expect us to fall rules that were established for a society of 2000 years ago, although they have modified them to try to keep with the times. they are a joke and unrealistic. like seriously men will never be faithful to one women (keep dreaming or believing that) sooner or later we will cheat, that's a fact. if you are realistic and know that your men or women can't be faithful then life will be less complicated.

and that's the way i see it.

Answer 9

ever hear the phrase "the seven year itch". there is a period of time when all the cells in your body will be replaced by new ones. this just happens to be seven years. the theory is that when the very last cell in your body dies off, the "memory" of your so called "love" dies with it.
besides the fact that male animals are programmed to reproduce as many times as possible, to ensure the future of the species. people (men) are basically dumb animals when it comes to sex.

Answer 10

Yes because as i always say men are only as loyal as their options. Women might stay faithful but very few red blooded men will. And too the wise person who posted "we might as well be animals"...we actually are classified as animals numbnuts.