Ok - this is a problem that my fiance frequently faces. He's the nice kind of guy - when he goes to a restaurant with a group of people (friends or colleagues), he will always pull out his wallet and offer to pay part of the bill. But the problem's he always gets stuck with the whole bill! Ppl just shamelessly don't offer to pay! And it's happened so often that he doesn't know what to do! So how is it possible to avoid paying the entire bill, without having to actually ask people to pay their part of it? Is there a nice way to do it?
2007-05-24 22:56:45 · 18 answers · asked by pseudo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
next time tell him to pull out enough to cover his share. and place it on the bill. and have him so "heres my share" thats not rude.
2007-05-24 23:00:19 · answer #1 · answered by j m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When he knows the bill is about to arrive, tell him to head to the men's room for a minute. This way by the time he returns, someone will have decided what to do with the bill and hopefully has divided it up into how many people were seated for dinner. When he returns, he can say, "What do I owe?". If no one has touched the bill, he can open it up and divide it himself, then ask everyone to chip in say $25 bucks", or he can make sure his wallet has cash to pay for his share of the bill and just pull out $25-30 (his share, plus a tad) and toss it in the middle of the table and let the others figure out what's owed.
Either his friends think he's the "rich" guy, or they're not friends who think he's a ******. If that's the case, he should find new friends. If they're co-workers.... aren't they all getting paid about the same amount, give or take a few? Try and lead him in the right direction. He's lucky to have you.
2007-05-25 06:14:53 · answer #2 · answered by babbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way should be when the bill comes he should say "lets one of us pay the bill now and we will share it". And if is so nice to ask this much also he should keep himself busy in something when the bill comes...and in the meanwhile somebody else would take out hi/her wallet and would pay the bill ;)
2007-05-25 06:10:38 · answer #3 · answered by magpie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How rude of his friends to allow your fiance to pay all the time.
Maybe when the waitress takes the tables order he could ask for separate checks or if not that when the final bill is presented for payment he could just bring cash and pay for his portion/tip. I would say have him be generous in his estimate of his portion of the bill though. I had a friend that added up his meal to the penny and didn't include a tip or tax which required me to make up the difference.
He can also just be the last one to present his credit card for payment. Tell him not to touch the check, and let someone else make the first move.
2007-05-25 06:08:40 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Next time, he can still be Mr. Nice Guy...but he doesnt have the the first to pull out his wallet and say something about the bill. Keep his hands off of it, dont EVEN mention it, dont even think about it, tell him to engage in conversation or something...and let someone else take leadership and make the first move...and then wait until others pitch in first..then he can play his nice guy part....(just hesitate a bit)
Also, when the waiter comes by..say separate checks please..that always works fine!!!
2007-05-25 06:04:15 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your "nice guy" is being taken. If he wants to continue with this, there is nothing you can do.
If he finally "wakes up" and smells the roses, he will realize that he is being taken advantage of. He does not have to go to resturants with friends, etc, unless he wants to. If he can't tell these "friends" that this is "dutch", then he will keep paying the entire bill. He can also tell the waiter to give him ONLY his check, for his part. Let the others then decide what they want to do.
Tell him to tell the waiter to write his check for him only! Real "friends" don't treat someone this way; making them pay the whole bill. He is being taken for a ride.
It's up to him.
2007-05-25 06:04:04 · answer #6 · answered by fredg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is not with the people you are calling shameless ... the problem is with your boyfriend ... and its mental .... believe me its true ... your boyfriend suffers from inferiority complex ... see the symptoms ... he will always be eager to play the bill and will always be the first to remove the wallet ... now obiviously the shameless people have got used to your boyfriends habit and do not mind paying at all ..... the solution is simple teach your boyfriend how to respect his hard earned money .... and automatically he will learn how not to pay the bill always ....
2007-05-25 07:03:10 · answer #7 · answered by jammy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say No, Thanks
tell him not to pull out his wallet when he goes out. resist the urge until a few other people whip out theres. then tell them, ill pay for part of it but im not paying for it all. If that doesnt work....idk what to do
2007-05-25 06:00:35 · answer #8 · answered by JJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could; a) ask for separate checks b) be broke the next time the bill goes around, c) only have enough for his part, or d) quit going out with these sponges.
2007-05-25 06:03:42 · answer #9 · answered by SapphireSeaFairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are friends, they MUST understand, If they do not understand, they are NOT friends...
Let him make it as obvious as possible that he is not willing to make himself a fool in the whole deal... If his friends & colleagues are shameless, let him be like that for a while. HE SHOULD NOT BE THE FIRST ONE TO OFFER TO PAY. If situation does not improve, let him express his views and in case there is no change even then, let him snap the ties...
2007-05-25 07:48:04 · answer #10 · answered by sharma.kulbhushan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mind paying the bill, but if people just ignored it and left it to me, I would look and see what my part was and put that much money in the center of the table and say, "OK I put my share in" and walk out.
2007-05-25 06:02:55 · answer #11 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋