i have been with my bf for about 4 years now, before him i was a totalyl different person, he changed me for the good. i love hiim more then anything but i cant help be jelous of the couples who are soo touchy feely. i dont know if its just not his thing or what. like when we go places, i like to hold his hand, a little kiss here and there, his arm around me, stuff liek that, but hej ust doesnt do it, even when we are hanging out with our friendz, hes just not very affectionate around other people. and i ask him about it and he doesnt understand what im talking about. i miss the romance of when we first met, how can i put more romance in our life?
2007-05-25 02:20:26 · 17 answers · asked by rach 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Some guys are just not comfortable showing affection in public. His friends might call him pussywhipped or something.
2007-05-25 02:24:58 · answer #1 · answered by MISTY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just feel like that is a private matter. No crime, it is just his preference.
Every couple starts out all touchy feely, but eventually they get comfortable with one another, and do not need the constant physical reassurance of affection.
Sure, it is nice to have it once in a while, but all the time...no thanks. It takes away from the "specialness" if it is constantly going on
Talk to him about it. Maybe he is just not the type that likes to make the first move. Maybe that is why he digs you, because you are the aggressive type. Just talk to him..that is the one sure way to find out.
2007-05-25 02:48:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say every relationship starts with a big bang with sparks flying everywhere. But, it tends to die off in a couple of years.
In a relationship, many factors play their own effective roll. I would put understanding, trust & communication amongst the most important of them all.
As for your teething problem with your boyfriend, I would strongly suggest all three of the above
Trust - You must always have the trust in your boyfriend that he has always find you attractive and by not being intimate doesn't have anything to do with your appearance.
Communication - I may suggest you have a nice conversation with him to find out the reasons for his unaffectionate approach towards you.
Understanding - It may sound absurd, but some guys tend to think that being too tender loving will make them lose their macho image.
Stop being jealous will be the first best move. Give him the effection, I am sure he likes the attention when given to him. Make him want to be affectionate towards you.
2007-05-26 22:30:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you miss the romance that you two had when you first met. Remember, romance comes from how your heart feels about someone else. A person cannot make themselves feel special about someone else. That has to come natural. A person gives true romance because their heart drives them to it. If it is true romance and passion, there is no effort in showing it. It comes because the person feeling it will drive themselves nuts by keeping it inside. My opinion is if he is not showing affection and he used to, maybe it just isn't in his heart to do so. Now remember I said maybe. If he really cares about you and you want more touchy feely, get inside his head and find out how he really feels about you. Find out how you make him feel by just being around you. ARE YOU SPECIAL TO HIM? Good Luck.
2007-05-26 18:05:15 · answer #4 · answered by lover b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a marriage for twenty years and my ex did not show any affection like holding hands or anything else. Sometimes with friend I got a peck on the cheek. It did bother me sometimes that she did not show affection but I got used to it. Sometimes when I got into a conversation with another lady she got jealous. What I am saying is that if you love this guy you can get more romantic or just accept the way he is. Isn't it your love that matters.
2007-05-26 04:37:31 · answer #5 · answered by Scott K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey maybe he just isn't comfortable with public displays of affection. I used to be that way, my husband is real touchy feely and I was not for many years. I wouldn't take offense to it
2007-05-25 02:28:24 · answer #6 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if youve been together for four years he obvously loves you but the honeymoon period's over and real life came in! just be honest with him and tell him how you feel or you could just grab his hand or give him a little kiss in public and see how he reacts, if he goes mad then he can't deny that he doesn't know what you're talking about but if he doesn;t object then sneak it in more often and he might eventually get used to it and respond!
2007-05-25 02:26:30 · answer #7 · answered by dee4tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of blokes think that's a bit lame in public. Which is lame in itself. Stop doing it for a while and he'll probably miss it or wonder why you've stopped and start trying to make you do it again!
2007-05-25 02:26:30 · answer #8 · answered by Chris K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys just don't like to be affectionate in public....they see it as being wimpy. if he is a great guy in other areas, be happy with what you love about him. there are so many losers out there.....don't sweat the small stuff- look at the big picture! good luck!
2007-05-25 02:24:12 · answer #9 · answered by Maria M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try new activities together, do new things that you've never done or go on a trip or vacation together./....sounds like things have just gotten to be boring and everyday-like. Good luck!!!
2007-05-25 02:25:12 · answer #10 · answered by Siren_Cin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋