Ok, I'm from the Bahamas but I live in Florida. My mom is super strict and my dad wouldn't mind me going there it's just my mother. She has a problem accepting that its an historically black university. She says, "Nobody in this family went to a black college and you won't either." I dont know how to change her mind. I really feel it would be the best university for me. I have a 4.267 GPA so she wants me to go to an ivy league school like Harvard or Princeton or Yale but I would be miserable there. I don't fit into places like that, trust me I know. I go to a really advanced school now and I hate it. I can't wait til I graduate..but I have like no say here. Its almost as if shes living her life through me. I guess if I had no other choice I would try to go to Cornell but Howard seems best for me. How do you think I can go about convincing my mom to let me apply at least to Howard University when the time comes? Oh yeah, I have tried talking to her about it before she just blows me off.
2007-05-25 16:58:07 · 5 answers · asked by ~Bahamian_Queen~ 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
Put together a little presentation for your mom. Include: distinguished alumni, internship opportunities near Howard, and distinguished professors. I would also tell her that Ivy League schools are great at the graduate level, but grad students teach many of the undergrad courses (except Princeton). If you are a big fish in a little pond at Howard, get a government type internship, and expand yourself culturally --- you can go to graduate school in the Ivy League.
2007-05-25 17:32:12 · answer #1 · answered by Izdiwaj 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
point blank your mom is going to have to learn that after college its your life. grade point adverage has nothing to do with your happiness. Its time to be an adult because youre making the most important decision of your life and college is a baby real world when your think about it. Yeah they paying for it but your have to deal with it. Basically " Mom if you really loved me you would care about my happiness". If they want to hear it or not , its your life, either they deal with it or not. I go to howard and it is the bomb.We have the best home coming in the world. what famous people you know would go to harvard or cornell for homecoming??? Even Oprah loves Howard!!!!! Forget what you heard , Howard University is the real HU !!!!!! You know it!!!!! Oh yeah, the classes are great!!!!!
2007-05-25 17:16:17 · answer #2 · answered by eye-luv-jay 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why wouldn't she want you to? the networking would be great once u graduate. just point out all the positives and how it would make you happy. approach the matter respectfully, calmly, and lovingly. she THINKS she knows what's best. if you end up horribly, you're going to end up blaming ur mom for the choices u made based on her overbearing presence. tell her all that. if she doesn't change her mind about it, just talk to ur dad and go for howard. i really really think you should go after what YOU want. you're a young adult now who can make her own decisions. good luck.
2007-05-25 23:52:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pretty much it's your choice if your worried about money there are always ways to get help. She might be mad at first if you go there but eventually she'll get over it especially if she sees your happy. Sit her down and just say mom i'm going to howard that will make me the happiest and thats final. she might not speak to you for a while but she'll understand in the end.
2007-05-25 17:09:23 · answer #4 · answered by Stasha B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom's always right, never forget that, and take into account.
do as she says and you'll never regret in any time of your life being from HW of Princeton or Yale.
if you can, actually.
2007-05-25 23:28:25 · answer #5 · answered by selinakb 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋