Would you be upset? My hubby only goes out 1x a month with his friends I dont mind but I have been so sick and in bed all day fever, chills, etc etc. Have been sick since Sunday and so has my little boy. My hubby let me lay down for 2 hrs today while he watched my 4yr old but then he went out. He had it planned for a few days. I just felt that since I was so sick he might want to stay and take care of me? Is this selfish?
2007-05-25 10:57:09 · 35 answers · asked by jodilynn0303 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just for the record: My son was already in bed by the time he left. And I dont expect him to wait on my hand and foot just the company would have been nice. I am 3000 miles away from home and have no family here and it gets lonely and when I am sick it makes me miss that more. Thanks for all the comments though x
2007-05-25 11:16:24 · update #1
yes ... selfish on his part
2007-05-25 10:59:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
You felt it, so he should of knew what you wanted! right? While I understand were you are coming from, you also should understand that he can't read your mind. I do feel that if you & your child are sick, NO... he should be going out. But @ the same time that doesn't excuse the fact that you should of made him aware of your feelings on this matter. In a nut shell the both of you are being a little selfish. Him for not handling & looking @ the situation for what it was (you & son being sick) & you for sitting back waiting for instead of asking him to stay home.
I hope the both of you (your son) feel better soon,
2007-05-25 11:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's terribly selfish of you, especially since you also have a child who's sick. Granted, he did have it planned for a few days but the circumstances at home (you and your son being sick) should have caused him to change his plans and reschedule.
Now, if you didn't have any children and you were sick, and he'd had it planned for a few day,s then I suppose it wouldn't be so bad if he went out for a couple hours. As long as he takes care of you the rest of the time I'd say he had earned a few hours out.
2007-05-25 11:02:37 · answer #3 · answered by Digital Haruspex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really should have voiced you opinion to your hubby. He may think you would rather be alone so you can rest. I know that is what I would think. And he only has one night a month with his buddies. I don't think you're selfish but at they same time I would want my hubby to go out and have fun . You can live on you own for a few hours. Next time tell him you want some company. Guys can't reed our minds.
2007-05-25 12:16:36 · answer #4 · answered by Carolyn S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not selfish that you want him to be there and care for you and your son, however its also not selfish of him to feel that he deserves his one day out a month. I think you should have told him how you felt and asked him to go out another day this month instead. But since he's already gone out I guess the most you can do is deal with it for now and try to explain to him that it hurt your feelings that he went out today.
2007-05-25 11:03:04 · answer #5 · answered by Meliki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on what kind of plans he made with his friends. If they were going to need him to do something special they had planned then you should let him go. After all he only goes out once a month.You are a big girl now, so you can do things for your self. What if you had to live alone 24/7 who would help you then? It is OK to be a little upset, but don't make a big deal out of it.
2007-05-25 11:07:59 · answer #6 · answered by Aliz 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah probably selfish on his part but did you tell him that you did need him home or did he leave with the assurance that you'll be fine? If you did he then probably said to himself "It's cool for me to catch up with the fellas and hang out for the night." Next time make sure he knows you need him to stay there and be ready to plan a different day for him to go out.
2007-05-25 11:06:31 · answer #7 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, I hate when people say my husband "watched" our kid. You don't "watch" your own children, you care for them. Secondly, I think that you should tell your hubbie that you don't feel well enough to take care of you and your sick little one. He should respect you enough to just not go, not wait for you to ask. But men don't read minds and tend to not be very sensitive about things like not feeling well so I think you should tell him how your feeling. Good luck and I hope you feel better soon!
2007-05-25 11:05:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should be there with you and your son being that you two or sick. He seem to be very helpful so far. I would just let him go out and chill with his friends and talk to him about it when he gets in. Hopefully it's not to long being that you are home sick. If he checks on your regularly while he's out go easy on him tonight if he doesn't then let him have it. either way let him know how you felt about him leaving you and your son home while being sick.
2007-05-25 11:03:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would hope my hubby would stay home and take care of me too. I would have asked him to stay home with me. He could go out again another day when I feel better.
2007-05-25 11:02:47 · answer #10 · answered by DEBBIE G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it weren't for the child, I'd say great, go away, let me lay here and sleep in peace. But, since his leaving requires you to watch the baby, i'd be upset. Why don't you suggest that your husband get a sitter for your child so he can still go out and you can just rest?
2007-05-25 11:01:35 · answer #11 · answered by its about time 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋