What motivates a person to change?

Answer 1

First, you have to recognize the need for change. It is difficult, but you have to identify those things about yourself that are holding you back from being happy or fulfilled. Once you've singled them out, then it is a matter of really wanting to change. You may not like certain aspects of yourself....but perhaps you don't have the desire or commitment to make that change.

Change is possible. Bad habits can be overcome and attitudes can be altered. It is all about self improvement, versus being content with being unhappy...and complaining about it all the time. Easy to do that....much more difficult to change. But sooooo worth it when you have accomplished it...

Answer 2

Different things motivate different people to change. For me, it was because I finally just got tired of the way I was living my life. I was miserable, angry, self medicating and depressed. One big thing that motivated me to change was meeting my wife. We were just friends at first and we became very close spending hours talking about things. I knew in order to have her in my life, I would have to change for the better and get my act together. We have been together for 6 years and I have changed a lot...for the better, and I am much happier now. So, for some people it's a person, for others it may be money or something else.

Answer 3

Most people FINALLY make a change in their life after some event, often tragic in their eyes. I remember reading many stories of alcoholics who finally saw the light when they saw the bottom of the bottle as they lay in a filthy alley with nothing in their pockets and no family or home that would accept them - they had lost everything. That's when they found God. But then, it was a Christian alternative newspaper with a certain angle and I liked to have something to read when eating dinner by myself waiting for my computer analyses to finish.
In any case, many people have made a change after a parent has died or friend and they decide that they will end up the same way if they continue similar behavior.
There have been a few people I have met that have made certain changes in their life based on the decision to change. Some people like to make some change every so often. These people have strong will power, and have probably developed it this way, and high self-esteem.

Answer 4

I'd like to suggest, rather than use the word "change," try "modify?" We never "change" our basic nature, our core being, but we can do a lot of modifying. If we're introspective, we can see "red flags," behaviour, attitudes & actions that simply aren't working for us. We modify selectively. With some people, this takes a "major" event, but with others, it's just a matter of recognizing an imbalance, a disharmony in our lives on which we can improve. Motivation is individual, & subjective. There's no absolute answer to your question.

Answer 5

Freud it famous for saying that behavior is motivated by the reduction of pain and the increase in pleasure. It all comes down to those two principles. What is pain and what is pleasure is determeined by the individuals history. With most people it is not just pain but the avoidance of pain, that is the primary motivator. The avoidance of pain is experienced by most people as fear. This also makes sense on an evolutionary basis. Since you don't survive to pass an your genes unless you avoid the perils, liking being killed by animals or other humans.

Answer 6

Some people are proactive, some are reactive. When people want something new or more they can be bold and courageous and take a leap. Others are afraid of change and will wait till the last moment when they have no choice, or let others do something to create the change. It's a matter of wanting something better and going for it, or by default, changing to survive or return to the status quo.

Answer 7

Unfortunately a traumatic event usually happens to motivate change. Something we have a hard time doing in the norm.

Answer 8

Lots of things can do that. And I'm glad you asked, because now you have to listen to my boring ramblings.

1) You realized that if you don't change, life will suck
2) It's too late and your life already sucks but you still have to change so it dosen't suck more
3) Your spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend wants you to change
4) Your parents are telling you to change.

Okay, I know, not so great. But since you asked, I answered. And with good grammar. That's a plus, right?

Answer 9

*I think , falling / being in love, is one of the greatest motivator of all times !!!!!!!!
You take on tasks & accomplish them ; which u would other wise not even consider doing,in the first place !!!!

Answer 10

When you're sick and tired of being sick and tired.