2007-05-25 05:26:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I had decided for over 10 years not to have another because the labor and delivery was really hard and scary. Then I "accidently" got pregnant. I switched from the pill to the patch and it didn't work. now i have a 2 year old son and we can't imagine life without him. and by the way, the labor with my son was even harder than with my daughter.
2007-05-25 05:32:30 · answer #1 · answered by iluvturtles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am struggling with the same problem. I have one daughter, she's 6 months old. I hated being pregnant (gained over 80 lbs) and I hated the labor, the pushing, and then finally the emergency C section. I really, really do not want to have another child at this point and am so happy with just my little one. But I don't want her to be resentful of me for not having any brothers or sisters for her. I have asked everyone I know that is an only child if they wished they had siblings and every single one of them said yes. So I don't know...then also I don't want to have a second just to make my first happy....it's hard. Also, I don't want to raise a spoiled brat. It's a lot to think about. If you are young, and you have time, I would wait awhile before you make any final decisions, otherwise, I would do some research and soul searching and see where it puts you. Plus, you have to think of the financial expense you'll be putting your family in.
2007-05-25 18:21:57 · answer #2 · answered by sara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my son at 19 and because he is now 13, I can't imagine starting over with another. I missed out on a lot of wonderful things (although I would never trade my son for anything). He was truly a gift. BUT...I am halfway to doing some things I never had the chance to experience.
Sometimes I think my son would have benefited from a sibling but it's a little late now.
2007-05-25 12:43:03 · answer #3 · answered by Missy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the only child growing up. My dad travelled a lot and my mom worked a ton. I'm now 32 and married -- my wife had 2 brothers growing up.
Being the only child can be good and bad. My dad died about 6 years ago and it was incredibly hard to deal with and the entire time we were going though it, it would've been very nice to have a sibling that was going though the same thing and someone you could relate to. When dealing with family hardships, it would be nice to have someone else there.
I now have two kids -- 4 and 1. It was never in the cards for us to only have one....
2007-05-25 12:36:07 · answer #4 · answered by Gallo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 10 year old (soon to be 11 years old next month) and I do not regret having just one. Why one? Because that's all I wanted.
2007-05-28 14:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by Becky H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i actually decided, when i was delivering my son, that i wanted to have another baby. seriously, right in the middle of pushing i was like, "i could do this again". and a year and 1/2 later, i'm pregnant again. wahoo!
2007-05-25 12:34:23 · answer #6 · answered by practicalwizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was 39yrs old when i had my 1st "surprise"...we are very happy with having just one at this point...no, i do not regret my decision
2007-05-25 13:06:46 · answer #7 · answered by dflannery715 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is gonna be hard to raise one how much more if your having more than one.
2007-05-26 04:30:45 · answer #8 · answered by sheila l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have one son. not my choice to just have one i just cant seem to get and stay pregnant
2007-05-25 12:29:45 · answer #9 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋