I love my husband. But this is my only issue, I can't stop thinking "what if?" when I think about my ex. Am I screwed up?
2007-05-25 11:07:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Jane, maybe you still have some feelings for him that is deep seeded. You need to search your heart and find out if that is so. If you are married and happy with your husband, try not to let the old boyfriend come between that. It is so hard to find love nowadays and certainly a good man. The what if's are guilt of leaving a relationship without resovling the issues first. Been there and done it.
2007-05-25 11:55:23 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, If I could get a nickel for every married person that ponders an ex, I'd be LOADED!
You've realized you will never have sex with another man for the rest of your life. Now, all of your spicy stories are in the past. You think of them, especially the one that really got to you. It's NORMAL.
What's not good is giving these thoughts and feelings too much weight. Relax.
Would you have married the ex? If the relationship was so great, why did it end? If you two were destined for one another, why are you with your hubby?
Don't be like Scarlett O'Hara, girl!
Enjoy your husband, enjoy your marriage! Remember why you married him. Remember how it felt to fall in love; probably BETTER than your ex!
If your marriage doesn't work out, then contact your ex...but ONLY then.
Your husband deserves all of you, don't be afraid to love him just because he's uncharted territory!
2007-05-25 13:28:15 · answer #2 · answered by pola 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i suppose depending on how long you have been married. It could be a comparision thing. what did your ex do that you liked that your husband does not do? also think about what broke up you and your ex, and what kind of relationship you had with him. if it was a good relationship, you should be thankful that you had that oppertunity in your life and move on with your new life. If it wasent that great, just remember why it did not work out between the two of you. To keep thinking about it could be consuming, thus creating problems between you and your husband.
2007-05-25 11:19:07 · answer #3 · answered by kantriella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because mostly likely you think about him when you and your husband is arguing. But the ex boyfriend is not want you because if it was you had been with him and not your husband
2007-05-25 11:22:49 · answer #4 · answered by tweety 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really loved your husband you wouldn't be thiking about an ex boyfriend. The fat that you do think about the ex boyfriend is a sign that you lied while making your wedding vows.
2007-05-25 17:08:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dwelling on "what if's" doesn't change a thing. There could be things about your ex that you don't know about and marrying him could of been the biggest mistake that you made. Give yourself closure and put it all behind you where it belongs.
2007-05-25 11:17:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-02-19 23:31:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would your husband say if he knew you were always thinking about another man ?
2007-05-25 13:02:00 · answer #8 · answered by rhonda h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, you're nuttier than a fruitcake and you'll probably be divorced in under 1 year!
2007-05-25 14:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If your still thinking about your ex, then i would say you were not ready to get married!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-05-25 11:17:01 · answer #10 · answered by mary 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋