Do you think this is ok or wrong?

Question

Im a 24 year old male and have recently fallen for a younger girl. She is 16 and feels the same way. Although she is perfectly legal do you think she is still a bit young?

Answer 1

I would say she is too young mate.

But if shes mature enough to handle an adult relationship then who am I to judge?

Answer 2

I had a 21 year old boyfriend when I was 15 and we lasted for 7 years, with heaps of hell from my parents I might add.

I, as a mother, and now an older person, do think it is too much of an age gap.

I am talking about the maturity aspects here. At 24 we are pretty much ready to find a long term partner and look for more in a relationship. At 16 you have so much life to live. Look how much more you have done than her in your 8 years between 16 and 24.

I really regret being with someone in my late teens as I feel I missed out on so much as I just wanted to be with my boyfriend.

You might inadvertantly hold her back.

At the end of the day the choice is yours, not what anyone else thinks, so I wish you and her the best in whatever you choose, but if you choose to be together, expect some strong opinions from the people who care about her.

Answer 3

A Bit Too Young
Id Wait A Wee While

But If Yoo Relly Like Her And There Is Nothing Holding You Back Go For It
But Dont Let Her Dad Or Brothers Find Out Or Your A Dead Man lol =]=]

Answer 4

She is a bit young. i wouldn't say its wrong. u would have to make that decision. would u be able to cope with people talking about u r making open remarks about ur relationship. cause they will. i know teenage girls can be more mature than boys there age. But what do ye have in common? she is prob still at school, living at home, probably isn't even working, R ye in to the same hobbies music etc. u couldn't even take her out on a night out as she is to young. What would u be getting from the relationship other than the obvious. I'm not saying things wont work out between ye I'm sure plenty of people in ur situation have ended up happy together. Although i cant help thinking u maybe should try meet some one closer to ur own age.

Answer 5

Hello !
No I dont think it is wrong, if you were both ten years older maybe you would have by then caught up with each other after experiencing life and then you would then be more balanced but at present you will see and do so much in the next few years that you wont even recognise the boy you were at 16 and the same with her by the time she reaches 24 and beyond so I just think your timing is out and that its the essence and sweetness of her that is attracting you to her and its now time for you not to go backwards but to check out the many gorgeous girls who are out there having fun who you'll be missing out on. Then when your both older, who knows. Then again you may meet someone else who blows your mind.

Answer 6

I think if its what you both want then go for it. But you asking shows you have your doubts about her age. If you do, maybe wait a year or so, get to know each other as friends first. Discover your intrests and see what you's like doing together.

Just remember when you were 16 and what was going on then. Don't rush her into anything, if she doesn't want anything too physical, then respect that.

Fair enough, she isn't legal to take to the pub, but she shouldn't mind if you go with your mates, as long as you spend time with her. And who says she can't watch the same movies, I was watching 18s before I was legal to watch 12's.

Answer 7

Yes definatly, She is still way too young for anyone over 18.She is still growing and is not mature yet, even if she might think she is. We as humans need to grow. Women still grow even if it's not visibile. If you want me to go more technical I can. She has not developed completely as a woman by 16. Maybe she is on the out side but not inside. (and I do mean inside). We woman dont stop developing untill the age of 20 or 22 (have to look it up again in my med book) You can at least wait till she's 18. You can wait.

Answer 8

That is far too young- and you should know better at your age. What you are doing could get you into a whole load of trouble and that's only part of the reason you need to stop it.

if she was my daugher I'd probably be exremely angry- not with her because she's not an adult and has not the life experience make an informed adult choice. I'd be angry with you and I would tell you as much. Also I would put my foot down and forbid her from any more contact with you. At 16 she is still technically a child.

let me explain something to you from a parents point of view

Imagine YOU are personally resonsible for the actions of another person in the eyes of the law as much as anything else. Imagine they steal, the police will hold you accountable. If they skip school, you end up in court and get fined because of the choice they made. Imagine they have a baby, then it is you who will end up burdened with this situation too.

Because a parent has to bear the consequences of what their child does, then they have the right to say what that child can and can not do. Period. Until she is of age and an adult, this will and should be the case.

Furthermore, whatever a 24 year old man wants with a 16 year old girl can not be good. Why not somebody your own age? Why would a grown adult want to be with somebody who can not even make an adult choice for themselves because they arn't an adult? Wouldn't it be better to be with somebody who is actually mature and able to at least make a desicion on their own?

if you were mature, and you really really DID care about her you would wait until she is an adult before you look at anything romantic with her. That is the decent thing to do. If she thinks as much of you she will wait to. Is it because in two years time she will probably not be interested in you anymore, because she will have matured, developed and changed?

Shame on you!

Answer 9

At 16 girls are still all over the place with their heads, it sounds patronising but kids should be allowed to be kids until they are 18 or 19 and a relationship with someone 8 years older is just wanting to be too adult too soon. Don;t get me wrong, I don;t have anything against age difference, my own bloke is 11 years older than me but we've both seen a lot of the world and of life. although sex may be legal are you willing to give up drinking for this girl for the next 2 years? Because if not she'll want to drink with you and that is illegal. Are you going to choose to spend time with her instead of going to the pub with your mates?

Answer 10

hello there,

I am 28 and your question caught my eye.I had a boyfriend who was 26 when i was 16 and the relationship lasted 2 years until i was 18..he trested me roughly and i was rushed into a phyisical relationship.Now i am with someone who is 48yrs..i do not think age makes a difference,i can see what narrow minded people may say..as long as you treat her well your relationship should grow and deveolp like anyone elses relationship..just take it real slow..i was 16 once and the world looks very different now..i also got pregnant and had an abortion because he said he did not want a baby..very distressing times..you need to talk about contraception for the next few years until you feel you might want a baby between you.

take care..Janine

Answer 11

You really need to thinkof the difference in maturity here. Thethings you like and the thing she likes are proberly different and this will become more of a problem as you get older if the relationship progresses. Obviously you are thinking long term here so think 5 years down ther road, you are nearing 30 and she 21. You may want to settle, she may still want to party. The gap is only 8 years and i do not think it matters lateron in life but with her being only 16 i think you need to rethink and maybe be with someone a bit more your own age. She is still growing remember, this girl is not even fully developed yet. There are hormones like you cant even imagine. She is a teenager, full stop.