I am bisexual and have feelings and dreams/fantasies about a couple straight friends I have. They know I am bi, and we still have a good friendship with the understand that WILL NOT hit on them, attempt to hit on them, or talk anything gay around them. They are good friends & do not want to end the friendships. I hate have those kind of feelings for them & having the dreams/fantasies about them. I feel bad & guilty because of it. Is there a way to get rid of those feelings for them, and to stop having the dreams/fantasies about them, without causing a problem in the friendship? I even find myself J/O at times while thinking about them, and it gives me the worst feelings afterwards because I hate doing that, especially with them being such good friends to me like they have been & are.
2007-05-25 02:02:54 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Do to several people on here saying I should be allowed to talk gay & that if they won't allow that I should drop them as friends I am going to clear myself up a little. They don't object to how I am or how I talk. They just do not want me talking to them gay as far as in the terms of making comments about them as being hot, sexy or whatever, or talk about anything gay with them. I agreed to that as they are good friends, however I know & accept the fact they're straight, therefore don't want to be hit on. They have no objection or problem with me being bisexual, they just don't to be involved in it as they are straight. Which I have no problems with considering I don't believe in hitting on straight people as it is. My sexuality is my business & doesn't need to be brought around to every person on the planet.
2007-05-25 02:16:17 · update #1
You shouldn't have to "not talk gay" around them, you should be allowed to be yourself to your "good friends" As for your feelings, that's normal, you sound young (I'm assuming you are), so it's just hormones, and as long as you don't act on your fantasizes you are fine. It happens, gay guys drool over straight famous guys all the time, but we all know Brad Pitt (or in my mind, Matt Damon) isn't going to wake up one day and realize he was born gay. :)
2007-05-25 02:10:11 · answer #1 · answered by Jyse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason you feel this way for your friend goes like this. They support you and don't pick at you & they are comfortable with who you are. It's tough being close to people and not developing some type of bond. But maybe you should look into the dating pool. You sound like a great person and if They like you who know's what will happen when you land yourself some one just for you. Then you don't have to have those guilt feelings in the back of your mind. Everyone needs a release w/o the guilt.
Good luck
2007-05-26 09:56:03 · answer #2 · answered by kay b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way I can think of is to find someone else as a boyfriend or girlfriend. That way you can still be a friend with them, but have another outlet for romantic or sexual feelings.
2007-05-25 09:08:39 · answer #3 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself in any relationship either friendship, or roamntic.
2007-05-25 10:06:36 · answer #4 · answered by kanei 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wonder if they know you do Y&A, they may be reading this right now!
2007-05-25 09:08:52 · answer #5 · answered by Silent watcher of fools 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋