why get married?

Question

other than having a family and buying a home together.. or love...cant you love someone with that dam piece of paper

Answer 1

Good question. That damn piece of paper doesn't mean squat. eccept to pass your SS on to your partner if something happens to you. When people want out of a relationship, that paper doesn't stop them- just makes it more exspensive.

Answer 2

NO, a damn piece of paper has absolutely nothing to do with falling in love. What the hell are you thinking?

When two people fall in love (you obviously never did, because you would never be asking this question) then they will be so happy and they do anything to make each other happy NATURALLY (the selfishness will be gone) and they could never live without each other and that's when marriage comes in and that piece of paper just makes it official, because they want to buy a house together and they want to have the same last name and they want to raise a family. You wrote it backwards?

None of this should ever happen before you both fall in love. It's the best life you could have. If more people would just wait for the right person to come along, the word divorce would be unheard of.

Answer 3

I'm a strong beliver that people shouldn't get married unless they truely love each other and they have the same goal and plans for a future together. People should never get married just because they have kids or assets together. People should realize that "piece of paper" isn't going to make you happy. It's easy to get married then to get a divorce (an alot cheeper for that matter). Don't rush into anything, sit down and have a serious heart to heart before making any choice make sure both you and your partner have the same ideas for your futures together. Good luck an I wish you all the best!!

Answer 4

Why not get married? I've been married 18 years and we have five children. I couldn't imagine not having someone to come home to. The days where there would be nobody to listen to my drama, nobody to cuddle with, warm the sheets before I get in, run my bath when i've had a bad day, or laugh at my not so flattering moments. I'm not sure if I've just been doing it for so long that I just can't imagine not doing it, or this is all I know. I do know that after a childhood of watching my parents together, I knew it my heart...that kind of love....was exactly what I wanted when I grew up. And I was lucky to find that. I'm sure single life has it's benefits too, but it just wasn't for me.

Answer 5

Marriage, and the total commitment it shows, is the best way of proving to someone that you love them. It means that you want to spend the rest of your lives together.

Complaining about that "dam piece of paper" just shows that you are not ready for this type of commitment because you do not truly love the person you are with.

Marriage has been a societal norm for centuries. It doesn't hurt anyone and can give you tax advantages. And, when you die, your loved one will be the obvious beneficiary of all that you have built together.

Answer 6

Marriage brings a lot of rights that you would otherwise not have. Didn't you ever wonder why gay people were fighting for the right to marry?

For instance, if you are unable to make medical decisions for yourself, your spouse can make them for you. If you are not married, your parents can BAR your girlfriend/boyfriend from the hospital as well as funeral if you should die. In addition, they can contest any will you have leaving property to said girlfriend/boyfriend and very likely win. Happens over and over again.

Times when marriage is not wise: one of the couple abuses drugs or gambles or does illegal stuff (making you financially liable). Someone with an out-of-control spending habit (again, making you financially liable).

Social Security benefits from your partner will not happen. If you are married, you can get death benefits as well as widows benefits if you are disabled. If your spouse makes a significantly larger income, you will get that larger social security amount if you've been married at least 10 years (even if you divorce after that).

Also inheritance: say your spouse receives a property (large house) as inheritance, then dies. You get that property if spouse should die, even without a will. If you are not married and sold your home, unless he changed his will, you are out a home too and will have a short time to vacate. This happened to someone I know. Lots of younger people never have wills because they think they will live forever.

Answer 7

I think you meant 'Can't you love someone without that damned piece of paper?' The answer: you can love 593 people without any paper at all.
The repercussions of getting a divorce are such that you had better be pretty committed to the person you marry. Extremely committed!
It's much easier to walk out the door if you aren't married. If walking out the door is what you think you want to be able to do, live on your own and date everyone you can. Have a great time, save for retirement, don't have kids and live it up! Nothing wrong with that. Skip playing house.

Answer 8

yes you can love someone without that piece of paper. however, there could possibly be some security and benefits for each of you if you are married...

it is a personal choice, however... you don't have to get married, and no one can force you.

if you are married, and you or your spouse has health insurance, he or she can add you to the policy. that way, you'd be covered in case of a medical issue.

if you are married and your spouse's name is on the deed, and they drop dead one day, YOU would automatically get the house. if you are unmarried, and your partner drops dead one day, well, you're probably homeless at this point (unless there is a Will, and most younger people don't have those right away).

just two examples. many other "benefits" to marriage...

it doesn't matter to me whether two people tie the knot, or don't. YOU need to make your own decisions...

take care.

Answer 9

You don't have to get married if you don't want to or if your not ready. Yes, you can love someone w/out being married, you can live together, buy a home together or whatever you choose to do. It's your life. You make all the decisions based on your happiness.

Answer 10

I think marriage is more than a piece of paper. It is a symbol of the commitment that two people make to one another.

The one thing about marriage is that it can keep people together when times get difficult. If two people are together and hit rocky times, there might be more of a temptation to say "F*** this." and move on. Marriage solidifies that commitment, makes it more difficult to to just walk away. Hopefully, it makes you work through things and become stronger afterwards.

Sure, it doesn't always work out that way, but nothing is perfect.

Answer 11

Why not get married. Yes I have been married before and it was a mistake and yes I lost everything because I was tired to death of fighting but then I met my hubby now and I got 10 fold what I lost. I am proud to be his wife and i love him with all my heart and when I spell my name and I see his last at the end of it Iknow how blessed I am. I love being married and loving my husband.