so that they dont make the same mistakes as before?
i like to ask A LOTof important and unimportant questions so i can learn from them and sometimes i get ridiculed on here for doing so. isnt that what yahoo answers, marriage/divorce is for to speak your mind and help you get through things, or am i wrong?
2007-05-25 14:34:43 · 6 answers · asked by I♥Karma 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry about my spelling, i dont have a spell check at the moment!
2007-05-25 14:35:58 · update #1
There seems to be a need (especially for women) to understand. We need to understand what's going on, what they are thinking, why there do and say what they do. We want to see their point of view and sometimes that's pretty hard. So, we ask questions. If that doesn't help, we try another question from another approach until we finally understand where that other person is coming from. We need to be able to relate to them and it sometimes takes a WHOLE LOT of questions to fully feel like we can relate (and other times, they don't give up enough info in their answers and we won't ever really know where they are coming from). It's not just you, it's a woman thing.
2007-05-25 15:21:09 · answer #1 · answered by spillin paint 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I actually just like your question. It sounds like a put-down, but is also an honest query.
My hubby and I actually do analyze our relationship endlessly. We've known each other since we were 14, started dating off and on 4 years later, married now for 20 years (this July). Overall, we are happy.
I think that evaluating a relationship (good or bad) is a good thing. If you're together, it can help you see what is working. If you've broken up, it can help you to see what went wrong and hopefully how not to repeat the same mistakes.
2007-05-25 14:43:02 · answer #2 · answered by frankiquilts 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I only got a computer and found this yahoo answers a few months ago. I honestly would have loved to had this for some of the times I've been through. And yes you may get ridiculed 100 times but then there may be that one person that answers and helps you more than they will ever know. So keep asking it never hurts to ask.
2007-05-25 14:42:54 · answer #3 · answered by lyttledarlin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever hear of "analysis paralysis"?
True, one should look over one's actions and try to learn from then, but by your own admission, you are evaluating it to death. What this leads to are anxiety attacks over trivial things, such as "Oh, my God. Should I get the salad or the breadsticks with my dinner? If I get the salad, he will think I'm watching my weight, but if I get the breadsticks, he will think I don't care about those extra carbohydrates...oh, what should I do?" Life is too short.
Everything in moderation, my dear. If you enjoy looking at these things and learning from them, then it shouldn't matter what other people think. But if this is interfering with the enjoyment of your life, order the breadsticks and savor every bite.
2007-05-25 15:10:26 · answer #4 · answered by Pythagoras 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I do that. I wish I didn't. I worry all the time that my husband is cheating even though he hasn't done anything lately to make me feel that way. I question every move he makes and everything he says. I hope someday I can trust him again, but, it's hard. I don't want to get blindsided again. He's gone camping tonight with his cousin's husband, but I can't help but wonder if he's REALLY where he says he is. Everything is a question. I hate that.
2007-05-25 15:05:59 · answer #5 · answered by ncgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think ANYONE who cares enough about their relationship will do the same. The important thing to remember is not to OVER-evaluate....you can't control everything all the time...and don't worry about the rediculers here, there's plenty here also who are willing to EARN their 2 points! XXX
2007-05-25 14:53:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋