Women- do you get tired of feminists speaking for you?

Question

I get so sick of turning on the tv and seeing some angry woman on Oprah complaining about men holding doors for women or why does the man always have to drive or whatever because women can hold their own and they don't need a man to open a door or drive them around they're perfectly capable human beings.

But then in the next breath, the same woman is going on about how some man doesn't buy his wife flowers enough or didn't get her a big enough rock on her engagement ring.

They make us all look like hypocrites and morons.

I don't need a door held for me or to be driven around, but it's nice when he does it and I don't expect flowers and my jewelry is fine by me.

I'm also proud to be a stay at home mom and had absolutely no issue when I was pregnant and he told me that in his opinion kids need their mothers to stay home with them when they're small. I even agreed.

Shut the heck up already.

Answer 1

Agreed .

Answer 2

Ring Girl... I am a man and thus cannot 'properly' answer the question. But if you would like some feedback from the 'other' side, here goes. I think we have an unwritten playbook that most of us are in a confusion about, or otherwise impaired. I from personally witnessed observation can and will speak first about the opening door thing. It's simple. all else being equal, whoever gets there first opens the silly thing. I open for men or women just behind me. when that person goes thru, the door is already open for me. Sometimes we must make split second decisions. For example: I get to a door, and an elderly man is 15-20 feet away. Do I stay and hold the door for him? Of course. The same would hold true for an elderly woman. Look at the amount I have keyed up, and we're still on doors, and haven't touched the subject of people with 'special needs', people carrying packages, is it raining, am I already late? Should this make a difference? There is sooo much to be concerned with when we are talking about our fellow Human Beings, that to call someone out for holding a door for them seems extremely tiny-minded to me. I agree with you totally.

Answer 3

You go, girl!! I'm right there with you. The feminists have taken chivalry out and shot it in the back.
Yes, we CAN do things for ourselves, but that doesn't mean we always HAVE to.
I love it when men hold true to good manners and treat women like ladies.
I was the same way about the kids. I'm a stay at home mom, too. Because we are fortunate enough to be able to survive on one income, and I want to be there every day with my kids.
But when they go into school full time, I will get a job in the real world again. Why can't we make room to have it all?

Answer 4

I would DEFINITELY have to agree. I mean sure I'm an independent woman, but I LIKE it when men are gentlemen and hold doors open for me or push my chair in for me or even care enough to ask about my day.

Tradition and chivalry are dead because men feel that feminists speak for all women and don't WANT to put in the effort to fight for a woman's honor or show gentleness towards women. Feminists DO NOT speak for me AT ALL!! Some of them need to crawl under a rock and not come out.

Answer 5

I agree with you. Sometimes I feel guilty because all I really want is to be a wife and stay at home mom. But other women look at me like I am disgracing our gender. And you know what, if some guy wants to hold the door open for me, I think it's nice and respectful, I'm not gonna tell him, no, go ahead, let it slam in my face just so I can open it myself. Gimme a break.

Answer 6

I agree - and I'm a feminist.

If you want to stay at home and look after your kids then good on you - but at least that's your CHOICE. You could have been a career woman if that's what you'd wanted, which is the important thing to remember.

I don't expect to be treated differently because I'm a woman. But it's nice to be treated with respect just for being a human being.

And I think it's far more laudable to stay with your children and bring them up properly than dump them at a creche every day while you go off to work. That's selfish, irresponsible parenting.

Answer 7

I think that certain feminists do tend to take things too far. But, in acuality I think that most "special interest" groups take things too far. I think they feel that they have to push the envelope in order to achieve progress, but like you, I don't need them to speak for me.

I am all for equality in pay and work standards. I don't like jokes that are a put down to women or the insults that men hurl at themselves about being feminine such as "you hit like a girl", "don't be such a girl", etc. I think those are a bit degrading.

However, I am also more of a traditionalist in that I think one of the problems with society is that children are too often neglected and that parents are far too often lazy. I think that if one parent was home to take care of the child rearing that our society would be all the better for it. But, I don't think it matters whether that person staying home is the husband or the wife just so long as one of them is there to shoulder the responsibility. Personally, when my husband and I have children it will be me that stays home. That is our decision but that's not to say it won't be different for someone else.

Anyway, to get back to your statement. I can speak for myself. Just ask my husband. ;)

Answer 8

I agree with you. I hate being told that being a housewife or homemaker is demeaning and beneath me. I have chosen to be where I am and am an important member of this family who by the way wouldn't be able to function without me. I have 2 college degrees and have worked at a highly skilled profession so don't need their validation as to my self worth. You go girl don't let them bother you.

Answer 9

AMEN! People just can't make up their minds what they want. What ever fits their purpose at the time. Right now I'm having such an issue with people...my family included about being a stya at home mom. I get no respect because of it from lots of people....and when these people don't even have kids and family that really ticks me off. I'm proud to be a almost 20 year stay at home mom...and ya know what right now my son is being a stay at home dad...proud of him.....

ITA....shut up people.....If I WANT your opion I'll TELL you what it is...hahahaha

Answer 10

totally agree. I've had enough of these ignorant women making all of womenhood look like independent prat lesbos. We're the moms, so babies just naturally feel more comfortable and safe around their mom. Also, women who are all like "Oooh you shouldn't let your man do that he's sexist you're a woman you deserve more than that" when they see a mother and housewife. HELLO! It's not like anyone forced you to be a mother and housewife, you chose it, you like it. But whatever. They think they sound smart when they rant like that. peace

Answer 11

Feminists are what's holding women back. You don't see men going around saying "we should hold open doors for women" so women should just keep their mouths shut. Opinions are nice to have, but that's all they are and they don't need to be thrown out there for everybody to hear. If a women wants to open a door herself than just do it and don't hold a press conference about it.