How do you break up a friendship you've had for over 10 years without hurting the people's feelings?

Question

The people in question have become so toxic, fighting in front of my kids, and there is inappropriate joking, that I often can't help but blush.

Answer 1

i would first talk them in an enviroment that is private. People tend to sugar coat or not explain fully what they mean when they are in public.

You should explain to them the importance of your friendship and what it means to you. Then explain to them how its changed and your not comfortable with the change.

There going to ask you, whats changed, and thats when you breakdown the exact things that are bothering you. Be honest, because if your not, it can twist everything around.

Now that your a Mother, you are a role model, and that kind of behavior is not acceptable around your children.

I dont know if you have talked to them before but if you havent maybe you can modify the situation before you break it off.

For example, they cant bring drama and inappropriate language to your home or around your children. Maybe since you never said anything to them it was okay. Talk to them first and find out why before you cut all ties off...

Answer 2

you can tell them stright up it not right time or place for my kids to see what going on and i not want to have it around with kids. You are worry about hurting their feelings?? They don't even care about that why?? they haven't grow up yet.. last 10 years... and you need to tell them and what best for yoru kids and you..

I would tell them sorry not good idea because the fact that you don't know how to grow up.. that all i will say.. and moved on.. if not then everyone will hurt by people telling the truth or lie.. they all get hurt.. I am so used to it now smiling.

Answer 3

List to them why but in a polite, polished manner. Don't raise your voice. If they wan't to get ugly, then ask them to leave and to never come back until they have their act together and you two can talk like adults. It will hurt, but if you think that it is necessary, you need to do it.

Answer 4

Are these people your friend or just friends you'd like to see split up? hmm either way people would get hurt. 10 yrs is a long history.

Answer 5

This cant be done without hurting someones feelings It just cant be done.

Answer 6

just tell them to tr to quit it with all their crap or the long freindship is over

Answer 7

i would stop it immediatley...
i mean what's more important your kids or the friendship...you decide...