Is it easy for you to "forgive and forget"?

Question

and move on,or do you dwell in resentment?

Answer 1

I do forgive but never forget; because, what happened is one of lifes lessons.

Answer 2

Dwell and resentment is much easier. I wish I could say I was different but 'forgive and forget' is over rated. May sound childish, but I don't won't to waste anymore time trying so hard for something I'm really not willing to do.

Answer 3

Forgiving is not easy but it is possible. However forgetting is an impossible goal and people who say "forgive and forget" don't have a clue what they are asking.

Memory is automatic. It is an involuntary ability that God gave to us to protect us from harm and to enable us to enjoy life. So from time to various stimula will cause the computer in our brain to bring up data we have not thought about in years and this is almost always involuntary. So forgetting totally is totally impossible

Having said that I will say you touched on the key component in this matter. "Dwell in resentment". We can not program ourselves to never recall any past event but we can program ourselves not to let it get the best of us. We do not control our recall but we do control our attitude and it is in our best interests to have a good one.

Answer 4

I have no real problem forgiving. It's the forgetting part that I struggle with. I don't dwell in resentment.It's just hard for me to get over the pain of whatever situation.

Answer 5

I am an advocate of forgiving others...but it is not easy. You can decide, "I'm going to forgive this person for this." but after that decision, the process of actually forgiving them takes a long time, weeks, months, or even years.

However, I don't believe in forgetting. I don't think after you forgive someone you should hold the wrongdoing against them anymore, but you should not try to forget. You can't. Plus, pretending the wrongdoing didn't happen leaves you open and vulnerable to getting hurt again.

Answer 6

I've been known to dwell in resentment as far as my past is concerned, but then I realized that it was hurting me more than it was hurting anyone else. So therefore, I have learned to forgive and forget. No one is perfect therefore no one should be expected to meet "perfect" standards.

Answer 7

Like a lot of folks, forgiving is easier than forgetting and really it's good that it is.

But depending on the depth of the transgression, it may be very hard for me to let go of the anger. But I'd like to think I could forgive most things.

But unless it's something relatively minor, I try to remember it.

Peace

Answer 8

I go by the moto of forgive but not forget. I have learned to forgive ppl for the mistakes. I havent forgotten them but i have forgave them. If u dont forgive anyone then everytime sum1 does something u would b out that person. What if that person is ur best friend for like ever, u dont wanna lose sum1 over sumthing dumb. so my advice is forgive not forget

Answer 9

I forgive and move on. There are more important things to dwell on.

Answer 10

it depends on what happened. It can take me a minute to forgive depending upon the situation, most often than not I just forgive them, but I don't forget it, ever!