i have no friends at all and its making me depressed.?

Question

hi im 21 i dont have any friends im a very outgoing person but it seems know one wants to be my friend i cant figure it out im really depressed i dont know what to do every time i try and make a friend it seems like its all going good and then all the sudden everything gets all messed up i feel like i cant go on and on top of it all there was this girl she said she liked me everything was going great and then all the sudden she just stopped talking to me i dont know what happened im really lonely ive prayed about it and everything someone please help i need someone to be my friend i need someone to talk too im so bored and depressed i cant take it anymore im begging for help please all i want is friends i dont know why things are this way for my lifes just a mess right now i dont know what to do im every where i go i have to go by myself coz i have nobody i wish someone would care im just so lonely i cant even express how much i would love any help you can give god bless you all!!

Answer 1

ill be ur friend!!

Answer 2

Okay, right now you are in a friend rut. But a part of it may be that you are either too choosy on what you want in a friend or you aren't really being yourself because you want a friend so badly.
"To have friends one must frist be a friend" it is a quote from the bible in Proverbs somewhere. So think about volunteering to help out other people. When you do that you are being genuine and you meet a lot of really kind people in the process. God Bless you. I know what that feels like, but he will pull you through. Don't give up.

Answer 3

It's hard, not having people to be by you and to chat with. You should be ready. Your going to be in a lot of suffering and tears will happen. Those people aren't your true best friends. Sometimes, it could take a long time to find a true friend. But, it's worth it. You are not alone. For somewhere, there is probably another person just like you who will be your true best friend. Plus, God is always with you. Don't give up! Hang in there!

Answer 4

I really don't know what to say....I've been a loner myself most of my life and while I have a boyfriend now a few good friends, comparitively speaking, I don't have A LOT of friends at all. It used to really bother me that I never had any friends growing up, but it's made me appreciate the ones I've got now a lot more! Try Myspace.com, or YahooChat--you might make a few friends there. Pray about it, like you said, keep praying about it. Those who come into our life come in when they're supposed to and God works on His time, not ours, it's hard, I know, but worth it in the end! Keep putting yourself out there--go to classes, the park, the library, book stores, school, etc...strike up conversations and let things progress naturally. Don't be set on having a lot of friends, gain a few acquaintances, and a few of them are sure to turn into great friends! I'll pray for you! Goodluck!

Answer 5

To have a friend you have to be one. Do you wait and expect them to call? That's OK sometimes, but one has to reciprocate you know. Put it another way: Are you an energy-giver or an energy-taker? You say that relationships start out fine, but then peter out. Do you perhaps use other people to do things for you, then they get wise and stay away? I don't know if that is your situation, but sometimes people are not conscious of what they are doing. If you give more information, you will get a better answer.

Answer 6

Ok, so noone want to be around you. There are several potential reasons:

- You stink, don't maintain proper hygiene
- You're a jerk
- You're pathetic
- etc.

All these could be solved. Take a shower, get a haircut, be nice to people - they like to feel important to you, respected, appreciated, even loved (don't overdo the loving).

The pathetic part is harder but the key is - become self-sufficient. Why do you need friends this much? Are you that boring to yourself? Cause if you are, then maybe you're that boring to others.

"Until i learned to love myself, i was never ever loved by anybody else"

Madonna


Good luck.

Answer 7

Okay the let me tell you how to make friends. get involved in something. You say you pray, well join a small group at a church or become a big brother or something. doing that will allow you to get to know other people and allow to give back to the community at the same time. Also you can get to know people at that you work with and around you neighborhood by having like get together at your house. However if you a youngin still living with you parents ask their permission before you invite people over to your house

Answer 8

Try visiting a big church and go to Sunday School where you can meet people your age. You can even register with a dating organization where they match up people. Do you have a Star Bucks Coffee House? People hang out at Starbucks.

Whatever you do - don't stop praying until God sends someone to you. God is your best hope.

Answer 9

I have no friends at all and its making me depressed.?

Answer 10

The world can be cruel sometimes. Im sure youre a great person and its nothing wrong with what youre doing to try to make friends. It might just be the people you try to make friends with. They may just be all wrong for you. Try initating conversation with a diffrent group of ppl to see what happens.

Answer 11

maybe your trying to hard.friendship is a two way street. but sometimes you can cross certain boundaries and divulge to personal answers to soon. start slow and find a common ground. dont be to persistant it can be a turn off.youll find your way.there are people out there who care,even if your not aware of it. believe in that.everyone goes through a time of uncertainty. you dont mention whether you have parents close by. sometimes divulging this with a parent helps. if nothing else just to get it off your chest. good luck , i care!