Offerred a job intracompany, but I'm 8 weeks pregnant, should I tell before I accecpt?

Question

At my current position, people know I'm pregnant, told them early yes, but I just couldn't hold it in because I've worked there for years. I've been offered a great opportunity in a different office where no one knows. When should I tell my new boss, before I accept the offer or when I start to actually show?

At my current position, people know I'm pregnant, told them early yes, but I just couldn't hold it in because I've worked there for years. I've been offered a great opportunity in a different office where no one knows. When should I tell my new boss, before I accept the offer or when I start to actually show? I intend on returning to work 6 weeks after the birth.

Answer 1

It depends - are you planning on returning after the baby? If you are, then I wouldn't tell until atleast 12 weeks and use the excuse that you just wanted to be sure it's a healthy pregnancy before you told anyone. That way you have the new job to return to after mat leave. If you are not planning on returning, then I think the respectful thing to do is to be honest.

Answer 2

Here's something to consider: it's illegal for an employer to make the job decision based off of the fact that you're pregnant, however that doesn't stop them from finding some other "legitimate" yet somehow related reason to not give you the job.

Bad real-life situation: When my sister in law was working seasonally in retail and being considered for a full time position. She felt the need to tell them the news and they laid her off because of "seasonal availability."

Good real-life situation: When I was about 16 weeks and still not quite showing I was looking for a better job and when I was being interviewed for the one I REALLY wanted I let them know that I was pregnant, but just coming out of the morning sickness. The company I now work for is really awesome when it comes to working with pregnant women and they're willing to make more accommodations than my previous job which is REALLY nice because my previous employer was willing to bend over backward for a lot of things as it was (I just couldn't be on my feet all day because I had other back problems that were being irritated by the pregnancy).

I know it doesn't help a whole lot, but I just though I'd share that bit of info and those two experiences =)

Answer 3

I just took a new job and I am 10 weeks pregnant. I knew before I took the job, but I chose not to tell them until 3 weeks after I started. This gave me time to feel somewhat comfortable around my new co-workers. I do not regret waiting to tell them, although it was hard not to let anything slip ecspecially when I was feeling really crummy. I would advise you to do what ever you feel comfortable with. You are not required to tell them you are pregnant right away and they can't fire you because your pregnant, but that doesn't mean that they won't take the promotion away from you. I would really advise waiting just a little to tell them until you really get a feel for your new co-workers and boss, and then tell them shortly after you start. I would not wait to long to tell them your good news though because people do talk and I am sure your new boss would like to be included in that knowledge since it will eventually affect your work. Congrats on the pregnancy and the promotion. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Do you HAVE to tell? No, and it's a question they can't legally ask.

SHOULD you tell? Absolutely! You're going to be working with these people, and you do not want to start off by being seen as dishonest.

Another question you should ask yourself: Is it possible they know and have engineered this in order to put you in a place where they can afford to have you off for a while? Sometimes these things are done very quietly. Still, if it's advantageous to you, too, grab it. And telling them officially that you're pregnant will, again, increase the trust level.

Legally, they can't discuss your pregnancy with you until you officially inform them. So, sit down and discuss the situation with them.

Answer 5

well its up to you but its a risk that they might take away the offer because you will have to be gone for 1-2 months on maternity leave, in no way are u obligated to tell them so the decision is yours depending on how your new boss is and how understanding they are and if its worth loosing your promotion, i would in that situation wait for a little while after you have proven to them what an asset you are inform them about your pregnancy, tough call good luck hope i helped some!

Answer 6

I would tell them. They offered you the job. It would be discrimination if they yanked that offer away. See if your company has integrity or not. Tell them you accept the offer and oh, by the way...I'm 8 weeks pregnant. :) Good luck. I'm assuming that you're planning to go back to work after maternity leave.

Answer 7

I would say it is personal business and you aren't obligated to share it. I always waited until I was 14 weeks pregnant before I said anything.
You might miss out on the opportunity if you mention it.

Answer 8

hi there, congrats on being pg, i wouldn't tell them you are not obligated by law to tell them until 26 weeks, so i would take the job and when and only when you feel ready and providing its before 26 weeks tell them!!
you as an employee have rights and employers have the responsibility to take in to consideration your needs and as pregnant woman, dint worry you would be doing nothing wrong good luck and i wish you every success in your new job x x x

Answer 9

I would tell them because you told people at your office...and people talk and you don't want them to find out from someone else!

Answer 10

i would tell now because in a couple of months they will know anyways,and congratuations good luck with the baby