Girls, i want a baby! But I dotn want to want a baby...?

Question

I am so jealous of everyone with babies... and I want one... but I know Im just not ready, financially or mentally! have you ever felt like this?

Answer 1

definition of jealous: feeling resentment against someone because of that person's rivalry, success, or advantages

I hope you really aren't actually jealous of people with babies; but, are more of longing for the experience yourself. If you are actually jealous, then you probably need to get yourself into a more healthy frame of mind before having or wanting children. Having a child is very hard work. You are never truly ready for it. Doing it by yourself is even harder. Resenting others for already having what you one day want will only result in bringing anger into the mix.

I would suggest that once you find somebody that you would willingly share this life changing event with that you don't rush into it. Make sure the desire is from your heart and not your head.

Perhaps, if you are able to do so in spare time, you could look into working in a day care facility. This will give you a lot of hands on experience with many different types of children. You will become familiar with different personalities or lack thereof...and best of all...they don't have to come home with you! :)

Jealousy is not healthy...but having a dream is. If this is your dream, then slowly start working towards it. If it is jealousy, please, let it go and be happy with those around you who have kids.

Answer 2

Well first of all how old are you? It's ok to feel that way but if you know that you are not ready then you should really wait until you feel somewhat ready, to be honest I don't believe anyone is ever really ready but you can at least be more financially ready. I am 24 yrs old and am having my first child, it was not planned nor was I ready at all, a child was the last on my mind, but when I found out I was pregnant I was scared at first but after the fear, I was sooo happy. Even if someone is not ready, when the baby's coming you got to get ready. I do think you should wait though especially if you are really young, go to school and get ahead in life for you and your future children, just because a baby is cute is not a reason to have one because believe me I'm sure there are alot of things that your friends go through that you don't see that would probably make you think twice about wanting a child right now.

Answer 3

I am in the same boat except we are financially ready and we have been married over a year and been together for a total of 6 years, but he just isnt ready to have a baby. My brothers GF is preg and due to have the baby any day now and I get so sad when I am around her because I want a baby. I feel like everyone around me is preg except for me. My husband and i have traveled the world, spent plenty of time together and are stable now. I am going to respect his wishes because we are still young and we have plenty of time to have a baby and we can also wait but I am about to go crazy!

Answer 4

You should want a baby for the right reasons not just because everybody else has a baby and you want one because of the attention their getting. Things might look good for right now but there are bumpy roads when you have a child and its not always the best of times. Don't worry you will get your chance to have a child and im sure you will make a great mother. Just hang in there and make sure the time is right!

Answer 5

I felt like that going through high school. Oddly enough everyone I knew was having kids (in high school). I was so jealous, but now I'm going to be a mom myself and high school is way over for me. Just be patient when the time is right you'll end up with a baby. Just remember everything happens for a reason and if you couldn't handle it, it wouldn't happen to you. That's what I tell myself every day.

Answer 6

Absolutely have...but now im pregnant with one, and know im ready, cant wait very excited, both me and my boyfriend...im remember when we had pregnancys scares when we first starting dating i skipped a period and thought i was prego, he would get mad and be like u need to get on birth control....well we broke up last yr 4 different reason for a month and got back together, before we broke up together for 4 yrs...once we got back together prolly 2 months later i was pregnant, and he is ecstatic about it, more happy than me at times....Point of this story is you need to be with someone who loves you and wants a baby as well, you dont need to be alone in it...you may not be ready, but once you are pregnant you have to get ur self ready because there is no turning back...
Good luck in the future

Answer 7

OMG I feel the exact same way! I want a baby so much but I know that it wouldn't be a good time to try!! (I am still on contract at work) I work with a girl who is 5 months and we are in the middle of planning her Shower and everything! I am SO JEALOUS!!!

So, no you are not a lone in that!!

Answer 8

yes, but be patient the time will be right sometime, for now work on your relationships, school, job, ect and you can KNOW you did the best you could to be responsible and ready when the time does come...its better to be financially stable as babies cost alot and not just medical bills and diapers - there are millions of ways to spend $$ on kids

Answer 9

Get a hobby. You know you aren't ready, and you need to get this obsession out of your mind.

When you are ready financially, mentally, and physically then you will have one.

Just know that kids are TOUGH. The first three months alone drive most couples to the breaking point.

Answer 10

I have felt this way. It's hard to just put your strong feelings aside, but you should wait until you are in a good position to have a baby. Both you and your baby will be better for it.