I cheated on my husband about 5 months ago. And about 3 and about 2 months ago. Same person, we didnt have sex but we did make out, and I did pleasure his man hood with my mouth! Its not that my husband is mean, or hits me or anything. The only thing I can think of was that he wasnt there for me during a very hard part in my life (while we were married). I kept saying hunny I just need some one to talk to. some one to just be there. He seemed to think me being upset was wrong. This other person was there for me, he made me laugh. Dont get me wrong. I love my husband. I really dont have any feelings for the other guy except i love being around him.
I dont know if yall can keep from being mean or not but please dont Judge, it isnt what I am asking for.
I am asking If I am broken cause I do not feel the slightest bit guilty.
Some people say they wouldnt be able to live with themselves.
Please help. Appricate it..
2007-05-25 15:18:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let me Add a few details. We have only been married 4 years (there are no children) and I have tried to leave him quite a few times. He will not leave.
2007-05-25 15:34:58 · update #1
Not in a bad way but if you really loved your husband you would feel guilty. Your not broken just not in love. your husband hurt you and its hard to push past it. Sometimes its time to go. Even if you don't leave to be with this other guy, it might make you the person you want to be.
2007-05-25 15:55:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have done some serious rationalizing. If you made out and gave a BJ, you had sex (which is not merely defined as entry). You have decided that you will take the best offer around for emotional support. Your husband needed to be emotionally available and supportive, but you need to maintain your commitment to him whether he does just what you want or not. Love is supposed to be UNconditional. Love is supposed to be about pleasing your spouse.
Are you broken? Define that. Are you showing us that it is all about you? You will have to answer that. My personal theory is that selfishness destroys marriages.
When your husband gets his hands into some chick's bra, will he need to feel any remorse afterward? Will you mind if he does?
2007-05-25 22:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by Bob T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not feel guilty then you already had accepted that your relationship had been over for years... maybe u fell in love w/ the other man . You sure had a great sex life w/ this other dude ....WOW>>> what a lucky guy he was.... I guess your spouse neglected you to the point of knowing it could not be saved. What a pleaser u r.... Did you get pleasure or do you like negative attention?
2007-05-25 22:29:48 · answer #3 · answered by harlot j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your married and sure no one is perfect. This other guy...well you need to get away from him...how would you like it if your husband was around another women or pleasured her womenhood with his mouth. I dont think you would like it at all. I think it is okay to sometimes be at a different place in life then your companion, but I dont think it is okay to go and lay down in a bed naked with another man while promised to another. I am not trying to being rude or mean just being honest and telling you how I feel.
2007-05-25 22:24:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The people who judge you probably have bigger skeletons in their closet so don't listen to them. If you don't feel any remorse I think you should not be with your husband anymore. You need to be with a man whom you could not cheat on or at least feel bad about doing it if you did. I suggest you attend some kind of marriage counseling if you decide to stay with him. And if he does not even know about this incident you should forget you ever did it and never say a word about it. Why hurt his feelings if you are not even remorseful?
2007-05-25 22:36:37 · answer #5 · answered by Kari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't feel sorry for your husband, i think there is something wrong. wouldn't you be hurt if he cheated on you? and are you sure you really don't feel guilty? you seem like you feel bad about it.
but at least your reason doesn't sound as shallow as other women. there are women out there who would do it just because they want to have sex with a younger and better looking guy. there are some women who even do it with teenage boys. and a lot of them don't feel guilty at al. they even brag about it.
but of course, cheating is never ok.
2007-05-25 22:27:54 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you have no sense of responsiblity. It seems as if you married a man as he was and yet expected him to change and when he didn't you CHOSE to cheat on your marriage. So bascially your entire marriage has been based on your lies. Why should you feel anything when it's all been a lie anyway?
2007-05-25 22:24:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you start cheating and or calling each other names, it is time to go, even if you have to. you are broken if you feel no remorse. and there is karma, we all have to pay for what we do. that is the part that sux, he will do it to you.
2007-05-25 22:41:27 · answer #8 · answered by Molly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are morally and spiritually broken. You don't feel any sense of guilt; you don't have remorse; you are dead inside. Turn to God. God is the only one who can help you.
2007-05-25 22:53:12 · answer #9 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek some counseling. I dont think you know who you are, or what you really want.
2007-05-26 00:21:41 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋