She is so scared of her mom and how she might react, she has not her. As a result, she has not been to see a doctor, or done anything to take of herself or her baby. The father desperately wants to get involved but she refuses to talk him or see him. Does he have any legal options becuase she is putting the babie's health/life, as well as her own, in jeoperdy?
2007-05-24 18:48:10 · 16 answers · asked by Jared P 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
how can she b 7 months preg and her mom doesnt know? thats hard to belive. and no it is not illegal but it is horribl;e and ridiculous that she doesnt see a doctor. obviously she should'nt have this baby if shes gonna treat it like this, and not letting the father in its life? TAHTS ANOTER BADD mistake shes not gonna be able to do this on her own and the baby will grow up to hate her. But he can take custody of it later when its born, and i advose him to do tht. i belve if shes not taking every percaution now... the most importnat time.. then she wont care any other time. nows a time to see if herr bay is premature, if its growing fine, if it has all its organs, and to see if ithas down symdrom or a blood disese. IT RIDICULOUS. shes endangering the baby for some idea she has about her mom notknowing. OK. im 16 and 4 mothns preg. i am doing EVERYTHING I CAN. yes i didnt want to tell my mom! but i did b.c I KNEW the baby WAS MORE IMPORTNAT!! and YES the BABY IS more importnat THAN YOUR FIRIEND RIGHT NOW. and who knows if she doesnt take care of tht baby she has a chance of loosing her life! durring ******* labor. People need to think abou what is ore importnat than what other people think. She needs to GROW UP AND MATURE b4 she even give birth to this child. and since your her friend U need to tell her tis so she will listen. Im not being mean. these r just my belifs and stuff i have lived through.
2007-05-24 19:08:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she should've kept her legs together. So, the dad is all about being a part of it, but she doesn't want that? I feel very sorry for him.
How old are the two of them? Is she scared because she is a minor? If so, she should tell her mom, so a decision can be made. If not, she should do what she wants, and the father should have his say.
If she didn't want a baby before, she could've bought a condom. If she doesn't want a baby now, she should've bought a condom.
Bottom line is...her mom will eventually know that her daughter puts out. Why hide it any longer than is necessary?
As for the father...he might have legal rights, but it depends no how old they each are.
2007-05-24 19:00:38 · answer #2 · answered by mrtnlu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i don't believe he does have any legal options. But continue to support her in anyway you can. She needs it. What are her plans once the baby is born? I'm scared more for this innocent child than anything else. If she hides the birth as well that will be very dangerous for both her and child. And please tell her if she does sneak the birth not to just throw it away. Make her bring it to a safe place like a hospital, church, or even if she sees an ambulance idle give it to EMS or police. it's anonymous and no questions are asked. Leaving it anywhere else will guarantee jail time and I'm talking years. Please encourage her to talk to mom. She'd be surprised at how it turns out. You never know unless you try. I didn't know how to tell my mom. i waited till i was 4 months along. So i wrote a letter of what i would say to her and then i just mailed it and i stayed at a friends house for a few days. She called when she got it. Of course she was disappointed but she let me know she's there for me. And I was mortified of this lady (she used to kick my *ss alot!). 6yrs later and my mom is still there, my daughters even call her mom cause she's so involved.
2007-05-24 19:21:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not breaking the law. She is though putting her life and the baby's in danger, not to mention the baby could have a birth defect and she wouldn't know about it. I don't see how she can be that selfish. The father won't have rights until the baby is born, and it isn't looking good for her case now the way she's treating the baby.
2007-05-24 19:01:55 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has no rights until the baby is born. What is she going to do when she goes into labor? I hope not deliver in the bathtub or anything! She is really putting herself and the baby in jeapordy. Prenatal care is really important for her and the baby. She really needs to talk to her mom. She only has like 8-10 weeks left! I mean now its really late and what can her mom say? She'll probably be more upset because she keept it from her for so long. She needs to grow up a little and think about the baby.
2007-05-24 18:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
The only leg the father has to stand on is A)prove the child is his B) then proceed to court and ask for custody as she didn't care for the baby while pregnant so what will she do to the baby when it's outside her womb...
She can't hide from her mum forever like Hello when she gives birth whats she going to say "found the kid down the park as I was passing by"?
I sugest that the father speak with a lawyer now and maybe as soona s the baby is born the baby will be taken from her!
If there is any chance she has been doing drugs throughout her pregnancy then maybe he can get the baby drug tested when s/he born.
Goodluck!
Cassie xxx
2007-05-24 18:53:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. She has no legal obligation to see a doctor. People have babies without a doctor all the time. A lot of people do not believe in medical intervention in the birth of their baby. Her chances as well as her baby's chances of dying are significantly increased. Why is she so scared of her mom? If her mom doesn't accept her, then she's not worth pleasing. Tell her "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." - Dr. Seuss.
And the father can see the baby, and may even be able to sue for custody and win based on her refusal to accept treatment for the baby due to selfishness and inability to behave responsibly and have accountability for her decisions.
2007-05-24 18:51:19 · answer #7 · answered by Mickey Mouse Spears 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is not illegal that I know of. My daughter saw a doctor once because she had no medical insurance.
He may have legal options being this late in pregnancy. I would suggest he starts now in playing a role in the baby's life and seeking legal help as these things can drag on forever in the court systems
2007-05-24 18:53:20 · answer #8 · answered by sandycurry@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres no law against prenatal care, however, it is very dangerous not to have check ups at least once and a while for prenatal vitamins, and to be sure the baby is healthy. Her mom will find out either way, she's better off being sure the baby will make it out alive.
2007-05-24 18:51:46 · answer #9 · answered by magixinthemakeup 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, there is no laws saying she needs prenatal care. However it is dangerous for her and her baby to NOT get care. The father wouldn't have rights while she's pregnant. After the baby is born he could try for some type of custody though.
2007-05-24 18:51:03 · answer #10 · answered by ~*Isabel*~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋