i had a miscarrige?

Question

my boyfriend wanted a baby when he fond out i was pregnant he was like the happiess man ever but then 1 week later i lost my baby that was the worst day ever and now i feel guilty because i think it was my fault that i lost my baby and i want 2 get pregnant soon as possible

Answer 1

Sweetheart. It's not your fault. I had 2 miscarriages and a stillbirth. It just happens that way sometimes. When you feel like you're ready to try again go for it. Don't think that it means it'll keep happening either. After all I went through I now have a happy, healthy 2 year old daughter that I think the world of. I believe things happen for a reason (not for punishment) but think of how much more you'll appreciate the next baby. So sorry for your loss and I hope you have another soon :)

Answer 2

Trust me this happens and my way of dealing with my miscarriages is that it all happens for a reason & there must have been a bigger and better plan for me. In my time of having kids I have had about 6 miscarriages (I lost count after 3) but i have 2 healthy children. I first thought my world had shattered when I lost the first one but you move on & try again. Depending on how far along you were I was 14 weeks and the doctor advised me to leave it for about 6 months to try again but if you were only just then you can try again any time. Dont make it a chore and dont stress about it. The more you stress and worry about it the longer it will take. Have patience & go and get some multivitamins (the pre-pregnancy ones) and take them and see how you go. Good luck and keep us posted on your progress.

Answer 3

I am assuming that your question is, should you get pregnant as soon as possible? I do not know your age or how far along you were when you lost the baby, since both factors would influence my answer. However, it is never smart to get pregnant right after you have lost a baby for several reasons. The first reason is physiological.... when you miscarried your baby, your cervix (the openning to the uterus or womb) had to open up for the baby (fetus) to come out or be miscarried. This means you need to wait a while for your body to get back to normal. In other words you need to wait until your cervix has closed or you will probably lose you next baby too.

The next factor has to do with your psychological health. When one loses a baby, the mother must be given enough time to mourn the loss of the baby. Even though you probably weren't pregnant very long, your hormones are raging. You need to give yourself time to grieve your loss. Because of the pain often you may feel you want to replace the baby you lost as soon as possible. Give yourself time!!!!

Another question is, "Are you financially able to support a child?" Research has shown that in order to support your child appropriately during the first year of its life, it cost around $50,000.00. Do you have a job? Does your boyfriend have a job? I know that these things don't seem to be important at this time, but you have to think about them.... for your future baby's sake. You don't want to be supported by welfare.... it is a deadend situation and the beginning of a hole that is almost impossible to get out of. Ask someone who has been in that situation.

Good luck with your life, Sweetie. Please, please think. Talk with someone you respect like your minister or priest. If you know a nurse, talk with him/her. Or maybe you could talk with your parents if you are comfortable doing that...... just talk to someone before you make this HUGE decision.

Yours.....

Answer 4

Please do not feel guilty about it, it is not your fault. I also had a misscarriage a couple of months ago. You have the right to feel sad, but do not let it depress you. You should go to the doctor and talk about what happen, and see if everything is going to be okay for you to start trying again. My doctor wanted me to wait till I had another normal cycle, then start trying. I too want to get pregnant quickly, so i am taking a pill to help out with it also.
Hope everything goes well at the doctor and good luck!!!!

Answer 5

I am so sorry that happened. I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy. I was so depressed about it but ended up getting pregnant again about 2 months later. I now have an adorable 5 year old boy!

Answer 6

Stop feeling guilty. You did not do anything wrong. A miscarriage is a way your body reacts when something is wrong with the fetus. Wait a little while before getting pregnant again. Your body needs time to heal.

Answer 7

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I also had a miscarriage recently and I did not wait to get pregnant again. I got pregnant 2 weeks after the miscarriage.

Doctors say you should wait one cycle before you try again. Good luck!

Answer 8

I'm sorry. Please remember that when you have a miscarriage, it is not your fault. It is usually because the baby isn't developing properly (I've gone through it several times). Take time to heal yourself before you go and get pregnant again. If you haven't seen a doctor, go see one to make sure everything is okay to proceed. It is recommended that you wait at least 6 weeks before trying again.

Answer 9

My hubby and I got pregnant last year 11/2006 and I had a miscarriage after 8 weeks. I had a D & C and we've been trying since I was cleared by my doctor. Try calculating your ovulation dates and have fun trying.

Answer 10

first of all don't feel guilty. I had a miscarriage also last year. I felt like it was my fault and that led to depression. It will only happen in God's timing we can not control when it will happen again. Blessings!