my so called wife of 12 years sept will not try to be a wife every weekend she goes out and doesnt come back im almost suicidal what do i do ?
2007-05-25 15:48:05 · 23 answers · asked by yamadori4u 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you need to sit down and talk !!!!!!! you wont achieve anything by letting it go on. you need to know where you stand before you can decide what to do. i know its hard my husband of ten years turned round two weeks ago and told me he doesn't love me and that he loves someone else and left me bringing up our 2yr daughter. it does hurt but now i know where i stand i can move on and set up a new life for myself. no person is worth dying for she is obviously not the person you married its time to grab the bull by the horns and take charge
2007-05-26 23:07:12 · answer #1 · answered by kitty4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean, "she won't try to be a wife"?
Do you mean being home to cook and clean?
The way you put it makes it sound like you want her to take care of you. So my next question is, how exactly are you trying to be a husband?
Why do you assume that she doesn't love you because she goes out every weekend? Is she at the local bars trying to find other men, or is she simply getting awa from things?
If it's the latter, I definitely recommend therapy--not to fix HER, but to find out what's awry in your relationship and to see what your part is in it. If you go into it pointing fingers you're going to sacrifice the relationship for your ego.
Stop wringing your hands and start focusing on what you can do to work things out.
Good luck!
2007-05-25 21:06:27 · answer #2 · answered by abbynormal92243 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK first think about what your wife loves. Maybe chocolates. Does she like flowers or maybe there is something that she wanted for a long time, get her them. When she comes home from her night out have a candle light night snack and present the gift to her. Tell her that you were thinking her and you miss her. Make plans for next weekend and go out together maybe somewhere of her choice!
2007-05-25 15:56:28 · answer #3 · answered by mandy mae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you go out with her? You can't make someone a good wife no matter how much time goes by. This is a hard question and a decision you'll have to make for yourself. Sometimes you just have to know when it's time to let go and if your almost suicidal it sounds like its that time for you.
2007-05-25 15:52:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband started after 18 years of marriage,I went through hell with this man but I hung on.He moved out for 21/2 years
he had a girl friend I fount out about only after he moved back home with me.Not only did I deal with the heart brake of him moving out for the 2 1/2 years but had to go through it all over again when I fount out about the other woman when he came back to me.That all happened 10 years ago and I got through it,it's been hard at times but if you love someone and believe it's worth saving then fight for it.My husband is in the next room and he has treated me so good after everything he put me through.He became a different man after he came back to me. I'm so glad I didn't walk away from him, that would of been the biggest mistake of my life. I'm telling you all this so you can see that their our other people out here that has and is going through what you are right now and has gotten through it. Hung in there because she could come around like my husband did and see just what she could lose if she keeps doing what she is doing.Maybe she like my husband will become a better person when she opens her eyes and really looks at you.
2007-05-25 22:33:18 · answer #5 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long has she been acting like this? you say you've been married to her for 12 years- do you feel that she has recently begun this unfaithful behavior? talk to a marriage counselor, but first it is necessary that you get a to the root of the problem. is she merely a frivolous person that 'fell out of love' and there is nothing you can do? or does she expect something more from the marriage and feels unfulfilled but won't tell you? in all honesty- this could be a case of a bad choice of marriage or bad communication.
2007-05-25 15:54:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said it your wife doesnt love your anymore so why do you stay - obviously you love her very much but her behaviour toward you is pretty bad almost like she wants you to leave. If I were you I'd leave.
2007-05-25 23:08:13 · answer #7 · answered by Magster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop feeling sorry for yourself and get a life. Stop whining... "she doesn't love me anymore... she doesn't care anymore.." all that would get on anyone's nerves.
She just wants to get out of the house and enjoy her life, why don't you try taking a leaf out of her book instead of sitting at home wishing you were dead!! What type of husband are you? You are meant to be supportive and encouraging... if it's sympathy you're looking for, you won't find it here!
Get some friends. You can't live your life dependant on one person's company.
2007-05-25 17:53:27 · answer #8 · answered by Just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need 2 talk 2 her.If u love her let her know that.Be very careful,put on a condom when u have sex with her.Is crazy My kids dad is somewhat the same.Life is wonderful,DIE 4 whom,cut it out,if she don't stop,after u talk,sorry she doesn't love u,but don't give up,there is always some1 out there 4 u.B strong sweetie don't let that BIT...mess with your heart.
2007-05-25 16:32:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a man and take charge. Tell her that if you dont want to be with me the man whos loved you for 12 years decide if you want to be with me or leave
2007-05-25 15:57:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋