Theres this lady at work. we botrh talk a lot we are sorta freinds and never had a fight or anything. anyway she was complaing she is fat but she is really skinny though and she is also pregnant. she said her mom is on her about her weight and i said " is she always on you about your wegiht like that " and she was like " no she always just tells me i need to watch my weight bla bla bla " and the girl is SKINNY so i said " your mom might be like giving you an eating problme like an eating disorder getting on you about your wegit all the time " she did not seem mad or anythign. i just felt like mabye i said too much.. did i ?
2007-05-24 19:46:28 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No you did what a real friend is supposed to do, you told her the truth as you see it.
2007-05-24 19:50:32 · answer #1 · answered by mdboomskwad.mc4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, you were 'invited' into the conversation by this woman and you have a right to express your honest opinion. She is skinny and needs to know that she has no problem. Her mom is probably scolding her daughter about the mom's own insecurities. Mother's often do that with daughters during pregnancy. Secretly being envious that they had so much trouble and their daughters do not...so they project their past problems on their children. TYPICAL.
When we tell others about our personal business, we 'invite' them to make comments. That is what she did and she needs to grow up and accept your opinion as another view other than her mom's.
2007-05-24 20:04:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you didn't say too much. What you said was just fine, and it was practical and seemed truthful. Any way, what mighta been the problem is HOW you said it, like if you had an attitude or what have you. Any way like you said she didnt seem mad so it should be all good.
2007-05-24 19:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by juniper555 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you need to tell her the truth there is nothing wrong with hearing the truth about yourself. Keep telling her maybe it will sink in also tell her to say something to her doctor about what her mother is telling her.If the doctor tells her that she doesn't have a weight problem maybe then she will realize her mother is wrong and has been giving her bad advise.
2007-05-24 19:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your friend isn't worried dont stress about it as u were just being an assertive friend and thats a good thing!. U were saying it because you care and now you friend is aware of eating disorders
2007-05-24 19:51:20 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ MISS YELLOW DIAMOND★☺♀ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no if the lady wasn't upset don't worry about. what you said is true people forget that eating disorder kill and it can start just like you said someone you love or care about what they thing always telling you your fat can start something that can be deadly
2007-05-24 19:51:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so You said what needed to be said and you were not insulting or critical you just gave her the facts based on what she told you. Good for you. : )
2007-05-24 20:55:48 · answer #7 · answered by gr_elvis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Her mom is most likely overprotective and overly critical. You did not interfere with their relationship, you merely offered your viewpoint and if you did not push it any further than it it is quite alright.
2007-05-24 19:49:25 · answer #8 · answered by yumsorbet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably. it would have been one thing to just be like, yo, you're skinny, deal with it, but you can't go talking about eating disorders like that.
2007-05-24 19:48:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's probably true, but you have to be careful when people talk about themselves.
2007-05-24 19:48:37 · answer #10 · answered by nitty b 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋