Each year my little girl scout comes close to being the top cookie seller in her troop but falls just short of the top prize. This mainly happens as the rich parents in the troop buy hundred boxes for themselves so their daughters have high sales. This is very unfair to my daughter as I'm not going to buy hundreds of boxes.
However, this year I pulled it off. I put in a fake order for over 1,500 boxes under the name of a neighbor that I knew would decease before the arrival of the cookies. So when the prizes where handed out all I had to say was my top buyer had deceased. Through a loophole in the girl scout cookie selling manual my daughter was declared top seller. I was so proud to see my daughter take that top prize.
My wife is very angry about this as she did not know what was going out till it was over. Demands our daughter returns the top prize. There is NO WAY I'm returning this prize after all that hard work. How can I tell my wife nicely to sit back and be quiet?
2007-05-25 05:19:12 · 16 answers · asked by Rick Martel 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Oh, how proud you must be! You've alienated a perfectly wonderful wife and taught your poor daughter that, not only is she not good enough for you unless she is the winner, but that it doesn't matter how you win; cheat, lie, be a liar, as long as it's a victory.
Apparently, you even murdered your neighbour!
You are a sad, sad and poor excuse for a Father - and a truly rotten Dad.
Unless, of course, you are making it up?
2007-05-25 05:24:41 · answer #1 · answered by The Dalai Farmer 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's a matter of what you feel is right. You and your wife are both justified in your stances, you because the other girls have cheated in the past when your daughter has been diligent and been an honest Girl Scout and your wife because she may feel that dishonesty isn't the way to win, even if other people are doing it.
I do not know very much about the Girl Scout organization because I never was one. Ironically, my mom wouldn't let me join because of the cookie selling. I personally think making a fake order for someone who you "knew would decease before the arrival of the cookies" is ethically wrong. Then again, I've never seen your daughter's face when she worked hard to try to become the best seller year after year and still not win the top prize.
When you say that you're not returning the prize "after all that hard work", do you mean your daughter's hard work or your own? Is it possible that your daughter was content with the amount she had sold all by herself and was angrier about the other girls cheating by having their parents buy a lot of boxes? Have you considered how your daughter would feel if she knew that she had joined these other girls in being deceitful in order to win a prize? Or if she knew about this, what sort of model do you think you're setting for her?
Personally, I would not do anything more about it if no one other than my family knew, but make sure I let my daughter know that this is a one time thing so that she could win the prize once for all of her hard work. I understand about not getting awards you definitely deserve, but I've also gotten prizes for things I didn't deserve at all.
Best of luck on your decided course of action.
2007-05-25 05:43:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, but what exactly are you teaching your daughter???? GS law - honest and fair! As a parent, it is your job to help you daughter live up to the law, not tear it apart!
Our girls shouldn't be doing these things to earn prizes... that is just a bonus! Through cookie sales they learn self confidence, entrepreneurial skills, advertising & marketing, value of a dollar, community service, planning, organization, etc. It's a valuable teaching tool that you have made a mockery of!
I know you can't stop what other parents are doing, but it was your job to explain to your daughter that while the other girls may have sold more, that she was truly the winner, because SHE had sold the cookies, not her parents. That she had worked for every box and she was the better person at the end of the day. Now, you just have a daughter who thinks that if she should have a prize that daddy will get it for her!
Will you be doing the work for her badges as well, or just lying to the leader about work she hasn't done.
As for your wife.... she's a jewel, and you and your daughter should do what she is asking you to do. And in the future, let her be the one to help your daughter with her scouting!
2007-05-27 03:03:43 · answer #3 · answered by usafbrat64 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What hard work? You created a fake order? You are teaching your daughter that cheating is how to get ahead in life. Don't whine about what other parents are doing with their kids. Worry about your own. I say return the prize and apologize for running a little scam.
Of course, after reading your other questions, if seems pretty obvious that you are nothing more than a troll.
2007-05-25 05:24:05 · answer #4 · answered by A.Mercer 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOU are way out of line! You cheated and once a girl scout myself honesty is part of our motto. You cannot lie cheat or steal to win a contest. You are teaching your child a very bad thing. Shame on you for putting your child in this position. Why couldn't you have just taken her out after the contest to do something she really likes and told her she'll always be a winner in your eyes. Don't stoop to the other parents level to rig a cookie selling contest. I hope you can get your self respect back after pulling this deceitful act!
2016-05-17 12:02:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Under normal circumstances I would say yes, you are horrible, haha. If it were a matter of a normal girl scout cookie sale however, the emphasis would be placed in how the girls are learning a variety of life skills as relevant to self provision that will only grow as they get older and your involvement would only disable that growth, but that is under normal circumstances. If your little girl has been making an honest attempt to do her best the right way and comes up just a little short of doing the best while the kids who do receive the reward primarily receive it because of their parent's "involvement" as you explained, then I say rock on bro, you did the right thing.
2007-05-25 05:28:31 · answer #6 · answered by Will 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi Rick Mar...SHAME SHAME SHAME on you! 1.) I hope your daughter has no knowledge of your dispicable act. 2.) Something worth winning by ways of disseption and dishonesty are just not good moral values. 3.) One of the greatest joys/thrills we have as parents is, seeing how proud and confidant our child gets when he/she achieves a goal through hard work. 4.) It's not always about winning! Life isn't fair sometimes, does that justify cheating? I believe you should teach/encourage your child to try many challenges, to pursue many things. 5.) Celebrate her "success" at home with family/friends. That "instills" just as much...if not more! 6.) I hope your wife sticks to her guns! XOXO Moonpie
2007-05-25 05:38:05 · answer #7 · answered by Metallicamoon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you return the cookies or did you pay for them to resell for your daughters sake....if you returned the cookies due to the 'deceased' neighbor..yes you should return the top prize...but if you resold the cookies or paid for them yourself then keep the prize, but what does this teach your child and what does that say about yourself
2007-05-25 05:24:59 · answer #8 · answered by jonni_hayes 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The troop is now responsible for selling those 1500 boxes of cookies. If you aren't making this up I hope your wife makes you stand outside the grocer stores with all the little girls till every last box of cookies is accounted for. May it rain only on you.
2007-05-25 05:28:28 · answer #9 · answered by P C 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You cheated just like those other parents cheated.
Two wrongs don't make a right.
I think you should be the one to return the prize and apologize to everyone and tell them what you did.
You are no better then those other parents.
2007-05-25 05:25:28 · answer #10 · answered by Light Yagami 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋