He hasn't been interested in a while and when we do go at it, he goes limp and then gets mad at me. I don't know what to do anymore,.
2007-05-25 14:57:51 · 21 answers · asked by lobo5747 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe it isn't you that is the problem maybe it is him and he does want to but as a man that is loosing his edge of being able to keep it up or ED is a major problem and it could be of many things like stress problems at work family problems or just natural reasons so maybe you she talk to him and ask him and ask him if he should go to a doctors or maybe you both need some marriage counselling but do not think it is you.
2007-05-25 15:25:20 · answer #1 · answered by isitreal1963 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lobo,
well...I have a similar issue from a guys perspective, but I am not the one "going limp". Maybe you have some insight from a womans perspective that could help. Information I would like to discuss is not something I am willing to post in this forum for "all to see". Since you were so kind to post this question - maybe you could share with me a womans perspective? Offline?
If I do not hear from you then I will respect your choice. But seriously I hope you get some good advice here!
2007-05-25 22:12:45 · answer #2 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is on blood pressure medicine or diabetic, this can cause that to happen. I am not sure why a lot of people assume because a man or a woman is having trouble performing that they are cheating. It could be a medical problem and he could be not mad at you but frustrated with himself. And, if he is having trouble in this department then, he may not want to try for fear of failure. Try to find out what the real problem is first.
2007-05-25 22:11:20 · answer #3 · answered by shyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound a bit harsh, but you arent doing something right. Ive been married 17 years and heres what ive learned. Dress nice and fix up nice most of the time. At bedtime put on something sexy., and dont wait on him to start something you start it. And most important men love head, not just a little either, really get into it ,and practice does make perfect. He wont go limp in your mouth.
2007-05-25 22:10:17 · answer #4 · answered by melissa t 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give me your number and we'll hook up! Seriously, without knowing more this is a hard one. (no pun intended) Sounds like it's him not you. The going limp issue may be a confidence killer for him which might explain the lack of interest. Maybe Viagra or Cialis is necessary.
2007-05-25 22:07:52 · answer #5 · answered by elboricuadiablo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He may have some sort of performance difficulties like erectile dysfunction. I would very gently talk to him about the issue. Don't get mad, even if he does. This is an EXTREMELY touchy subject. You need to be very compassionate and supportive.
2007-05-25 22:41:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could have a medical problem and is afraid to say anything. We men can be like that at times. Don't assume he is cheating or watching porn. How about just talking to him like you would in and intimate moment. He might just let it out as to what is wrong.
2007-05-25 22:07:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have a medical condition and takes it out on you. Stress is a big factor too. Have him see a Dr. Guys are too embarrassed about this, but it can destroy a marriage.
2007-05-25 22:06:06 · answer #8 · answered by Guy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey...get a dildo....or a divorce. if he doesn't care enough to find out the problem with a doctor, then he already knows the answer and refuses to either stop cheating, stop looking at porn, and stop directing his sexual attention where it shouldn't be. it's up to you to decide how unhappy are you willing to be.
2007-05-25 22:57:11 · answer #9 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I don't have to do anything to get that from my husband - I could stand there picking my nose and he'd be ready to go.
2007-05-25 22:06:42 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋