he says that it's just that he doesnt want to, he doenst feel like it... i know hes not cheating on me .. hes with me all the time and doesnt go out on weekends if its not with me so thats out could it just be because im pregnant?
2007-05-25 08:38:30 · 35 answers · asked by anonymous 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I suppose it's possible that it's because you're pregnant. Some men go from seeing their wife as, well, their wife to seeing them as "someone's mother" once they're pregnant. I'm sure it'll pass but you should talk to him about it. Ask him directly if that's the reason and let him know that, if it is, you're not going to be upset with him (even if you may be, don't show it or he may not tell you the truth).
You may, if the situation doesn't improve, want to try some counseling. A good marriage or couples counselor will be familiar with the problem and will be able to help the two of you out.
Good luck!
2007-05-25 08:44:21 · answer #1 · answered by Digital Haruspex 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think the one man that answered summed it all up...he said just make sure you and the baby don't get hurt. Some men think that they will hurt the baby having sex with a pregnant woman. Try to ask him if he is worried about this and reassure him that it is perfectly safe to have sex (unless your doctor has advised against it.). Also, like others said about being viewed as a mother and not a sexual being, lots of guys feel like this. On the other hand maybe he is just more stressed out since you found out your pregnant and isn't interested in sex right now. Just plan a nice evening together and get things started. Good Luck
2007-05-25 08:50:41 · answer #2 · answered by deadsqirrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife is 7 months pregnant now, and I understand exactly how your husband feels.
Please don't take it personally. Like many others have said, I DO NOT look at her as a mother only. She is still my wife and I love her dearly.
Pregnant sex is just uncomfortable, for me anyway. Constantly feeling the "belly" there.
Some men actually are turned on by pregnant women, but in my experience and with talking to other guys, the turn on's are hard to come by during this period.
2007-05-25 09:05:37 · answer #3 · answered by scottdman2003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys look at pregnant women as walking red lights like they ahvet o be careful around them. He's probably affraid to hurt you also he may not feel so attracted to you seeing ur belly grow. My bf & i are 5 months pregnant & he's loving it. We're very careful when making love but there's been times when he feels like he's hurting me so we stop & won't do it for 1 week and when he's over it we start again. Alao you have to remember that having you pregnant is a bit shocking to him. My bf & I broke up 2 months ago & now we're together but at first he was so schocked he didnt' want to see me because he was having a hard time accepting that i'm pregnant but he's over it now. I think u hubby is still in a stage of shock. I don't know how far along u are but this is a posibility. If ur about 5-7 months prego i think he might be afraid of hurting you. Just let him be i'm sure when his ball s start hurting from nonejaculation he will come looking for you. Good luck!
2007-05-25 08:54:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of men are scared of having sex with a pregnant female for fear of harming the baby. And if you know what the sex it that can make it even more weird for them. He just doesnt want you to know hes scared so hes making up an excuse. Get online and look up articles and show him that he cant harm the baby and that sex is good for you and helps you have an easier delivery.
2007-05-25 09:18:08 · answer #5 · answered by Worried wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I have found is that sometimes the male in a relationship, shares the same symptoms such as the nausea, heartburn, etc., that the mother shares. Also, they think that the mother will get hurt so they cannot relax to enjoy the act, hence not doing it. However, I find that you could perhaps help by speaking about it, tell him how you are feeling and hopefully, he will open up to you, airing his thoughts so that both of you can deal with it.
2007-05-25 08:46:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I went through the SAME thing! My husband knew he wouldn't hurt the baby, and its not that I wasn't attractive, he just felt like it was weird because there is a baby in there!! I am a BIG horn dog sometimes..well, most of the time.. so it was hard to be rejected for sex. I did communicate that with him though, and eventually he understood where I was coming from too. One way that it worked out was, I laid on my left side, so he couldn't SEE the bump.. Get my drift? We spooned. lol sorry if this is TMI, but its the truth. I have many more ways... Sex expert here...lol let me know if you want more help...I am very open to helping women out. I wish there was someone like that for me when I was prego..lol
2007-05-25 08:45:55 · answer #7 · answered by ♪♥btrflydiva1982♥♪ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It could just be because you are pregnant. Don't freak out! Some men when the women become pregnant look at her in a different way, more like a mother and not a wife. He will eventually get over it.
2007-05-25 08:43:12 · answer #8 · answered by marisanj 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-05 09:14:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably a combo of two things:
1) You're hormonal and take extra offense to things like this. It's okay--we all do it. It's hard to think rationally when you have so many hormones running through your blood!!
2) It's hard for your husband to understand your signs. While he may be ready for sex, you may not be. Sometimes it's hard to feel aroused when you are with someone all the time.
I would talk with him.
2007-05-25 08:43:07 · answer #10 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋