I have such people in my family,so it's inevitable dealing with them.
Any advice?
2007-05-25 02:54:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Listen MORE than twice as much as you talk. The less you say, the better. You will only get more frustrated.
Always have a kind word to say, and acknowledge how well they are doing in anything they are doing well in. It will put the focus and limelight on them, and they are starving for it.
Always remember, you are admired enough that people would want to be like you, but they can't manage those feelings and see it as THEIR failure. It is best to give them credit for doing as well as they can, because not everyone was blessed as much as they think you were, and you were blessed even if you think you worked for everything you got. Just think, everyone works hard, or at least they think they do, but do not accomplish as much. Some people have to work hard to overcome the qualities they have that prevent them from succeeding. As far as they can see, you don't have to. They probably love you anyway, despite your success. Show them how gracious you can be in that success, at least as they see it.
2007-05-25 03:06:44 · answer #1 · answered by cavassi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok little go getter...
http://www.drirene.com/verbal1.htm (this one for domestic abuse, which almost always accompanies alot of jealousy)
and
http://samvak.tripod.com/npdglance.html (a narcissism webiste for self-centered people) Help heal and rescue yourself.
Selfishness is catchy like a bad cold in a family. I've seen whole families of selfish people. But sometimes when its ramphed its a horrible abuse story... I've heard of families where every member of it has perpetuated abuses upon different people and spouses etc. Unfortunately the best thing to do when its prevalent and bad is get away from it.
Your better on your own. (once you turn 18! but, if you are under eighteen, get some knowledge, library, talk to school councelor etc. -) But not without proper help and information, otherwise we end up going out on our own and making friends with a group of abusive people. So educate yourself, go volunteer for a domestic abuse agency or some other agency like meals on wheels and just corner yourself in with healthy individuals that care about other people and not just theirselves.
Most of all, you are not crazy.
2007-05-25 10:11:01 · answer #2 · answered by Deborah C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh do I understand! The only thing I can suggest is to just try and avoid them, unfortunately I live with someone who CAN get jealous and it's really vexing to me because I'm not a jealous person at all.
2007-05-25 15:44:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid them, don't share information with them.......and ignore them. My sister in laws are terrible jealous of me and my up coming wedding- when ever they start, I just play dumb. This lets me slip out of it without a fight. I also have a friend who is jealous of everyone and everything..... I just ignore her.... cause their isn't much else I can do :)
Good luck, hopefully they are just jealous... and not petty as well.
2007-05-25 10:03:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't give them a reason to be jealous...
are you the youngest in the family..? if so, then there's really no avoiding that jealousy... but it will wear off in time...
what are the usual things that they're jealous of..? maybe they do have a point in being jealous... you also have to reassure them(not give them all the more reasons to reprimand you).
make them feel important to you, too... it might be that they are thinking that they aren't worth your time anymore...
spend more time with them and show them that you really care, you are a family...
good luck..!
2007-05-25 10:04:25 · answer #5 · answered by sayu13 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you could kill them with kindness. My mom used to tell me to be super sweet to the people that were bugging you the most...be whatever the issue is...and it works. Some people can't stand it when they treat you bad, and you just smile, and act like your not bothered by it in the least. It's hysterical.
2007-05-25 09:59:53 · answer #6 · answered by downtownsasquatch82 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just ignor them. I have dealt with those types before. There's nothing you can do about it. I think it's a mental disorder. Just don't be like them. There's enough to worry about than to have to worry about what other people think or do.
2007-05-25 09:57:28 · answer #7 · answered by madbaldscotsman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Avoidance works for me! I rarely see my family members. Remember,you pick your friends but your family members were forced upon you. ;-)=
2007-05-25 10:03:04 · answer #8 · answered by Jcontrols 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love them.
2007-05-25 10:07:19 · answer #9 · answered by (notso)Gloriouspipecleaner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick them out of your family. If there jealous they don't belong in your family.
2007-05-25 10:00:09 · answer #10 · answered by Brent M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋