I am married for 12 years and have 3 kids. I work with a women who married and has 3 kids. We have always been very close friends. About 2 years ago I thought I was falling in love with her and it took me a while to get over it. The past 6 month or so she seems to be making little hints that she has feelings for me but sometimes it's hard to tell because she naturally has a flirtatious personality. Once a while be back were out drinking and we kissed. Now she keeps joking around saying that we should do that again. Both our marriages are in a little trouble and I honestly think we are 2 people that would be great as husband and wife. How do I address this with her without ruining the freindship?
2007-05-25 07:46:01 · 18 answers · asked by Regular Tampa Guy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You might think you will be a great couple, but and there is a big BUT. The grass always look greener on the other side of the fence. I've heard too many stories about couples breaking up their marriages, because they think they will be the perfect couple. Turns out they were miserable and realized they were better off with their first spouses. So...my advice is don't go down that road and break off or scale back your friendship.
2007-05-25 07:55:32 · answer #1 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I do not think you should be addressing it at all. As long as you are married, you still have a commitment to your wife. I think you need to resolve the issues with your wife first, and if it ends in divorce than you should think about seeing other people. You also must be considerate to her husband, if she ever becomes divorce than you should address it. It may just be a phase you are going through, because you two may be going through similar situations. So, the feelings may past, so I think it's better you keep it to yourself, while you two are still married.
2007-05-25 15:16:58 · answer #2 · answered by Linda J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what the state of your marriage is in. In fact, if it is not going well, this will only make it worse. I say work on your marriage first. You have kids to think about, not just yourself. Focus on the things that you first fell in love with about your wife and try to mend things with her. Saving your marriage is one of the best things that you can do for yourself and for your kids. Another woman only brings more baggage and more flaws that you have to deal with. you already know your wife's and have been dealing with those. The grass isn't always greener (in fact, it isn't really ever).
2007-05-25 14:55:37 · answer #3 · answered by lucard100 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. Or maybe you'd like to ask your 3 kids how they'd like to have their home totally destroyed because dad got the hots for some married woman. A married woman drinking and making out with married men won't make a good wife as she seems- like you- to have no regard for wedding vows. Quit your job and quit playing with your childrens' future.
2007-05-25 14:54:26 · answer #4 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be upfront. Tell her that friends and co workers are all that you be. Tell her that you are re focused on saving your marraige and perhaps she should do the same.
You both have too much to lose to take such a risk.
It's never good to get involved with a married woman add the fact that she's also a co worker and that's a double no no.
2007-05-25 14:52:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since you are already thinking of cheating on your wife and family, why don’t you go to the court house and file a divorce?
You already want to do it, so think of your wife and don't destroy her life by telling her I cheated on you; Instead tell her that you have been thinking of other people; and you want divorce...
OR do you just want to have an affair? If thats the case ... you are very selfish
2007-05-25 15:04:50 · answer #6 · answered by ep_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Both our marriages are in a little trouble and I honestly think we are 2 people that would be great as husband and wife"
Yeah....going out drinking and kissing, I'd say your marriages are in a little more than "a little" trouble....
And remember, you once thought You and YOUR WIFE would be great as husband and wife too.....
But go right ahead, go screw up your whole life and tear your family apart....stupid, just stupid....
2007-05-25 14:54:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not try and fix the problems with your own marriage instead of trying to start a new one. Eventually there will be issues in the new marriage. Will you just up and find someone else?
2007-05-25 14:52:18 · answer #8 · answered by mable3691214 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make your marriage work, stop listening to this woman, you think that you 2 could work out, but you can't because she obvously doesn't think very high of marriage. tell your wife what is going on, and read the Bible.
2007-05-25 14:53:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're married. End of discussion. Unless you divorce your wife, you should not even consider this woman. Try working on your marriage. Your wife will thank you for it.
2007-05-25 14:54:39 · answer #10 · answered by magix151 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋