Why do people think I am fake?

Question

I'm always happy, I mean I have a great life, so I always great people with a smlie... but, some think I am up to something, or I want something...

It's funny, cause I don't ususally let anything bother me, but now it's starting to.

What the hell is up? Are people so gelous that someone can't be happy all the time?

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Answer 1

I don't know why, I am happy the majority of the time, I appreciate what I have and I am also always smiling as well. Though I tend to spend the majority of my time with people who appreciate life as well. I can understand how people would be jealous and show this as an attack to avoid letting you know of how they feel.
The other thing is that its not normal to be happy all of the time, it is ideal the majority of the time, but you have other emotions that occur as a human being and if you avoid them with a smile, you are hiding them, and it could come off as fake. The important thing to remember is that you want to feel all your emotions but only long enough to learn and move on, no dwelling and no avoiding.
I admire your choose to be happy, but don't let that stop you from feeling everything else.

Answer 2

First of all, who thinks you're fake? People who are close to you, or acquaintances? That makes a big difference.
People probably are jealous, but I doubt that is the only reason that people comment on you being "fake". Do you cover up your feelings? That could be why. I have a friend who had the same problem. He had everything going for him- looks, personality, etc. He was very optimistic and sort of beamed on the world. However, the more I got to know him, the more I realized that he had deep-rooted issues and feelings he rarely, if ever revealed. I felt like he was pretending to be something to the world that he was not. He would try to get me to talk about personal things that I didn't feel like discussing, yet he didn't want to reveal any of his problems. Did he have a motive in being my friend? I don't know. I moved so I never see him any more and it's not an issue.

Answer 3

Just be yourself. There is no reason to be apologetic and you should not spend too much time thinking about what other people think of you - it is called being self-absorbed.
I was talking with an aunt one time. We are not that different in age, about 10 years or so. She asked me why I was always such a happy person, more or less, despite everything that had happened to me. I tried to give some long complicated philosophical explanation, but she interrupted and said, "NO. That isn't it. You know, you were born happy. You came home with a smile on your face and every time I have see you, you are smiling. I think people are just born that way." Some people always look on the sunny side of life.

Answer 4

I once went into a bank and the greeter was TOO friendly. With a big smile and loud voice that was more than scary than welcome. It was really unprofessional and I wanted to say something but, decided to let it go and me and my gf just laughed.

My reasons being is people are not that happy when confronted by a stranger in nature. A smile is appropriate but, if the voice and smile are overdone it appears sneaky. As if you have hidden motives. People are just not naturally that happy to see a stranger in most environments. Even with a paycheck in mind it can seem too much.

When someone appears to be your buddy without ever knowing you it seems like they want a use from you or want to sell you something. I know it's the object of the game but, it just can't be over shot. True altruism and friendliness at some levels just appears fake and unrealistic. People do things for gain and sometimes to be nice.

BTW that lady at the bank was fired like a day later. She was new. Not sure how you do things. There's nothing wrong with naturally being happy. But, our society just isn't used to a smile other than a business one. A fake business smile. A real smile in a business place seems fake to people doing business. I guess you have to appropriate the right smile for the right place. Or maybe the people you are with are too gloom for you.

Answer 5

It is good to be happy most of the time, but no one is ALWAYS happy, as you demonstrate by saying that people's opinions do affect and bother you.

It is also good that you have a great life and are apparently grateful for that, but it could probably be even better if you forget about yourself more and start tuning in to other people. It is not exactly that they are jealous of you, but rather that you seem to be showing off or gloating about your own happiness without being sensitive to the feelings or situations of others.

Someone once said to me, "You always seem to be smiling." I defused the potential disconnect by saying, "Not always. It's just that I am glad to see you." To lay a big smile on strangers may seem incomprehensible and suspect to them. That doesn't mean you should go around frowning. It is possible to look content and serene without grinning like a Cheshire cat.

Answer 6

I don't think they think you are fake, i DO THINK they think suspiciously about you because you're so happy, and to be quite honest somebody that's always cheesing gets my juices going too, not to say that YOU can't be a happy person most of the time, but smiling 24/7 is a bit off, lol. I met this guy and i knew something was telling me to run but I didn't, anyway, he was cheesing like crazy when he waled up to me to get my number, in my cashier line, to make a long story short, he had/has problems, BIG time, LOL so I'm not saying go around frowning but just be aware that consistently smiling 24'7 makes other pple feel uneasy ok!

Answer 7

First off let me say that if you truly are happy....AWESOME....good for you...but to answer why people react the way they do to you...heres my take.

The words "I'm always happy" already sent up a red flag for me...well unless you just aren't human.
Someone who is generally happy and bright shouldn't come off as fake, but someone who is overly sunshiny, NEVER appears to be anything less than HAPPY, is going to appear unnatural or fake, or someone who is hiding true feelings.
Also....some people can be downright annoying with their in your face happiness, especially if that person isn't feeling that great themselves.
You also might be coming off as a kiss @ss....a YES MAN....a people pleaser...someone who is actually insecure deep down inside, so therefore projects happiness as a front.
BALANCE.....life is played best in balance.
Not overly happy, not overly sad....just the natural ebbs and flows of human nature.
Have a nice day (which I'm sure you will) :)

Answer 8

Unfortunately, people are jealous and untrusting of others who seem to be happy all the time. I guess people just can't believe anyone could be really happy all the time or they think by being happy you are rubbing it in their faces that you have such a great life. Don't let it bother you...it's their problem. I think it's great to hear someone say they enjoy their life for a change. Continue to be happy and let the miserable stay miserable on their own.

Answer 9

I don't think they are jealous of you. They may be more envious of your ability to enjoy life. Unfortunately, misery loves company and some people just don't understand that there are a few of us that actually like our lives. I'm not saying my life is all sunshine and roses, but I try to be thankful for every day I'm given and I'm especially thankful for the good moments which far out number the bad ones. Just be yourself and don't change to fit some kind of norm, normal is highly overrated and boring. Keep smiling :o)

Answer 10

Ask yourself why these folks feel this way? Then ask yourself four more whys...you'll find that most of the time it has something to do with how you are presenting yourself to people. Jealous...doubtful, aggitated....likely.

To get the answer you can't look outside at others, you have to look inside at yourself. One person acting this way...their problem, multiple people acting like this...you have an issue you need to look at and fix. Its obviously bothering those around you...hard to swallow, but swallow it.