Has anything ever bad happened to you, that’s has made you appreciate life more since? Did you take things for granted before, and how did the experience change your outlook on life?
I.e. Jail, illness, divorce
2007-05-24 21:53:04 · 21 answers · asked by Moral Kiosk 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yes. Earlier this year, a jet crashed less than 100 feet from me. It crashed in my back yard and I was in the front yard washing my car. The jet was destroyed and exploded upon impact. The ground shook like an earthquake and the noise of impact sounded like the loudest subwoofer you can imagine.
Horrible, horrible thing to see and to think that if I had decided to mow my back lawn before washing the car, instead of after, it would have crashed ON me.
I really appreciate life now.
2007-05-24 21:57:03 · answer #1 · answered by jbone907 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That which does not kill us makes us stronger. ~Friedrich Nietzsche While I'm typically not on the Nietzsche train, I think he had something here. Today started pretty rough for me. I'll not go into it, but I was already having a really bad day by 8:00 am. I was down in the dumps and all the wind had been taken out of my sails. Two wonderful people took time out of their day to extend a hand to me and break that negative momentum. One of them already had a vested interest in me and the other was someone who didn't know me being very kind. Today that's all it took, the kindness of a stranger, to get me looking for the positives in life again and I started seeing them. By 2:00 pm my day had turned around. I'm about to go to bed now and I can honestly say that I've had a nice day! I share this not as a source of inspiration, only as an example. When I was upset this morning and living in that moment I was looking at a long day at work starting out in a horrible mood. I could see no benefits at all from the experience. I was pissed off at the world and I was not thinking about anything but how life had yet again dealt me a bad hand. No, it wasn't truly awful, just a confluence of several things that cost me quite a bit of money (still bummed about that) and it put me in a bad place. The bad things that happened are still there. I'm still a bit screwed right now but I'll weather this as I have weathered those things that came before, but the benefits I have derived are incalculable. I found strength within myself, I made a new potential friend and strengthened an existing relationship. The big benefit? I'd forgotten that people can be beautiful and I needed this event to remind me of that. At 8:00 am this morning I was standing outside in the snow. I felt cold, wet, miserable and very alone. Almost fifteen hours later I'm warm, dry, happy and I feel loved.
2016-04-01 07:22:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through really bad divorce, have to leave the place I loved, have to move back to my country and realize that Home Office make some mistake with my name and I end up with many problems. I was not alowed to leave my country for nearlly half a year and I was treated as some kind of terrorist, did not have insurance and consiquently any job, but I had to pay a lot to the solicitors. That time I felt so low, really low.
Today everithing is ok, but the bitterness and mistrust in those in authority is still there and as far as I am concerned will be there forever.Nowdayas I concentrate on the things I want to do more then before.
2007-05-25 05:26:29 · answer #3 · answered by Eva D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No particular one thing.
Even as a small child I was aware that life was very unfair, but it never made me bitter, although I am told I should be with what has happened to me (would take a book to tell all the bad things and disasters and occurences).
Yet somehow I have always appreciated the things I do have (even as a small child) despite things being so bad. When things get even worse, and they do from time to time, I then look to nature and natural things for the wonderment that is there. At the moment its tadpoles and frogs in my pond I made earlier this year as a response to some bad things (the tv licensing hounding me and then entering my property illegally which really traumatised me).
I just go back to nature which is what I have always done all my life. As a small child it was escaping, and then climbing into Robin Hoods cave (after I had waded down the river) in Sherwood Forest, and I stayed in the coolness of the cave just watching the water go by all day until i was ready to join the cruel world again.
I am sad for people who dont appreciate things until too late, like a friend of mine who has had a sad loss and the last things I heard from her before the sad loss was grumbles from her about the person, and she is so so sad and regretful now.
Peace be with you.
2007-05-24 22:17:18 · answer #4 · answered by Guenivere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was divorced twice and also in 97 was in a head on car collision that almost killed me. I spent 8 months in the hospital and still live in chronic pain. I was also in the Gulf War. All of these things changed my life completely. I appreciate every day of my life now and try to live in the present and one day at a time. I don't take life for granted anymore. I also learned what not to do in a relationship and am now happily married to a great woman who also changed my life!
2007-05-24 23:25:45 · answer #5 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a really bad break up a few years ago, I wont go into the details but a lot of people I considered to be friends turned their backs on me and refused to hear my side of the story. My parents supported me so much that it made me realise just how much they mean to me. Aside from that I began to believe that I must have been the bad guy because the way people treated me. It took me a while to get myself back on track. I know now, and funnily enough those that turned their back on me have realised too that in fact the problem lay and still does with her. I don't think I have ever been the same since but things are getting better.
2007-05-24 22:06:33 · answer #6 · answered by brummie73s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its the little things in life you fail to appreciate untill one day its taken away ! Tell me honestly how often do you stop and think about all the things you have ever done people you have met and things you are capable of doing ? Not often i bet. People get caught up in there day to day lives and forget to appreciate what they have got. There are millions of people who are less fortunate than yourself (sickness, illness, injury disability, famine etc)
Treasure every moment life is precious dont let the opportunity slip you by coz you never know whats gonna happen in the future you might not get the chance ever again !!
2007-05-24 22:11:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes i lost my wife of 19 years to cancer 4 years ago,it does change your outlook and the way you then live your life.Things that seemed important now do not,i now have a very full happy life,but i would change it all to have my wife back,not going to happen so live the life you now have.Never put anything of until tomorrow,do it now because you might not get the chance again.
2007-05-24 22:12:55 · answer #8 · answered by RAMON C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many years ago whilst working with Brirish Rail I was dragged by a shunting loco and ended up underneath it with my legs across the rails, someone saw me and I was lucky enough to survive without even a scratch,
Ever since then (25 years) I have never put my life in danger and always thought of safety first. even in the simplest of tasks
2007-05-24 21:57:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
An illness of my dear one changed my whole attitude toward life!
In seeking solution to it I met few great people ,really great great men. And by following them I' m a not a very happy one but the happiness itself!
2007-05-24 22:30:33 · answer #10 · answered by priya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋