If you found out your child had chromosomal abnormalities like Down Syndrome? I had my test today (16 weeks) and was just wondering what people would do if they got back bad news. I'm not saying I would but it makes me nervous anyway. What would you do if you were honestly faced with this?
2007-05-25 07:52:57 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Abortion is not an option for me, so I refused the amnio. I did have the 3D/4D ultrasound and it showed severe abnormalities. The doctor strongly recommended I terminate. He said if the baby made it, she would need a heart transplant at birth and would probably be severly retarded and have other problems. I chose to continue with the pregnancy and prayed to God that His will be done. Her heart stopped beating two weeks later and I delivered her stillborn. She's now my angel in heaven.
So, yes, I have faced your dilemma and made the decision that will allow me to face myself in the mirror for the rest of my life.
2007-05-25 16:04:57 · answer #1 · answered by ღ†Rocker Wife†ღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The triple screen tells your risk of having a child with Down syndrome or other chromosomal issues, but it does not tell you if your child actually has one of these disorders, it can only give you the odds. It also cannot tell you for sure that you will have a healthy child. The doctor will say something like you have a 1 in 500 chance of having a child with down syndrome, etc.
Most doctors give a choice whether or not to take it - I chose not too because I was not in a high risk group and knew I would not abort anyway.
But don't worry too much, if you come back high risk, they can run another test, do an ultrasound and do an amnio if all else fails.
But I have heard from a number of friends who took it that they were in the "increased risk" group and worried for nothing - giving birth to a healthy child.
Personally, I have such love for my son and can't imagine not knowing him that I would want to have him in my life no matter what ailments he came to me with.
But I would not worry yourself too much on it until you get the results back.
2007-05-25 08:37:53 · answer #2 · answered by mikeslgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, I wouldn't have an abortion if my baby had Down Syndrome. There are some chromosome problems that baby's can live with if you have the money and time to spend on them. If, however, you decide that you don't think it would be fair to the baby and know for 100% that the baby has an abnormality, it is your choice to terminate the pregnancy. I have been faced with a similar situation. My baby had Turner Syndrome (chrom. disorder in girls) as well as several other life-threatening problems (heart problems). I chose to terminate the pregnancy because I knew for certain that the baby wouldn't survive and it could have caused damage to my body if I carried her to term. Best of luck to you and only you can make the decision that's best for you. If you don't know the results of your test, do not fret over them. Your baby will most likely be fine!
2007-05-25 08:01:12 · answer #3 · answered by Kristi P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't have an abortion. Children and adults with Down syndrome can live fulfilling lives and deserve to live just like any other child. The child would still be perfect in my eyes and I would love them like I would any other child. Yes, it will be harder, but it would be worth it. You have to think, God would not give you a child with Down syndrome if there wasn't a reason. Have you ever met someone with Down syndrome? Their amazing people! They have an entirely different outlook on the world and it is heartwarming and humbling to hear them explain the world around them.
I think all women are nervous to get their test results back. Just remember that no matter what the test says, he/she is still your child.
Good luck.
-Brit
2007-05-25 08:06:13 · answer #4 · answered by Positively Pink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. First, those tests are not 100% accurate. They more or less give you an "it's possible" scenario. Second, I would rather have one minute with my child in my arms, than a lifetime without. People with Downs Syndrome can lead happy lives. It's the parents that have the stressors. I could never be selfish enough to say "well, I can't handle that disorder, so I'll just terminate." That's my two cents. Best of luck.
2007-05-25 08:01:21 · answer #5 · answered by duckygrl21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend that got the same test done and has the same results. She carried the baby to term and when the baby arrived.. she was as perfect as any other baby. Sometimes these tests are wrong! I think they cause concern when there really isn't a need. Does any pregnanat woman need to be stressed out? My wife didn't have the test done because we didnt' want to know of any abnormalities. We were gonna love our baby no matter what.
I would not have my wife get an abortion. I would not suggest anyone to have an abortion because you never know.
2007-05-25 08:00:42 · answer #6 · answered by black97accord 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Very hard question to answer. I have my 1st trimester screening on 6/15 and this is something I am going to have to face as well.
I have a special needs child now and it's NOT easy!! Can I handle another one? I don't think so BUT I was looking at pictures of abortions last night and they were awful.
I guess for me it would depend on the severity of it. Would it just be Down or would it be Trisomy 18 which is more serious and kids don't live long.
It's probably one of the hardest decisions you have to make. Did you get your results? Here you should get them the same day.
Best wishes!!
2007-05-25 08:00:00 · answer #7 · answered by Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO it's your baby and you should love it even if the baby has birth defects!! i honestley think that if you kill your baby just because it has chromosomal abnormalities than your a freeking wierdo,i know itll be hard on you and the baby's daddy but you have to remember that the baby is yours and you made it you should love it no madder what,, hasnt your mom and dad ever told you that they would love you uncondishonally?? this is the same case just becasue your baby has a birth defect you should still love it and even if you dont want it you could atleast give your baby the joy of life and give it up for adopshion so someone elce can love it!..that's what i think about it you do as you please it's your baby not mine i just listen to your heart and do what's right!
2007-05-25 08:32:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope I would not and the biggest reason is there have been thousands of people told they were having babies with defects or some other problem and have ended up having a perfectly healthy baby. Test are not always right just as someone can be told there having a healthy baby and end up having a baby with down syndrome.
2007-05-25 08:05:38 · answer #9 · answered by Diamonds_Glow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my auntie is down sindrome and she is the friendliest person ever. She's about 45 now and she's still going strong.
My mum always said when the baby is born and growing, you grow to the down sindrome, because it's not like someone saying "here you go, look after a down sindrome", you learn with the baby.
There is nothing wrong with them, they cry, laugh, smile, burp, fart, do everything but they only learn a lot slower than other normal babies.
Please think about it, i'm due for a blood test monday to check if the baby has any abnormalities.
Still it's a hard long thinking decision
2007-05-25 08:08:51 · answer #10 · answered by Mummy 2 Lorenzo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋