2007-05-25 05:48:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The real you should have been honest in the first place.
2007-05-25 05:52:32 · answer #1 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one can be enchanting, interesting, or funny all the time. The longer you are in a relationship, themore time you spend with someone, and so it's natural that you will see more of the "boring" sides of each other. If your fiance is the right person for you, a) you should feel comfortable being "boring" around him every once in awhile b) he shouldn't make you feel guilty about being "boring" every once in awhile c) you still both find each other interesting and lovable even though you sometimes see the "off" sides of each other.
If your impression of yourself as boring is internally driven-- coming from insecurity or from a worry that you need to be interesting all the time--you just need to do what you can to get over it. But if your fiance is doing something to make you feel that way, then he's not the right person for you--the right person will make you feel loved no matter what side of yourself you show to them.
2007-05-25 15:56:06 · answer #2 · answered by Acadia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hun sounds like a minor bought with cold feet. We all think that... The key is to be yourself and once ya'll get married to keep the spice in it. No matter how busy you guys get with work or kids always take some time everyday if you can at least once a week to have a date night go out and do somethin fun. And don't beafraid to talk to your fiance about this... The foundation of a good relationship is communication. I bet you he's got some fears too... and he will probably think that you're not boring and you're a bit silly to think so... and I bet that any fears he has you'll think the same thing. Talk to him... best way to put your nerves to rest.
CONGRATS!!! and don't for get to take time and talk :D
2007-05-25 13:25:47 · answer #3 · answered by Jembee1720 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it hard to believe that a fiance would find anything his/her love did was boring. Don't judge yourself too harshly. We can find love and excitement in every action if we look deeply enough. Sometimes we get distracted from what we came to fall in love with initially, and one of those things are the thoughts of planning a wedding. I remember when we were planning my wife and I often said that elopement was looking good. Keep the spark alive. Just think, no one is a boring person, they just do boring things. Look to do something special and unexpected. Good luck! The fact that you are concerned bodes well.
If your fiance is really bored, then maybe it is time to look things over and talk about it.
2007-05-25 12:59:25 · answer #4 · answered by cavassi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The real you? So, he fell in love with the facade you? I don't believe this for a minute, you most likely have judged yourself this way and not he. The question you pose leads me to believe that you are rather young. First we must set parameters for and definitions of what is boring. Is it you have not motivation for doing extra curricular things, movies, dinners, sporting events? Is it in a bland taste of clothing, no interest in conversation, no drive or ambitions to continue your education and career goals, is it that you sit around the house type of boring?
Do you understand what I am saying here? It will truly help if you stop labeling yourself as such, and start finding things that you wonder about to talk on. I love talking to another about the great and also the insignificant things in life. Initiate a date, plan it through. Read. When we read we spark our imagination. Set goals. Educational, social, personal goals and discipline yourself to reach them.
We are all boring. We are all of unique great interest also, at the same time mind you. But, you have already addressed the biggest thing, if you believe yourself as such, then you are. So, now it is up to you to not wallow in mire and self deprecation, but rather start valuing yourself, respect your qualities, reach for that part of you that only you yourself can find peace with. It is when we love, respect and carry ourselves with purpose and drive and spontenaity that we are, indeed, just that; uniquely interesting.
2007-05-25 13:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by etienne primeau 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't consider yourself boring. ALL people have interests, so don't sell yourself so short, I bet you're an introvert, I just bet you are LOL, absolutely nothing wrong with that if you are ok, cuz I'm 1. But you're fiance sees something wonderful in you, take part in some of the things he likes to do, and have him take part in the things you like to do ok!~
2007-05-25 15:19:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suspect you are less boring than you think. You couldn't have come this far in the relationship concealing that you are boring.
The very fact that you have some sort of inkling that you are boring is a sign you may not be. Bores rarely know they're bores.
2007-05-25 12:59:32 · answer #7 · answered by jackbutler5555 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he thinks your boring, he isnt such a good fiance. Fiance's should love you for who you are, not who you try to be. Be yourself, i mean, its not that YOU think your boring, its him. Make a wise choice.
2007-05-25 12:59:01 · answer #8 · answered by GorgeousGal10 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You make the fiance provide the entertainment.
2007-05-25 12:56:30 · answer #9 · answered by Handy man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing.......I am not boring....I am far from it......The real me has an anger problem.....They have to see the real you and you have to see the real them......or you don't have a real relationship.
2007-05-25 12:54:27 · answer #10 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋