It's been my experience in the last ten years or so that men in the age group of 40-68 seem to be reluctant to enter into a commitment or marriage again because of a previous divorce. Is it possible for a man to get past that? And what kind of woman inspires him to do so? (Please, just those of you in the right age group and those who did make a commitment/wed again.)
2007-05-25 14:36:53 · 8 answers · asked by Jess 7 in Health ➔ Men's Health
I am in your age bracket and after a very messy divorce, had become very disenchanted with women in general,decided to stay single and then met a sweet little woman,swept her off her feet and married her. We have ben very happy over twenty years now. Don' become embittered, And don't judge all women by what one did, Good luck.
2007-05-25 15:10:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 57 and 1/2 and have been happily married for the 2nd time for 12 yrs and we lived together for almost 2 before that and she had 4 kids and on welfare when we got together and I was just looking for a new best friend not girl friend or wife but when she came into the room she got my attention and has had it ever since. I battle with my homo sexuality and insist on being faithful to her and have succeeded inspite of it all because she deserves it and I don't want to do anything that would cause me to lose the greatest of all blessings. I never intended to ever get married after the hell on earth my first marriage was so it just took someone to sweep me off my feet. The right woman can work miracles if you just open up a little. You can e-mail me anytime and we can talk about it.
2007-06-02 13:13:33 · answer #2 · answered by richmorecock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, 41 and I see the complexities of a relationship and the dent in my freedom as too high a price to pay. I will confess…give me more time (it’s only been 3 months) and I may change my tune. However, I was also separated from this same lady for 9 months a few years back. During that time of pain ….well it’s a long story :P
BTW, not dating or anything is probably more honest then dating and then pulling away from commitment like you say you see happening out there, IMHO.
2007-05-30 09:12:41 · answer #3 · answered by Ear GW 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people took lessons from the marriage that they had. they know themselves better now, they know what they want and what they dont want. Especially they learned that talking about the relation is important. So a (wo)man that they trust, invites them to talk about feelings, can listen very well is the main person to start a relation with again. I am 67, divorced and happy again
2007-05-30 08:45:09 · answer #4 · answered by dick v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, and this is purely opinion, that we can and do get over the emotional hit of a divorce, and are perfectly capable of building new relationships. But we have a much harder time getting over the financial hit and that's what makes some of us reluctant to get that deeply involved again.
2007-06-01 18:45:31 · answer #5 · answered by bender_xr217 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the middle and have been looking to get married and so far haven't found that. I've been there, it hurts and most-likely always will in some degree. I haven't closed the book in that department, though I have turned the page and readly for a new chapter in my life. You intersted?
2007-05-27 03:48:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've noticed the same thing and I kinda feel inclined to agree with them. Not in a big hurry to commit again myself.
2007-05-25 14:41:10 · answer #7 · answered by Judy W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
What it takes is a Post-M companion.
Someone who can step up to being all she can be.
Somebody curious again. Is something exciting?
Offer a single step in that journey.
Feel free to be different. Or, not.
I can only speak for myself.
To get past that:
2007-05-26 18:14:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋