...if you've ever had a traumatic experience at some point in life & go back to that place where it happened with someone you trust & feel "safe" with,do you think it is a good idea to help forget or just bring up bad memories? Thanks, : )
2007-05-25 06:53:18 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
...thank you all sooo much.These are some very very helpful answers.Thank you! : )
2007-05-25 08:04:20 · update #1
...to "Ponderous"...there is a time for joking & a time not too.Do you know about something that you PROBABLY should'nt?
2007-05-25 08:11:21 · update #2
It helped me. tremendously. It was like i was able to face it, but in case it was too much i had back-up. and yes, now that i have gone back to it, it has helped to put in perspective, and now i have been able to accept it for what it was, and then let it go. it doesn't rule my life anymore. and yes, being in that place did bring up some bad memories but this time I wasn't alone. This time i was in control. this time i was safe. and that made all the difference.
good luck.
2007-05-25 07:07:09 · answer #1 · answered by RealRedhead 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is really depend ant upon the person. Since you are asking the question, I am going to assume that you at least have an interest in doing so if not, don't even consider it. This is a decision you need to make on your own and not at the coaxing of others. That being said, it depends on the nature of the trauma. If we are talking about a car wreck or similar trauma where you possibly lost a loved one, it can be therapeutic to return to the scene to gain closure on the event. In instances of assault or similar trauma, the rush of emotion can often be more than you can bare. In any instance, make sure your friend knows and understands what they are committing to as this may be more than an afternoon or a day of support. You may have feelings that you didn't know you had coming back to you for some time after the visit. be prepared to deal with these and get them out as suppressing them a second time will do more harm than good.
2007-05-25 14:55:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Didn't help me at all. It didn't change anything. It served only as a reminder of what happened, and I don't need a reminder. I have the scars to remind me, every day. I don't need to go back to the place where it happened. Every time I look in the mirror (with my shirt off) I get an eyeful of the reminder that security, promise, and friendship don't last.
People don't care about you. All you are mean to anybody is what you have to offer them. After that, you can lie there and bleed to death, and they don't care, except to make sure that your blood isn't on their hands.
2007-06-02 11:01:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It worked for me. I pushed the memories away constantly, but sometimes they would just overwhelm me. I learned to put them off for just a little longer until I was 'safe', usually with a friend who would let me just cry. Afterwards I would feel a bit better and gradually the memories stopped overwhelming me.
2007-05-30 19:48:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might help to go back to the place but I think that it is even better to go back to the event in your mind and accept that it did happen and then put it aside. I was abused as a child and I had to put it aside many times before it stayed there. You can never forget but you can accept and put it away.
2007-05-25 13:58:53 · answer #5 · answered by letaican 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I actually think it's a great way to FACE your fears. If you have someone with whom you REALLY trust and FEEL really safe with then yes. You are placing yourself in a real life situation that is causing anxiety but which allows you to heal and deal/ cope with it better, so yes, I do think it's a WAY to overcome your fears.
2007-05-25 15:16:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different, so some one can't say how it would affect you. I doubt seriously that you will ever forget. You probably revisit the place many times in your mind. I cannot see how seeing it again will help.
2007-05-25 14:08:48 · answer #7 · answered by cavassi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are ready for that step it is a good thing.. if you aren't ready yet it may do more damage than good.
they are actually using virtual reality to place soldiers "back on the battle field" to help council them threw PTSD.. granted they are working with councilors whereas you will be with a friend.. but there is some merit to it.
2007-05-25 14:00:23 · answer #8 · answered by pip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes I think it's a good way of coping. You must learn how to face your fears and later on it's gonna feel less traumatic.
2007-06-02 06:37:49 · answer #9 · answered by Dodie's Back! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a good way to cope. To see the spot from a different light, from a different point of view. Seeing it with anther person, may let you see it from their eyes.
2007-05-25 14:02:29 · answer #10 · answered by Oilfieldtrashwtx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋