Why doesn't my husband want to feel the baby move?

Question

I am 7 months prego and the baby is kicking like crazy and moving around under my ribs and my husband doesnt seem to care or have any compassion. I feel like crap, i feel unattractive because i have no energy to fix my hair or put on make up. And he isn't helping. When we are sitting on the couch, i'm like " Wanna feel the baby?" and he rolls his eyes kind of and puts his hand on there for like 5 seconds and says " i didnt feel nothing". If i ask him to massage my back or scratch my back, all i get is a 1 minute massage or a complaint about how his hand hurts. My 6 year old son is more excited about the baby than he is. He wants to go shopping and feel my tummy all the time.
dont get me wrong, he's not a complete butthead. He does clean the house spotless and cook for me cause he's knows i'm tired from working all day long. It's just he doesnt feel my pain. He doesn't understand I can't push mow the grass or get myself out of the bathtub. I think he thinks i'm exagerating! Help!

Yes, he does clean the house and cook. I dont really have to do anything. But that's just cause he's a clean freak! lol Also he acted like this with my first one too........ i guess he just doesnt understand.

Answer 1

I am sure he loves you, otherwise he would not be with you... I am the kind of guy that you are talking about. I don't really wanna do stuff like this with my girlfriend(she isnt or hasnt been pregnant) but I mean, At times, I just don't show enough sympathy or passion, but when the time is right he will show the compassion you are looking for, it just may be right now, this time in his life he is bored with life. I know I get like that alot and I dont want to *snuggle* or *cuddle* but I would do anything for my girlfriend, no matter what it took. If it would really benefit her, I would jump off a cliff to my death, take a bullet for her, buy her the world, do what ever it takes, but I may not show the feeling that I would do these things for her.

Answer 2

Well you have to remember that us guys have no idea what you are going through. He's probably tired of hearing about the baby this or the baby that. To guys, a child isn't anything to get excited about until we actually meet them on the outside. All he sees is that you are complaining, not able to do things while he is under the obligation to do all the extra stuff for you. All he is thinking about is the bills, the responsibilities and your mood swings. Don't worry, once the baby is here, he'll be right in there with you.

Answer 3

It's hard for some men to comprehend what is going on inside a womans body. He will come around when your baby is born.

My husband was the same with our baby, but he tried his best to make life easier in other ways.

Look at the bright side of things, he is cooking and cleaning for you, doing what he feels he can to help. Some woman aren't so fortunate and will go through the entire pregnancy and birth alone.

Try spooning up to your husband at night with your tummy on his back so he can feel his baby moving.

Answer 4

It was right at about 22 weeks when my husband felt it real good for the first time. (this pregnancy). I honestly don't remember with our first two. I think it was a little sooner with our first. We moved cross country at 4.5 months pregnant. I remember him feeling her kick before we got settled. So it would have been 18-20 weeks then.

Answer 5

Some men are simply not as interested in the baby as we are.
Remember the baby grows within us not them, we get to feel it all and some of them cant comprehend that concept. I'm sorry that he's not so interested in sharing your joyful movements, but I wouldn't harp on it, sounds like he's doing right in all the other areas, no one is perfect.
Maybe he really is tired too if he's working and doing the chores, he probably just wants some time for himself, don't take it so personal.

Just be thankful he's not a complete jerk.

Answer 6

Men are not particularly understanding during pregnancy. Don't take it personally. My boyfriend did the same thing. If the baby didn't kick I lost his attension to the tv or something else. I don't think I got a backrub the whole time I was pregnant. Men are just insensitive. The funny thing is he thinks he's god's gift to the world because he cooked you dinner. Mine did atleast.

Answer 7

Sounds like he's jealous of baby #2. How often do you two spend quality husband and wife time together? Now that you have another little one on the way he may feel that he is going to be left out and all you attention is going to go to the kids.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Some men are like that, he is showing you he cares in the only way he knows how... by helping out around the house.

Answer 10

Is he even happy about the new addition? He should be a little more compassionate. My feelings would be hurt too. Hopefully, he will soften up when the baby is born.