we both work fulltime and split the bills 50/50.I work 8 hours a day 5 days a week.she works 10 hours a day and 4 days a week.she always has friday off(3 day weekend).I think since shes off she should do the cleaning and grocery shopping on friday.she feels we should do it together on the weekend.i just think she should do it since she has the day off.
2007-05-25 17:44:09 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She should do it. Women are supposed to take care of their men. I know I'll offend a lot of people by saying this, but it's honestly how I feel. Men are lousy housekeepers anyway, so women are better off doing it.
2007-05-25 18:02:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
First of all you are in the wrong category. This is about Marriage and Divorce and you are just shacking up the together. During the 2 hours you are home and she is working, you start with the cleaning and grocery shopping. The day you are at work and she is home she can do an equal amount of chores. If the chores are not done after 16 hours, someone is slacking and you both will have to finish up on Saturday/Sunday. Why should she have to do all the housework and shopping and still pay 50% of the expenses?
2007-05-25 18:16:27 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She works longer hour than you in a days time, both of you are working 40 hours a week. If you guys are spliting the bills 50/50 then you need to split the house work and grocery shopping 50/50 too... Even though she gets a 3 day weekend think about those 10/4's they are brutle. She is just as tired as you. No one likes to clean house on there day off and if the two of you are chipping in as a team it will go alot faster! Who cooks dinner at the end of the day during the week??? It's about team work! Don't try and wiggle your way out of this one...
2007-05-25 17:54:43 · answer #3 · answered by Flying w/ scissors 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry dude, but I gotta agree with her. If you're splitting the bills 50/50 but she has to do 100% of the chores and shopping, she's getting a bum deal regardless of whether she has a 3-day weekend.
Grocery shopping rarely takes more than 2 hours. You'd have a better argument on your side if you agreed to do the grocery shopping on one of the days while she was pulling 10 hours. Then she might feel more inclined to knock out at least some of the cleaning on her Friday off.
2007-05-25 18:08:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really she's actually right. Since you split everything 50/50 and you are both off on the weekends then you should do it together,but for a compromise see if she would be willing to take over the groceries since she is does work 4 days a week.
2007-05-25 17:48:48 · answer #5 · answered by lily_shaine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough Question. I have been in the same situation some what.
Ok, so from what we see here, your girlfriend works the same hours as you do but has an extra day off. Why not try and compromise and ask her to clean some on Friday, so there is less work during the weekend so you both have more free time? Or maybe ask her to grociery shop on Friday so you guys JUST have to clean on Saturday/Sunday. Pretty much try and find a way where she does some work on Friday but not all the work, so she can still enjoy the day off, and so you can have some time off on Sat/Sun.
2007-05-28 09:46:41 · answer #6 · answered by Neo M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only read the first 10 or so answers to your question and none of them said this:
Do a little cleaning each night. The two of you together can chat about your days and wash/fold laundry. Or you can make a meal together and then clean it up. There's absolutely no reason you have to save the cleanup for the weekend. If there is 'extra' stuff that can only be done on the weekend, you should work on it together.
I left my husband of 4 years because he thought I should do all the work, even after working 14-hour days. If you really love your gf and want a future with her, think of how you treat her and want to be treated or someday you'll have to do ALL the work cuz she'll be gone.
2007-05-25 18:04:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think if you do not start cleaning on the weekend with your g/f you will not have one anymore. What makes your job much more important than hers that you get to spend two days doing no work in the home that you pay 50/50 of the bills? if it's 50/50 then do your share. Trust me when you do, you'll see that she will get some stuff done on her extra day off. But be a good guy.... clean up Saturday morning.
2007-05-25 17:50:06 · answer #8 · answered by lynnn30 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't hurt for her to do SOMETHING on her day off... but she's entitled to enjoy it, and you can't expect her to do EVERYTHING just because she works one day less than you. You both work basically the same amount of hours. I think if you were in her position you'd see it differently. You wouldn't want to clean the house, do the laundry, go grocery shopping etc. all just because she's working and you're not. Plus, that's a lot to do in one day. Like I said, it wouldn't hurt for her to start the house chores but you have duties as well. I believe it should all be 50/50 if you're both working full time.
2007-05-25 17:49:11 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should both do it on the weekend. Just because she is off on Friday, doesn't mean she has to. You both work the same amount of hours, she just works longer days. If you split everything else, why should she have to do all the cleaning? It's only fair that you pitch in too.
2007-05-25 17:48:25 · answer #10 · answered by Katie R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off your g/f should slap you in the face. Second you both should do it on the weekends. If you both work full time and split the bills you should split the cleaning on the weekends. Don't be selfish because she has an extra day off you both work the same amount of hours each week. She deserves her time.
2007-05-25 17:48:23 · answer #11 · answered by holdmydrinkbiyatch 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋