is counseling at church better than a regular counselor to deal with an affair?

Answer 1

They can help you spiritually, but you will need help emotionally.

Answer 2

A church affiliated counselor will incorporate religion into the sessions where as a regular counselor will not. As for which one is better, its more of a personal choice. But then dealing with an affair youre probably going to need all the exra help you can get to survive this. Good luck though

Answer 3

depends on your faith. If you're an avid church goer and your lives are really built around church and religious ideas and activities, then it may be a consideration. I personally think that there's more than just counseling about affairs but as a marriage as a whole. A psychologist/licensed marriage counselor would be the best choice in my opinion. Marriage has complex layers and there may be more than an affair at hand here that needs to be worked on.

Answer 4

My experience has been with both. Of course i'm now divorced but i think the church would be better that's if the spouse commiting the affair is spritiual. On the other hand, I no longer attend church b/c of the affair. It was my wife and the deacon in that same church. I have no respect for him nor the pastor that was sheltering him b/c he was what he was.

Answer 5

depends on both of your commitment to the church...if you two are equally religious it might be okay, but if one is more religious than the other - go to a regular couselor.

Bear in mind going to a church means not just dealing with the affair, but also being held accountable for the biblical aspect of it.

Answer 6

No. Get some real help from a trained pro. And keep in mind, that your marriage is badly damaged with betrayal.... the trust is gone, and the visual of the other making love with someone else is tuff to deal with.... The respect and admiration are in the toilet too. Any professional counselor will tell you that it is two years to regain the trust, and that, hon, is with no guarantee.... Good luck

Answer 7

That is a choice only YOU can make, however what you need to remember is there are ALOT of so-called- Ministers that have had affairs so what gives them the right to be counseling someone .

Answer 8

I guess if you had followed what the Bible had to say in the first place, you wouldn't be asking this question. Regardless, like anything else, you have to shop around for a counsellor that you can relate too (and I don't mean choose someone who agrees with everything you do). There are good ones and bad ones in both areas of practise.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Have you been *reading* newspapers for the past 20 years? Pastors and priests as a group are some of the most debased filthy hypocritical sexual freakazoids on the planet.

But I'm sure they will be glad to take money to help you out with your troubles. They can use it to buy more crystal meth, male prostitutes, and getaways with the church secretary.

Answer 11

It all depends on your level of spirituality. I think it important to find a councelor who can deal with the issue on both levels. Try to find a councelor who isn't necessarily connected to a church but has religious beliefs. That way they will help you deal with it on both a spiritual and emotional level.