i want some advice, i keep having thoughts of hunky men and they turn me on and i guess my body likes them thoughts but when i think of women my mind tells me that it is wrong/unnatural to think of women, however i am not comfortable with these thoughts as my family are against gays (though i am on the verge of admitting that i am one-im not 100% sure just yet). is there anything i can do.
2007-05-25 12:28:46 · 11 answers · asked by gekko137 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You are still confused about your sexuality. Try looking at a womans porn mag and a body building mag and see what really hits the nail. Also what about people in the street, are women attractive or men when clothed? You will suss it out for youself and sod the parents - this is YOUR life!
2007-05-25 12:34:21 · answer #1 · answered by Ylang-Ylang 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You do sound a bit confused about whether your attracted to men or women - don't panic! Whether we fit the GLBT profile or are straight, we can all admire gorgeous, hot bods of either sex without commiting to a sexual orientation.
Just keep in mind that your possible lack of worldly experience and your supply of pornography (we know ;~) - if that is what is inspiring your confusion, tends to turn women [and men] into objects). These 'objects' are real people, with hearts, minds and families, they might not behave the same way in real life.
As regards your parents, you are the only one who say how they'll react when you tell them of your orientation - if you feel the time is appropriate, tell them, they might surprise you. If you are still feeling confused, don't sweat it, you're in control and can change your mind - It's not as if it's carved in stone! Just know that you can express yourself freely, and have the right not to be pigeon-holed.
Trust your own instincts on this one and good luck
2007-05-25 20:14:28 · answer #2 · answered by cornflake#1 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My advice is to be true yourself first b4 going to your family
With you not being 100% sure ..how will you be able to handle all the question that your family will throw at you positive or negative
I be sure first (and) then be prepared to stand up for wat you believe in your heart
Thoughts you have are your own they are just thoughts..Are you able to act on them..Could you truly love another man..Will these feelings change after a while ...maybe one day you will wake up and say i can't do this...these are some question you should ask urself b4 getting involved and causing hurt to someone simply bc u are not 100% sure ..find out about this first and Good luck to you which ever way you go i hope and wish for you to be happy in your find
2007-05-25 20:04:16 · answer #3 · answered by JustDeniece 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my best advice is to just go with the flow lol. this is similar to my situation. i used to feel strongly towards strong hunky guys. and i thought i still like women. so now i think i am 95% sure i am gay. but who noes. patience is a virtue. just wait it outl. only time will tell. good luck and i hope ur happy/live life to the fullest.
2007-05-25 23:26:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are gay, you may have hard times ahead with your family, but it's always possible they'll be more accepting than you expected. People are sometimes very pleasantly surprised. But if they don't accept you, then it's they who should be ashamed. There's nothing wrong with being gay, and if you are, there's no reason you should live your life unfulfilled.
2007-05-26 08:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by garik 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want to be truly happy and live an authentic life. You can't care what over people will think because there will always be people who will disagree with you being gay.
2007-05-25 19:34:37 · answer #6 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok why do ppl get made when this girl said 'pray about it talk to the lord' ? she's not bashing! she's not saying its wrong! she's simply giving her advice! everyone is entiled to state their opinion here so long as it is not offensive or foul worded. so quit nit picking ppl. that makes us just as bad as the bashers themselves in my eyes.
ok now to answer ur ?, i think u need to get away from home for a bit and find urself, take a vacation, if ur school goes on a class trip to...oh say...chicago or somthing, go and take that time to think and find urself and then when u get home lie. lie ur @ss off if ur not comfortable telling your family. when u are comfortable enough to tell then come out w/ur news (that ur straight or bi or gay or watever). my point is, u need to find yourself. figure urself out, wat turns u on? wat turns u off? wat do u look for in a date? etc etc, find ur self and learn to be at peace w/ur self. denial is sooo much worse than realization. while realization is hard, trust me, its better, healthier (for mind and body) and its much better than denial so find urself. and take ur time.
i certainly cant tell u who u are, nor can anyone else, that is somthing only you can find. good luck, best wishes.
2007-05-25 22:31:37 · answer #7 · answered by choux pastry heart 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be who you are and be happy-do what will make you happy! Dont be ashamed of you!! im sure your family will understand. i hope things work out for you! ;)
2007-05-25 19:34:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
come off it u were born gay it`s in yr genes
2007-05-29 17:27:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are gay just accept it
2007-05-25 20:36:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋