What should i do about my friend?

Question

I have a boyfriend who treats me great. He is kinda weird at times but i tell him that and he agrees. Everyone does weird things it's just some don't care to show it. Well, to get to the point, My friend was hanging out with us for a few times then yesturday she was saying how she thinks he is the type who would snap and hurt someone or something and that she thinks he is annoying. He isn't always annoying. He isn't even all that annoying. Maybe once in awhile but i tell him that and everyone is sometimes. She said today that he isn't the type of person she would hang out with. What should i do? not be friends with her because she is misjudging him and making him seem like a bad person? she seems like she doesn't even care anyways even about our friendship. My boyfriend never yells at me, controls me, or cheats or anything. I am used to getting hurt and for once i am happy but my best friend won't even hang out with us.

and i don't wanna be friends with someone who thinks so bad of my boyfriend. I always choose friends first. This time is going to switch though. If she was a real friend, wouldn't she except who he is? She makes it seem like he is some big bad guy and he is far from it. I told my mom all of this and she gave me a weird look so it is just my friend who thinks this.

Answer 1

Tell your friend 'I am sorry you feel this way, I was hoping this would not affect our friendship. Until he does something really bad, I trust him and will be with him"

Answer 2

This is an age-old problem.

When one selects a partner, one has to deal with friends who miss the intimacy you once shared. Since there's no abuse involved, her words are merely an indication that she has not yet adjusted to the fact that you will now be spending less time with her.

My advice is to do nothing. Do not argue with her. Listen to her, nod and do what your heart tells you. She might be hurt but it appears that you have made a choice. If she is hurt by that choice it's her problem, not yours.

Answer 3

Seems like you've been going back and forth trying to figure this out. There is no reason to reject your friend just because she doesn't like your boyfriend. Spend time with her during the time you spend away form him. As long as you both steer the conversation away from him, you should still be able to enjoy your time together.

Do make it clear,though, that you don't want to spend your time listening to her run him down.

Answer 4

I think you need to decide for yourself. Do you like this boy enough to go against what your friend says? If your friend doesn't like this boy enough, be prepared to possibly lose her as a friend. But, if she leaves, was she a real friend to begin with? Real friends stick with you no matter what.

However, if this boy isn't worth more than your friend, I'm afraid you have to get rid of him. He isn't right for you?

Really, it comes downs to you. Which is more important? Perhaps, if you don't want to decide, have a serious heart-to-heart with your friend&&your boy. Maybe that will help.

I hope that helps!

Answer 5

Hmmm. I think shes been with him before and feels uncomfortable. Anyway friends can have their own mind set and still be friends. If he's with you and she show up, soo what! She can talk to him or not its her choice. Laugh at how silly she is.

Answer 6

YOUR HAPPINESS is all that matters----your friend is NOT the one DATING this guy so therefore she has or shoud have NOTHING TO SAY. The next time she says something to you about him, tell her look, he is my boyfriend , not yours and if you havent anything nice to say about him dont say anything, period. Nothing says you have to decide if she remains your friend or not, she needs to UNDERSTAND her LIMITS.

Answer 7

if your boyfriend has never yelled at you, tried to control you or cheat... it is something abnormal. he is up to something.