the question is should i have gave my husband mor eof a chance or what
2007-05-25 09:46:33 · 42 answers · asked by dynasty_morre 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hey buddy listen yes you should have talked it out with him didn't me and the girls tell you don't cheat you need to talk to will listen to us next time and guess what its over
2007-05-25 09:51:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well.. In my opinion, the question isn't whether you should have given your husband more of a chance or not. You didn't say how long it had been that you were not experiencing the love from him that you should have been, etc.
BUT... Love from him or not, that is ABSOLUTELY NO EXCUSE for you to be cheating on him. My opinion is that if you felt that you gave him a chance and that you no longer wanted to be with him, you should have split up then.
I don't feel that there is ANY excuse for someone to cheat. When someone cheats, that proves that they don't love the person they're married to enough to actually do the right thing.
I don't think I will EVER find a GOOD excuse for someone to be cheating. There is a choice.. If you don't like what you're getting from him and you can't work it out.. leave.. don't cheat.. that's just wrong.
2007-05-25 09:56:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This Yahoo! Answers forum can be a bit rough with the answers given so far. However, it looks like you should have given your marriage more of a chance before you cheated and turned elsewhere for love. Those decisions must have been made long ago, given the divorce. It looks like it is time to move forward, not look backward - you know what went wrong there. Hopefully, you will not make the same mistake again and learn from this one. Best of luck to you.
2007-05-25 09:51:20 · answer #3 · answered by neurodoc68 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not accept an answers on here, about that,,,that should be discussed between you and him,,,even now,, so both can mend. Perhaps some counciling is not too late. at least, you can learn to understand why,, and maybe even turn a divorce, back into marriage. My ex cheated on me, also,, but,, We divorced, because she refused to be a mom to the two kids,,so,, I took the kids and left, ( as per a councilors suggestion) it turned out the best for all.at least the kids had a nice home, and security. But,, after 27 years,, I would consider taking her back,,love does not die.
2007-05-25 09:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by Steve C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer to that question is yes! You were in a mrarriage, not just some boy/girlfriend relationship! When the going got tough the tough was supposed to get going!!! Somewhere along the voyage you quit and settled for someone else when you should have done everything in your power to fix your marriage. But since the two of you have divorced you now need to ask God for forgiveness and then forgive yourself! Live...
2007-05-25 09:50:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
um, ok, let me get this straight - he divorced you and you want to know if YOU should give HIM more of a chance? I don't get it. If he divorced you it's up to him to give you the chance because it was you who cheated - not him.
Now, if he's the one wanting to give the relationship another chance I'd say go for it but don't you dare f**k it up because it'll likely be the only chance YOU get.
And I'm sorry but - if you had no where else to turn for love it's NOT an excuse to go cheating. You should have talked to him about it and tried to be a little more proactive.
Just my opinion based on how you worded your question.
2007-05-25 09:51:48 · answer #6 · answered by JD 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got exactly what you deserved. When you are married there is NO excuse for cheating. All marriages have hard times but you work it out and never cheat. If you are that unhappy in your marriage that you think you need to cheat, get a divorce first, then go look for your love!
2007-05-25 09:51:33 · answer #7 · answered by berydivine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is wrong. You should have spoke with your husband if you felt the feeling wasn't mutual. You're in the wrong, and yea, you should have gave your husband more of a chance. Do wedding vows mean nothing to you. If you were that 'unloved' than you should have divorced him, instead your hurt him.
Shame on you.
2007-05-25 09:48:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If it not their anymore then it not their! Personally he was not doing his job of giving you that love that you wanted! I think that it very wrong to cheat! I think that you need to get on with your life and worry about you and if you have children them. I think that it's very hard to forget about somehing like that. So even if you do try to work out he will bring it up and he will never look at you the same! I think that you did give him the signs but he choose to ignore them, that is his fault! I think that you most likely did it because you want something different and most likely was someone that you work with. I think that you need to let him know that you are sorry and that all we can do now is be friends. Let him know that he has every right to be mad! But every make mistakes and I will live with that mistake for the rest of my life. Also knowing that I will not be with the love of my life! Let him know that what you did was not like you and you wish that you can take it back but I can't and the you are very sorry! Just for your self let him know that you are hurting and that you let him down. My boyfriend that I am with right now has had his first love cheat on him with his best friend and that was 10 years ago and he still has a hard time trusting me! I never have cheated and never will, because I want to be that girl that is like that. i am not saying that I will never cheat, I am saying that I am trying not to but my self in that situration. So what you did to him he will think about for the rest of his life. He will never trust another women or even another person. You know what you have to do to make your self feel better about the situration.
2007-05-25 10:17:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think? Cheating is NEVER okay...especially when you haven't "given your husband more of a chance or what." If he divorced you over it, that's your own fault. Learn to treat your next parnter with more respect and dignity and try to work things out between you before you go gallavanting elsewhere. Shame on you!
2007-05-25 09:49:08 · answer #10 · answered by Shannon H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It no longer matters.
No one who respects and loves their partner will cheat. Opportunities come and go and some are harder than others to walk away from. Every one of us is capable of making the right choice though.
You should have told him what your problems were and then tried to work those out. If that failed you should have filed the divorce yourself instead of running to another man. You betrayed him and your marriage when you choose that course.
2007-05-25 09:52:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋