Should i be Proud to be Gay?

Question

or should i be ashamed about it?

Answer 1

Should I be proud to be straight?

why be proud of a sexual orientation. Be proud to be YOU.

Answer 2

I don't think this is a question of morals. I am trans but I am neither proud nor ashamed to be a transsexual. It is just a part of my identity. I am proud of who I am not just a piece of who I am. I hope that what I stand for and have achieved is worth being proud of.

Does being gay or straight make you a good person? Does it help you make the right choices in life? Is it a trophy to put on a shelf in your room and admire? I would argue no.

If you are ashamed of who you are, will you ever be capable of achieving your fullest? I don't think you can be ashamed and have a good life.

So, no; you should not be proud of being gay but you should never feel ashamed of being gay either. You should be proud of yourself as a whole person.

Answer 3

I can understand that someone who belongs to a group that isn't completely accepted in mainstream society might be "proud" in order to bring attention to the fact that maybe people in mainstream society should be more accepting of them, or at least more sensitive to the fact that their lifestyle (or whatever makes them different) is simply that - different - and not worse or unacceptable. One may also be "proud" as an emotional counter to the fact that part of who you are isn't something some people will accept.

However, me, I would probably not focus on being either proud or ashamed of being straight or gay because being gay in and of itself is something that you are, not something that you achieved or worked for.

If, however, you put together a Gay Pride march or edit a gay outreach newsletter, or managed to come out to your friends and family and job in a positive way, or found a way to come to terms with being gay and like yourself, then that is something you did as an accomplishment and should be proud of.

Good luck to you, and love who you are whether other people do or not, because if you don't love yourself how can anyone else love you?

Answer 4

I figure you are who you are. Make peace with yourself. Just don't expect everyone else to accept it with open arms. Hopefully they will not be ashamed of you, but there is that gray area before you get to proud. I would call that acceptance. That's how I think I would feel about you. I would accept you for being gay. Not proud but certainly not ashamed. I would accept you and be your friend.

Answer 5

I would be, if I were you. As it stands, I love everything that I am. I'm a husband, about to be a dad. I'm a three-time cancer survivor. I'm surrounded by people who care about me. I love deeply. I'm the best me there is--or ever will be!

Why SHOULD you be ashamed about any aspect whatsoever about yourself? It's the other close-minded fools that try to hold you back. But there are some of us (myself included) who understand that a person's sexual preferance doesn't matter to their own lives. I'm not afraid of you, so why should I mock or try to "fix" you? You're fine just the way you are so long as you don't allow others to dictate for you who you should be. You have just as much right to happiness as any of us do--including the bigots.

I want you to research a man on the internet as a favor to me. His name is Bob Paris. Now, the reason that name should stick out is because he was very sucessful in a manly-man sport (bodybuilding), was and is a valued and sought-after public speaker... and he's gay. I honestly think you'd do good to get to "know" this man, as he's a great inspiration to the so-called "gay community."

Here's some links to get you started.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bob_Paris
http://www.bobparis.com/

Be yourself, and be happy. The best of luck to you!

Answer 6

There is a duality to your question. Firstly, if it is your decision to be gay, and you believe it is who you are (not that you should let a title define you or anything), then of course, stand up for the freedom of being able to do what you think you are meant to do. This deals with the morality of being gay. Secondly, isn't it every living creature's purpose to reproduce? I'm talking about reproducing in the actually "reproducing" sense. Not adoption. I would think there would be a feeling of emptiness not being able to ever see the culmination of you and the person you love in the form of a beautiful child. Of course you can go down the surrogate mother and artificial insemination route, but that is still not the combining of you and your most loved one. It is the mixture of you or your loved one, with someone else. Just food for thought, not being judgmental.

Answer 7

You shouldn't be proud or ashamed about it. You just need to have the courage to admit it to anyone who cares and then hope that they will accept you for who you are.

Answer 8

You should always be proud of who you are, there's nothing wrong with being gay. I'm Gay and I'm Very Proud!

Answer 9

You should be just as proud or ashamed as you would be if you were straight.

Answer 10

I don't think a person's sexually preference is anything to be proud of but something to be accepted by themselves. If you are proud of who you are as a person then be proud. It's not about who you are attracted to, it's about how you feel about yourself.

Answer 11

Neither. You are how you are.
All prejudice aside, it's like asking whether you should be proud or ashamed of being tall.