My husband is introverted.?unsociable?

Question

When I was a young girl I use to think that an introvert was someone that was very quiet and hardly spoke to anyone.That they were very unsociable. And preferred it that way.That they were kind of creepy people.Because they live in their own dark little tormented world within their mind. Almost as though they were trap. But that they were ok with that .That they viewed the world through completely different eyes than most of the norm . I'm not really sure if I have the right understanding.

You ask why did I marry an introvert if that was what I thought they were like ? My husband told me when I first met him that I was wrong about introverted people being creepy and tormented in their dark little world....I gave him the benifit of the doubt that he was right and I was wrong. I'm not sure if he was giving me the right information at the time because I remember he seemed a little insulted with my understanding of his type of a person.

So do you think that an introverted person could have a lot of problems in a realationship because of the fact that they are introverted ?

This is for the person named" liebekat"That apparently has the wrong idea about what I was saying. I was telling everyone my impression of what I had thought an introvert was when I was young. I don't remember the exact detail but I think that I saw a movie when I was a child that somehow gave me that impression . Ever since I married my husband I forgot that I use to think that way until today

Answer 1

ok, most of ya'll got it all wrong when it comes to introversion! LOL I think the only person who even CAME CLOSE was OOHBOTH something like that.

first off you can't BECOME introverted, you're either bron introverted or not, it isn't something you acquire! LOL

Secondly, introversion is NOT EQUIVALENT to SHYNESS, but that isn't to say that there aren't shy introverts, don't get it twisted, you also have shy extroverts.

THE DIFFERENCE is that introverts GIVE energy, we have more FRONTAL LOBE activity, therefore we SENSE more STIMULATION, which is WHY we don't reallt LIKE parties.

We aren't comfortable with CHIT CHAT because it doesn't GO anywhere, we don't know what to do. If you talk about ooh look how the gas prices are going up we're liable to say oh, ok...there's nothing there. Now, if you being to talk about how it relates to politics, well, that's a different story.

ok, so we're not talkative, sorry, we're nore INTROSPECTIVE, ya'll can learn to do that as well, by us being quiet it allows US TO BE ABLE TO LISTEN, and understand where YOU are coming from and we thus are then able to GIVE you advice when needed. WE TAKE in information DIFFERENTLY, and it takes us time to PROCESS the information we do receive, which is WHY we don't LIKE being put on the SPOT.

We're not asocial pple, we're selective about who we let into our lives, and we are uneasy around unfamiliar pple, so once we kind of get to know you we will OPEN up more, give us a chance, and don't judge us becuae for the most part we are really sensitive pple, well, that depends on whether the introvert has the F or T functioning, the T aspect is a little more logical and less of a feeler. anyway, I hope this cleared some misconceptions about what introversion really is.


Oh, and BY the way, we don't live in a DARK TORMENTED SPACE, it's actually a very happy space.

Answer 2

Let's try to simplify it.
Introverts, it's true, are people who are shy and reclusive, but they are also very private people. They are the people at a party who hang around the outside of the group and mingle in small groups of two or three, usually with their closest friends.

Extroverts are very outgoing, and can usually be found right in the middle of things. They are the kinds of people who will never know a stranger, or be afraid. Like one of the earlier people said, they seem to get energy from the crowd.

Famous Introverts: Einstien, The Dahli lama,
Famous Extroverts: Any Rock Star, Any Politician.

Nothing is wrong with an introvert, they just need time to get to know people. When they are comfortable with people, they'll open up more.

Answer 3

You are mistaken. The primary difference between introverts and extroverts is that socialization costs introverts energy while extroverts are energized by social activities.

Introverts are not as quick at processing social expressions, small talk, etc. They have to work harder in a social situation. Introverts require a resting period between social events to 'recharge' for a while.

You would be doing your husband a big favor by giving him some quiet time for thinking between social encounters, especially between work and going out. Also, if he seems uncertain in conversation, you may be able to provide background information about people that he has not picked up on or remembered.

Answer 4

It was an opinion that you developed as a "young" girl. But now that you are older you know that people are just different, right? My father was an introvert and my mother was an extrovert. She loved to be around and interact with other people, she was very social. My father preferred his own company, usually in front of the television. Sometimes, opposites so attract. Use your strengths to counteract his weaknesses and vice versa. My mom eventually gave up trying to make my father into a social butterfly, and went to family gatherings with us kids by herself instead and we had a better time, all around, including my dad.

Answer 5

I know due to things that happened as a child I became very introverted and its taken me years and lots of soul searching to open up. I've been with my hubby for 6 years and after a lot of arguing and him not backing down when I'd get upset and clam up I've finally gotten to the stage of understanding that I'm also a visualist as well. Not always a great combination because I have to sit and see my words and understand them before I can speak what i'm feeling. My husband is the only person now that if I get angry, upset, or stressed that I vent to without feeling like I'm being attacked. Most introverted people have had something happen to them as a child or young teen that caused them to turn in quietly when uncomfortable or hard situations arise. I don't have a lot of female friends that I hang out with much just my hubby and our friends. I've started to push myself with my husband's help to reach a goal of becoming sociably comfortable. Talk to your husband about it and see what the two of you together can work towards and agree to talk clearly and have a lot of patience.

Answer 6

Someone who is introverted is usually shy and prefers not to socialize.Their confidence level is lower than the social butterfly or they just prefer small groups they know well.They are not in any torment just likes to be alone or with someone they love.Sometimes people out grow this like me.It took a lot of encouragement .But not everyone does.

Answer 7

I've never heard anything so ignorant in my life. There is nothing wrong with being a quiet, introspective person. I'd much rather be introverted than an ignorant, shallow, small-minded person.

Answer 8

An introvert is someone who is usually shy and not comfortable being the center of attention. There's nothing dark about it. They just have a quieter personality.

Answer 9

my father is an introvert, and he's the most normal person i know. being shy or feeling awkward with people that one is not close to is a normal for introverts, it's their nature.

Answer 10

I think you are right when you say you don't understand. Introverts are often shy people who may just lack confidence and are comfortable being alone.