I think my friend Crys is gay... she is always talking about women, not in a bad way.... but it's the way she says it.. and her boyfriend is really ... metro.... I don't know how to talk to her about it. I know she wants to be with a women. I just want her to admitt it, but not kill our friendship.
2007-05-25 04:58:49 · 15 answers · asked by yodieroth 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Then talk to her and say something like, "you know I really value our friendship and nothing would ever change that... are you gay?" I mean if you support your statement/question with facts and your actions, if she is gay she will tell you.
2007-05-25 05:07:04 · answer #1 · answered by Jyse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are reading far too much into this. Why do you give a damn if your friend is gay...unless you are romantically interested in her...in that case, YOU just come out and say it. Otherwise, her sexuality is in no way any of your business.. I suspect that IF she were to tell you, you would be the first to tell someone else the "secret," and within 10 minutes, the entire school would know about it....or the office place, or the neighborhood. Nose out of her business...perhaps she will return the favor to you and keep her distance in matters that do not concern her. Good luck and peace.
2007-05-25 12:07:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whether or not she is gay is really none of your business unless she decides to make it your business. Just leave it alone if you don't want to kill your friendship. When and if she is ready she will tell you. Why is it so important that you know any way?
2007-05-25 12:20:45 · answer #3 · answered by Lilly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the two of you are truly friends, asking her will not kill the friendship. Are you gay? Does it matter to you if she is gay? Why do you need to know if she is? As long as you don't want to sleep with her, it should not matter if she is gay or not!!!
2007-05-25 12:07:28 · answer #4 · answered by Busy Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does it matter?
Anyway, don't come out and confront her about it--that may send up ome red flags. Comment on a hot girl at school (even if you aren't gay) and see how she responds/reacts. That would be one approach I'd use.
2007-05-25 12:24:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can always drop some positive notes like,
"I'd be your friend, even if you were gay."
She'll figure it out when she's ready.
2007-05-25 12:06:26 · answer #6 · answered by quirky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could just ask her, since you two are best friends she shouldn't mind telling you especially if you let her know that you have nothing against gay people.
2007-05-25 13:23:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her...maybe she'll tell you. At least you'll get some kind of answer.
2007-05-25 12:02:23 · answer #8 · answered by napqueen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would her orientation kill your friendship? if she knows you are not, she likely won't be hitting on you anyway.
2007-05-25 12:02:24 · answer #9 · answered by Made You Look 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you care? just let it go before you ruin your friendship
2007-05-25 12:03:25 · answer #10 · answered by snwbm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋